Topic: How does everyone feel about sex without commitment? I perso
Kenyattacade's photo
Sat 04/22/17 08:08 PM
Is it wrong to want more than just companionship? I don't have a preference. I just hate being alone. Is that wrong? Does anybody else feel this alone?

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Sat 04/22/17 09:44 PM
I think you are contradicting yourself.. sex without commitment, yet you want more than companionship..??
pick one or the other..
If you hate being alone..? that is what you have friends for..
One can have sex without a commitment... that is easy!
More than companionship? that takes work!
Good luck anyways..

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Sat 04/22/17 10:31 PM

I think you are contradicting yourself.. sex without commitment, yet you want more than companionship..??
pick one or the other..
If you hate being alone..? that is what you have friends for..
One can have sex without a commitment... that is easy!
More than companionship? that takes work!
Good luck anyways..

You really did a good one on it.....I agree with you

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Sun 04/23/17 12:39 AM
I agree with Rustykitty, you seem to be confused. If you're bored and looking for FWB/NSA to get you through, just say so.


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Sun 04/23/17 04:52 AM
Yes, a LOT of people feel that alone.

The problem with arranging to have the illusion of an end to loneliness by having casual sex with people who really don't care for you, is that sooner or later you see through the illusion, and you feel vastly worse for it.

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Sun 04/23/17 07:06 AM
How does everyone feel about sex without commitment?

I feel it leads to developing bad habits that interfere with seeking out, understanding, and ability to participate healthily in committed relationships in the long run.

Is it wrong to want more than just companionship?

Maybe.
Depends on what's really motivating it and what type of person you are, in the sense of what you do about your wants.

I don't have a preference. I just hate being alone. Is that wrong?

Not sure exactly how you mean this.
It could be read as "I don't care. I will have sex with anyone. Man, woman, cute, ugly, boy or old woman."
That's how STD's spread and single parenthood can happen.

If you have no preference, are motivated to simply use people for your own emotional short term bliss as a means of escaping a short term emotional problem, possibly by rationalizing the depth of meaning of pleasurable behavior, then yes, that's wrong.

It's not wrong to hate being alone.
That's pretty much built into your DNA.

Does anybody else feel this alone?

Lots of people do. We don't live in tribes/extended families anymore and your value is only to the degree other people or larger society can exploit to some degree.
That easily leads to feelings of estrangement.


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Sun 04/23/17 07:09 AM
Sex without a commitment, without getting emotionally involved can be difficult for a woman. A woman bonds with her sex partner through sex. Men don't. That's why men can easily go from one sex partner to the next without batting an eyelid.
I know some women can too, but to be honest I think they're not really well connected with their feminine energy (many aren't).

Not a judgement, it's logical:
This bonding of women through sex is caused by massive release of oxytocin and has a function. A woman needs to bond to her sex mate as she needs him to stick around to protect her and their offspring. When their offspring is still young, both woman and child are vulnerable.
If the woman wouldn't have this bonding mechanism, she wouldn't get the guy to stick around for protection, she might even abandon the baby. (breastfeeding also dumps oxytocin in her bloodstream so she doesn't abandon the baby).
So this bonding thing of women is a primal instinct based thing, in order to prevent the species from going instinct so to speak.
When you're in touch with your feminine energy, it will happen that way, even in this day and age. Nothing much you can do about it.

You can only try if it works for you.


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Wed 04/26/17 02:17 PM
How do I feel about sex without commitment? - it depends on how good the sex is! laugh laugh

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Wed 04/26/17 03:22 PM
sex without comment - like eating a cheeseburger without any cheese slaphead

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Wed 04/26/17 03:40 PM

sex without comment - like eating a cheeseburger without any cheese slaphead


Agree, is like a cheeseburger short of a happy meal. Here is a bit of conundrum do to the point that there is a bit of contradiction by the original post. Anyways lots is being said so far, what I can add is that I still have not met anyone that try friends with benefits and come out ahead. We need to be comfortable with one self before going out and achieve companionship. Be true to oneself, respect yourself so you can be respected by others.

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Wed 04/26/17 03:44 PM


sex without comment - like eating a cheeseburger without any cheese slaphead


Agree, is like a cheeseburger short of a happy meal. Here is a bit of conundrum do to the point that there is a bit of contradiction by the original post. Anyways lots is being said so far, what I can add is that I still have not met anyone that try friends with benefits and come out ahead. We need to be comfortable with one self before going out and achieve companionship. Be true to oneself, respect yourself so you can be respected by others.

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Wed 04/26/17 03:46 PM

Topic: How does everyone feel about sex without commitment?


It is not for me. Someone had frivolously told me "but at the end of day don't you just want a warm body with you in bed?" No, I'd rather be alone.

Good luck to you, Kenyattacade flowerforyou


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Wed 04/26/17 04:09 PM

Is it wrong to want more than just companionship? I don't have a preference. I just hate being alone. Is that wrong? Does anybody else feel this alone?


I am doing a study on this subject for John Hopkins University. And it would appear that you would be a interesting person to interview and evaluate. Because of my responsibilities at the University my days are full ( teaching) but the evaluation could happen over a 2 week period of time,..say 5 night a week for 2 weeks?

The research results would help generations to ***.. ehh I mean come.

Please contact me at your earliest convenience

Professor Greeneyes,

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Wed 04/26/17 04:43 PM
I do not believe in it. It's commitment or walk

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Thu 04/27/17 12:19 AM
agree

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Thu 05/18/17 09:39 PM

sex without comment - like eating a cheeseburger without any cheese slaphead

Sex without commitment I meanfrustrated I want my happy meal complete and eaten hot/fresh lol

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Thu 05/18/17 10:08 PM
It's all about commitment. No use in doing ANYTHING half-azzed!

Either you're going to shag or not. If you don't your back into it, it's no good for anyone!