I have been with this girl "friends" only! well we met last year about this time and we kinda got to know each other. Its a long story so I spare you details.
Well the friendship has been open she have dated other guy but silly me have been waiting on the sideline, I think i have told her what i feel but she shrugs it of.My dilema is the friedship is not going anywhere shes not affectionate to me unlike to her other guy friends they get a hug as for me I get the wave goodnight :(........I like her I want to keep her as a friend forever"if thats possible" but it makes it hard when she doesnt give the favor back. Its hard to say goodbye to her after all what we did this past year. As much as I want to let her go I just cant.Am I stupid for being there for her? Or should I just walk?
Just asking you gals out there what should I do.

have you told her how you feel? have you told her how much you value your friendship with her? these things are good to hear once in a while!

Try giving her the COLD SHOULDER if you want her to notice you. Make her miss you. If she cares, she'll come after you; if she doesn't, you're rid of her and maintain your self-respect.

Well, I think the problem is that you still hope for something more than friendship when it seems that's all she is interested in. Maybe she knows how you feel and she doesn't want to lead you on so she isn't as affectionate with you. You have to ask yourself if you can handle being "just friends" while watching her date other guys. If you can't handle it, it's probably best for you to walk away and move on.... give yourself a chance to get over her and meet someone new. Just my thoughts... hope it helps :-)

doesnt sound like she is attracted to you that way.......and ya make her miss you........

Time to man up and be honest with yourself and her. Notice the being honest with yourself part.


Decide:

Be a friend with no expectations.

Or

Move on and find someone that will love you back.


You, like a lot of guys that find themselves in the same situation, are just making a prison for yourself by saying you want to be friends AND you want to be more than a friend.

Like lily says - give her the cold shoulder. That may be the best thing for yourself and her... and it leaves a small chance she'll see what she's missing.

yeah i was the same way with a girl in highschool, we did alot of stuff togetehr but i just let go and moved on with my life

ladies can sense when you like them because you pay attention to them. Give her the cold shoulder and also say, "What?" alot. Just giving her the cold shoulder isn't enough. If you do that she'll feel ignored. That can lead to bad feelings.

thanks for the insight, I guess it will never be like that. Im just being hopeless i guess.time to move on.

glad i found this site, good people and fast replys..

Hey you never know what tomorrow might bring with her. Time and distance can change people's feelings.

But take care of yourself and respect yourself. You deserve someone that will love you back like you love them. Put your time and energy into finding that one person and don't get stuck on someone that doesn't return your feelings.

There's very few feelings as bad as loving someone that doesn't love you back the same. Don't do that to yourself.

SORRY TO SAY iT, BUT SHE iS NOT FEELiN YOU..
i HAVE BEEN iN THiS SiTUATiON AND THE MAN TOLD ME HE LOVED ME, BUT i JUST COULDN'T BE WiTH HiM.. AND i MADE THAT CLEAR. HE DiD STOP TALKiNG TO ME AND THE LAST i HEARD HE iS GETTiNG MARRiED. i COULDNT BE SELFiSH THOUGH, AND REQUEST HiM TO CONTiNUE BEiNG MY FRiEND WHEN HE WAS CRAZY ABOUT ME AND i JUST DiDN'T FEEL THE SAME WAY. i AM HAPPY FOR HiM THOUGH..

I'm in this situation right now. I like the friend, he could care less. Me, single... men... suck

That's the right idea.
She ain't attracted to you, mr2030! So...why not attract her instead of continuing to play the friend card?
Maybe you just don't know what subtle things that women emotionally respond to with attraction...
You have 2 options:
1. Give up and realize that she's not currently attracted to you in that way. (this is what most women will tell you to do because people in general like to keep power for themselves)
OR
2. Take power and control over your own love life and attract her by demonstrating alpha male attributes, and build sexual tension between the two of you.

Best of luck,
-LSS