I think women can be just as sexually excited as men but a woman's excitement is impacted by a lot more factors.

Factors Impacting A Woman's Excitement

Fatigue
Sickness
Stress
Perceived neglect outside of the bedroom
Her menstrual cycle/menopause
Declining feelings for her mate
Poor body image
Lack of personal life purpose/fulfilment


Factors Impacting A Man's Excitement

Impotence
Death

Getting excited like, getting the text downing their beer and paying their tab; then running home, excited guys. If you were to do a study with 100 guys and 100 girl more guys would get more excited, to get to the sex.
However out of each and everyone of those males and females, if you were to attach sensors to there brain, lungs, heart, etc, individual females ( At least to my understanding ) may actually show more signs.
Honestly however this is just the excitement or anticipation of the event.once things begin guys are going to feel more relieved and relaxed once things begin because they got there in time and name one times blow job didn't relax you, guys.
Now there is the fact that for a male to achieve an orgasm stimulation is fairly simple and almost every male can very easily.so if your now talking about excitement once things begin I'm saying females. There's a lot of females that have a hard time achieving an orgasm some rarely do. All sorts of reasons psychological biological, even just physiology. Not going to go deeper into that one otherwise after it I'm going to find the first narcissistic frat boy I see and... umm yeah.
Anyway because your question relates to forplay and male or female excitement, we get to the climax.🤤
The best way for females to achieve an orgasm is through a build up if you will, touching, kissing, fingers to cliterous, and fingers inside behind the clitours, and tongue. For the most part and I can't say it's true for every female but females are more driven to an emotional response so the whole process to achieve an orgasm is helped by forplay. There's still females out there that will never, thanks to some ******* that doesn't know what the word no means and other reasons.
Once it begins women get more excited. The idea may get things going depending on their mind set whether it's happened before and they know that whomever their going to open that door and find them on their knees is going to instantly bury their face in her crotch, it's happened before. Girls that have never done it, there's anticipation because her girl friend have been talking about it and she's never done it and she's heard about it she'll be excited. A girl that has certain hang ups about what's down stairs is going to hate the trip home, probably be shaking and anxiety before she opens the door, and probably is only doing it for their partner might even get to her pants are off then she, left the fauset on or something.

Anyways that's my two cents. In the end people are all individuals are far more complicated the more we look at each and everyone from what makes them tick to how there made, how they move and the way they play with others, etc, etc, etc.
Guys and girls if the whole example of kissing touching forplay is not something you've tried talk to her, I'm Assuming it's not foreign to girls I mean, you two have the same equipment. Everyone is different but females tend to respond more to the emotional sensual stimulation and the whole building up process.
Every is different can't say it enough, guys release a whole bunch of Nero chemicals when they orgasm like tryptophan, same stuff that makes Everyone fall asleep after a lot of turkey. So men tend to pass out after orgasm. Women tend to get more excited, so forplay get her excited get in there and get the water flowing. Then she how she responds to you and does things to you. The whole things better. Honestly do it right she may orgasm sever times doing things you never thought would set her off and normally doesn't.
Ps just to be an ******* when she starts squirming and thing are getting really wet and she's trying to pull away and starts saying stop, Don't. It's too much fun. I mean it can hurt don't be a complete *******. Then get her some water and practice breathing exercises.
Well good luck. I know know thing. So take what I've said as just some reply on a forum and think for your self and pay attention to your own experiences.

I would definitely be excited to hear my partner say that. The anticipation would have me salivating

i think both..
if they do love each other ..

men obviously would show a very visible sign and women can proudly think about it before admitting to being excited

Dude, how old are you?

Going by the grey hairs, ya ought to be old enough to know every body's different.

Ok.. just sitting here wondering..
Between the two Sexes who gets more excited about having sex..

Here's a scenario you say you're going to your girlfriend's she sends you a message saying she may go down on you as soon as you hit the door...
Now I'm wondering do women get just as excited... if they were to receive the same message from their lover.... babe I may have to go down on you as soon as you come in the door.... or do women need more romance foreplay....??...