love

I believe a strong relationship is built on love first. Emotional connection, trust, and respect create a foundation that makes intimacy meaningful. Sex is important too, but it works best when there’s genuine love and understanding between partners.

love

Love and desire know no limits — the more you have, the more your heart dares to want.

Sex is subtopic or separate topic then the love based on what you are ? and
what do you and your partner want ?
Let,s not to ask for preference of other and decide based on what do you want and how you are going to make to as best as possible for each other.

I can buy sex whenever I want, love has a much higher value. Buying a prostitute is not erotically interesting enough for me to be worth it, only if I could be her friend, and they can't of course be your friend. A sex-friend is on the contrary interesting, exciting and fun, so the woman must be a friend or the sex will not be exciting. The optimum is marriage with a soulmate partner, which means there will never be tensions, based on the harmony between your natural behaviours you were born with. This way you can be closer to each other without annoying each other, and closer means = more intense, more erotical, more potential, more excitement, as long as you don't stagnate. If you have natural tensions between each other you can not be as close while also staying happy in this place where you want to be erotically. I think a perfect solution for modern times, where you maybe not find your soulmate, is an affair, that maybe lasts a lifetime. It means you know you have tensions, and you will not marry, and because of that the relationship is much more about fun, and more about sex, because you don't force each other to be too close. It can be much better than trying to find the maximum of possible intensity. This happens also if two bi-sexual women who both want to marry men are dating, or if a young man and an older woman are dating. But it can work for any relationship, the hardest part is to communicate that you don't want to marry before the relationship, then you can highly profit from it, especially if you are roommates.

I agree with this thought, and they are true in life

Perhaps I am an anomaly, as a male.
From my 1st sexual experience on I always felt strangely hollow, empty, and even guilty after casual sex - even if the girl/woman was BEGGING for it (yes, that's happened more than a few times to me).
When I met my Catholic wife-to-be, sex was a long time a-comin' (won't detail why but it wasn't for lack of desire) - more than 2 years in fact, even though we were both so deeply in love it felt like we were 1 indivisible person.
When we FINALLY did the dirty deed, for the 1st time in my life after sex, I did NOT feel any of those negative things that came from casual sex.
Sex became my deepest expression of just how much I loved her.

For the last ten years of our marriage my wife was no longer up to the task.
Between the lengthy illnesses from various norovirus, flu, and assorted things transplant recipients are much more susceptible to, anti-rejection meds, blood pressure meds, pain killers narcotics, the osteoarthritis agony - she just wasn't up to it, even when I offered to do all of the work or not even have penetrative, just oral sex for her pleasure alone.
(I actually get a hella kick out of pleasuring a woman orally.)
So, essentially I'm a more than a decade (13 years) celibate virgin these days.
Which, with my own heart/BP meds is tolerable, if not a preferred state of being.

But this much I know; sex will NEVER, for me, be inseparable from love ever again.
So, the question really is rhetorical, there is no either/or - at least in my case.