During a relationship if each other goes into the daily thinking up what each other expects to hear each other say its already a no good unhealthy not mature type of relationship,built on the propaganda of hearing about the do and donts of having a relationship, Healthy relationships are only of sharing life and each others time during life happening here on earth after naturally noticing enjoying each other,after that,love of each other and respect naturally starts and does not stop happening thanks.

It is very bothersome how many singles don't even know the above info posted here on this site,

I find it interesting that so many people say pretty much the same thing over and over without reading what has recently been posted.

Only if they're thinking up and saying what the other wants/expects to hear as a means of burying their own feelings and avoiding conflict, creating a relationship persona or facade, sacrificing freedom of personality for the sake of perpetuating a relationship.

Over time all facades require more work and effort to maintain, lead to inconsistent communication, miscommunication, and conflict.

Or iow the cost of perpetuating the relationship increases without a reciprocal compensation. Risk increases while reward doesn't.


Just the act of "daily thinking up what each other expects to hear each other say" does not inherently mean it is a "no good unhealthy not mature type of relationship."


I would say that is only a healthy relationship if both people going into it are well aware and accepting that it will only be a short term relationship.

If the entire purpose of the relationship is just to "share" life, each others time, and enjoy each other, then the only purpose it has is emotional.

No different than a security blanket.
You naturally grow out of those.

So, short term relationships can be healthy if both people don't understand and respect that it's going to be a short term security blanket relationship whose only purpose is to fulfill emotional needs until that is fulfilled, fixed, or grown tolerant to.

If the relationship isn't also focused on more long term goals, adapting to long term purpose, then it's not going to be a healthy long term relationship.

Hi Justin,
You are looking for a relationship and never married, yet making yourself tge expert in a normal healthy relationship?
As for sating what your partner expects to hear. Absolutely, i expect to hear my partner tell me he loves me or show me that he cares. And i expect him to mean it.
Like i expect to let him and his son know what they mean to me.
I expect to hear what displeases him so we can work on it and i expect him to meet me halfway when things are rough.

In the sharing of life and each ither's time it's not all love and rose colored glasses.
There are days when you still love someone but you don't like them.
On thise days if an apology is merited by either or both parties, damn right i expect to hear one and I'm honest enough to admit i will fully apologize when I'm the one who screwed up.
So yes. There are things one expects to hear when there is sincerity in the intent.

I foegot to add that when you love somebody, what you say isn't always what they want to hear nor does it make that loved person like you gery much. But sometimes it's necessary. .
To give you an example, a fourtenn year old whom i dearly love took a fastball to the face and got a concussion which put her out of the game for several weeks.
On her first day back in the game she did the pregame warm up half heartedly.
When it was time to start the game she had tears in her eyes because she was afraid to play.
I told her to take deep breaths and start walking to her team. She looked at her step dad to see if he woukd help her out. He felt bad and told her at least talk to tge coach.
I told her breathe. Suck it up and get yourself on the field.
After the game i took her out for hit chocolate.
Sge told me, you know i didn't like you very much when i got on the field.
I told her i know. But had i let you go home you would still be doubting yourself.

The same applies in a relationship. Sometimes you have to have the tough discussions as well.