Thank you. A very thoughtful answer.

Why do women cheat?
Forvthe same teasons sone men cheat..

Men and women are equal. What a man can do , a woman can do also. And for every actions there is always a stimulus. Everything has a cause or reason and for every individual it varies depending on what situations they are dealing with in life. But I believe that if you love someone, you will never do a thing that would jeopardize/ruin your relationship. If you are in an unfavorable situation, you may have a choice to leave or stay. Well for some people they are trapped in a difficult circumstance that they can't easily get away from. But still, it does not give us the right to cheat somebody . Some have valid reasons, others have selfish or ulterior motives... However, our actions all boils down to one's values, morals or principles in life, to do what is right or not.... To cheat or not....To be faithful or not .... Liars and cheaters go to hell the devil says

It could be in retaliation or in spite out of something the guy had done, but whatever the cause or reason for cheating, the love has gone and the relationship is over in my opinion, because you don't cheat on someone you love.

I was going to say that women cheat for the same reasons that men do - because some need isn't being met - but I think that your response is excellent - the problem with a lot of relationships seems to be communication - if you aren't able to communicate to your partner that your needs aren't being met or they don't listen to what you are saying, you are more likely to cheat - though personally I don't get it - it seems to me it's a lot easier to leave a relationship than cheat - a lot less messier too.

There's a big difference between why people cheat, and why people SAY that they cheated.

The only difference I've noted between males and females, and it has NOT been consistent, only very broadly, is that females (until it became fashionable recently) have been less likely to excuse their corrupt behavior on pure ego than males.

But all of the excuses, male and female alike, have been cover stories, not the real reasons. And they have all followed the local fashion.

That's the way that excuses ALWAYS go. From the time they are small children, people always give whatever excuse or cover story that they've heard, that they think is most likely to let them off the hook, in the eyes of whoever they most admire or desire approval from.

Op I would say in my case ... becouse they hurt me first and ...
cheated on me ... I have said this is not a good way to go about things ... but chance after chance they cheated ... so before my child ...
that was how I thought ... and just mainly put all my effort in to my child once I had her ... I did not care so much about my x so much any more ... mainly becouse they did not care... that they hurt me ...

Same reason everyone else cheats.
1. Sex is pleasurable.
2. Sex is socially/emotionally validating.
3. Sex leads to babies.

People will always find ways to do what makes them feel good and come up with reasons to justify it.

People will always find ways to stroke their ego and find purpose in a group, and come up with reasons to justify the validating behavior.

People are always on the lookout for the best possible mate to produce the best possible babies, at least after puberty.

Love does not turn off lust. Lust is a biological response to mate.
Love helps you associate emotionally with a partner, so when your lust desire is triggered, memories, thoughts, and ideas of your partner are automatically triggered too, representing the most immediate, least risk, highest reward focus.

Women have the prime defense against lust. If they are focused on something and their body is triggered for sex through natural attraction, their brain doesn't immediately respond to the hormones that naturally prepare her body for sex. You have to align her immediate focus onto sex as well, which (mostly subconsciously) gives permission to allow the hormones to affect her brain. If you try too hard, you align their body with their brain instead, cancelling the preparations for sex and increasing focus on something else.

Men have a secondary defense against lust. When a guys body is triggered by attraction for sex, the hormones immediately influence his brain so body and brain align focused on sex. The focus is easily shifted to "better" alternatives. There's a reason paraphilia's are far more common among men than women.

women cheat to get back at their husbands who cheated first? letting them feel how it is so painful to be cheated on and disrespected? if men do it they have an excuse like adam was tempted by a snake but for women well what excuse can we give but blame the snake ?

i mean the snake man lol

The reason why the motives for cheating are so similar amongst men and women Rooster, is because the common precipitating factor for most affairs is dissatisfaction with a mate due to unfulfilled needs. (Notice I said a precipitating factor because there is no justifiable reason for cheating)

But just as many men have justified their affairs for years on the basis that their women were NOT meeting their needs, more and more women have taken up affairs on the basis that THEIR needs are also NOT being met by their men.

And here is a shocking fact that no man wants to hear.

Billions of women all over the world have been dissatisfied with their men for YEARS, but it was at a time where affairs were not considered a viable option for getting one's needs met , if you were a woman.

The only thing that has changed between then and now, is that many women are no longer turning a blind eye to their mates inadequacies, and are now seeking to get those needs met elsewhere in the same way men have been doing and boasting about for centuries.

Many women have been just as turned off with their mate's premature ejaculations , predictable bedroom techniques, and self centred love making, as some men are with their mates' limited "porno "skills
Many women have been just as turned off by the premature balding , jiggly man boobs and beer guts ,as some of the men have been repulsed by the women's sagging breasts, wrinkles and weight gain.
Many women are just as fed up with some of their men being messy unhelpful slobs at home, as some men are discontented with their women's cleaning and cooking abilities.
Many women are just as frustrated with their mate's inability to
stimulate them mentally and emotionally, as some of the men are frustrated with their mates who fail to excite them sexually.
Many women are just as uninspired with some men's lack of initiative in the home as some men are with some of the females lack of initiative in the bedroom.

This scathing list can go on and on but my basic point is that men are not the only ones with unfulfilled needs and dissatifaction. Men are not the only victims of their mates inadequacies as some men depict themselves to be.

Many women have been "victims" of their mate's inadequacies for years.

The only difference, as I said .between times past ánd now , is that some females are now using cheating as a viable option to compensate for their mate's shortcomings in the same way men have been doing for years.

Is it right?

Hell no!

Its just as disgusting as when the men were doing it.

But unfulfilled needs is the reason alot of women use to justify their crap, just as many men have done.

Ps: And I should add that there are both men and women out there, who are just never satisfied with the wonderful mate they have , which could be yet another precipitating factor that leads to cheating.

Greedy people always need MORE.

Any person male or female thinking of staying should read this post!
Never thought it would be so complicated so best think again

youre welcome

I strongly believe that women cheat men only because of the attitude, behavior and character of her man. it applies for both genders. It can be said that we I mean both genders want a comfort zone whenever we are out we try to find it in other forms

Court Adjourned

Exactly...and if it is not out of revenge, some do it to satisfy their worldly desires and pleasures which they couldn't get from their mate or are shy to talk about it with their mate, BUT whatever maybe the cause or reason, one just couldn't cheat on someone you truly love coz just the thought of hurting him or her by cheating would be enough to back yourself down.

Men cheat-if they get the chance,

Women cheat-because they want to,

So a Woman who want's to cheat,will do so, therefore the chancer Male is quite likely to meet the wanting Woman,

The debate about Morals etc,etc, can go on for ever, all it boils down to, is two consenting Adults getting it on, as for the Why in all this, I don't think any of us has the Definitive answer,

Just a comment, or have I missed the point again, HE.