Topic: from friend to lover
rhen0530's photo
Tue 07/04/17 09:00 PM
Well I have a friend from the past and we tried to be in a relationship those days but it just not work out so we promised to each other that someday somehow we will be together no matter what. Now she has a Boyfriend and Im single now, then we've been close to each other again and we actually have a hidden relationship but still I know im just his 2nd, I know she love me coz if not, she will not do it to her bf, do i have to stop it? or not? do i still have to wait for our promise? any suggestions?

dreamerana's photo
Tue 07/04/17 10:48 PM
If she wanted to be with you, you wouldn't be asking this.

Rooster35's photo
Tue 07/04/17 11:02 PM
Well I have a friend from the past and we tried to be in a relationship those days but it just not work out so we promised to each other that someday somehow we will be together no matter what. Now she has a Boyfriend and Im single now, then we've been close to each other again and we actually have a hidden relationship but still I know im just his 2nd, I know she love me coz if not, she will not do it to her bf, do i have to stop it? or not? do i still have to wait for our promise? any suggestions?

She doesn't love you, sorry to say.
What she's doing is having her cake and eat it too, just like 90% of women out there.
She's merely keeping you around as a fifth wheel, another sucker who'll fork over money or attention when the main guy doesn't. She's using you as emotional tampon and keeping you interested just enough so she can have her little life's comforts without working working too working too much working too much for it.
My question to you is: How long are you going to let yourself be played before you realise you're the sucker?

rhen0530's photo
Tue 07/04/17 11:49 PM
If she wanted to be with you, you wouldn't be asking this.


well she told me that she wanted to leave that guy but she cant find any reason to leave that since that guy help her when she's down. they're live-in now. Well I'm so confused for what I am doing.

rhen0530's photo
Tue 07/04/17 11:54 PM
Well I have a friend from the past and we tried to be in a relationship those days but it just not work out so we promised to each other that someday somehow we will be together no matter what. Now she has a Boyfriend and Im single now, then we've been close to each other again and we actually have a hidden relationship but still I know im just his 2nd, I know she love me coz if not, she will not do it to her bf, do i have to stop it? or not? do i still have to wait for our promise? any suggestions?

She doesn't love you, sorry to say.
What she's doing is having her cake and eat it too, just like 90% of women out there.
She's merely keeping you around as a fifth wheel, another sucker who'll fork over money or attention when the main guy doesn't. She's using you as emotional tampon and keeping you interested just enough so she can have her little life's comforts without working working too working too much working too much for it.
My question to you is: How long are you going to let yourself be played before you realise you're the sucker?


actually she don't ask any even money. what she always ask to me is to wait until the right time for us.

dreamerana's photo
Tue 07/04/17 11:54 PM

If she wanted to be with you, you wouldn't be asking this.


well she told me that she wanted to leave that guy but she cant find any reason to leave that since that guy help her when she's down. they're live-in now. Well I'm so confused for what I am doing.

Sounds like what Rooster said is right. She's using him and you.

Rooster35's photo
Wed 07/05/17 12:53 AM
Well I have a friend from the past and we tried to be in a relationship those days but it just not work out so we promised to each other that someday somehow we will be together no matter what. Now she has a Boyfriend and Im single now, then we've been close to each other again and we actually have a hidden relationship but still I know im just his 2nd, I know she love me coz if not, she will not do it to her bf, do i have to stop it? or not? do i still have to wait for our promise? any suggestions?

She doesn't love you, sorry to say.
What she's doing is having her cake and eat it too, just like 90% of women out there.
She's merely keeping you around as a fifth wheel, another sucker who'll fork over money or attention when the main guy doesn't. She's using you as emotional tampon and keeping you interested just enough so she can have her little life's comforts without working working too working too much working too much for it.
My question to you is: How long are you going to let yourself be played before you realise you're the sucker?


actually she don't ask any even money. what she always ask to me is to wait until the right time for us.

Right... she's an angel come specially for you... And I suppose that "right time" will be when she's 'ready ' .
Meanwhile every day is the right time for her and the OTHER guy. ha ha
Say, I got a bridge in the Sahara you could buy.

dreamerana's photo
Wed 07/05/17 01:00 AM

Well I have a friend from the past and we tried to be in a relationship those days but it just not work out so we promised to each other that someday somehow we will be together no matter what. Now she has a Boyfriend and Im single now, then we've been close to each other again and we actually have a hidden relationship but still I know im just his 2nd, I know she love me coz if not, she will not do it to her bf, do i have to stop it? or not? do i still have to wait for our promise? any suggestions?

She doesn't love you, sorry to say.
What she's doing is having her cake and eat it too, just like 90% of women out there.
She's merely keeping you around as a fifth wheel, another sucker who'll fork over money or attention when the main guy doesn't. She's using you as emotional tampon and keeping you interested just enough so she can have her little life's comforts without working working too working too much working too much for it.
My question to you is: How long are you going to let yourself be played before you realise you're the sucker?


actually she don't ask any even money. what she always ask to me is to wait until the right time for us.

Right... she's an angel come specially for you... And I suppose that "right time" will be when she's 'ready ' .
Meanwhile every day is the right time for her and the OTHER guy. ha ha
Say, I got a bridge in the Sahara you could buy.

Does the bridge come with ocean front property?

peggy122's photo
Wed 07/05/17 04:20 AM
Edited by peggy122 on Wed 07/05/17 04:20 AM
This woman is unkind enough to cheat on her boyfriend who she admits has been good to her.

If she leaves her boyfriend , and gets with you, how can you trust that she wont cheat on you with another guy, like she cheated on her ex with you?

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Wed 07/05/17 04:28 AM
Something that a LOT of guys have to learn in their teen years, is that the fact that a girl complains about her boyfriend to them, actually means the exact opposite of what they hope it means.

Most of the time, when a woman complains to a GUY about another guy, it is because she sees the one she is complaining to, as being a brother kind of character. She will NOT complain to a guy who she has targeted as a potential mate. By being willing to sympathize with her and help her vent about the guy she's sleeping with all the time, you actually help her to STAY WITH HIM.

Rooster35's photo
Wed 07/05/17 04:29 AM

Well I have a friend from the past and we tried to be in a relationship those days but it just not work out so we promised to each other that someday somehow we will be together no matter what. Now she has a Boyfriend and Im single now, then we've been close to each other again and we actually have a hidden relationship but still I know im just his 2nd, I know she love me coz if not, she will not do it to her bf, do i have to stop it? or not? do i still have to wait for our promise? any suggestions?

She doesn't love you, sorry to say.
What she's doing is having her cake and eat it too, just like 90% of women out there.
She's merely keeping you around as a fifth wheel, another sucker who'll fork over money or attention when the main guy doesn't. She's using you as emotional tampon and keeping you interested just enough so she can have her little life's comforts without working working too working too much working too much for it.
My question to you is: How long are you going to let yourself be played before you realise you're the sucker?


actually she don't ask any even money. what she always ask to me is to wait until the right time for us.

Right... she's an angel come specially for you... And I suppose that "right time" will be when she's 'ready ' .
Meanwhile every day is the right time for her and the OTHER guy. ha ha
Say, I got a bridge in the Sahara you could buy.

Does the bridge come with ocean front property?

Yes, and a yacht.

Basha's photo
Wed 07/05/17 04:47 AM
Got no opinion...just wanted to say that you're one lucky guy~

Duttoneer's photo
Wed 07/05/17 07:46 AM

You need to find a new girlfriend in my opinion. Dating an ex-girlfriend is never a good idea, they are an ex-girlfriend for a reason, and getting back together seldom works out usually for the same reason if failed the first time.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

Twintidbits24's photo
Wed 07/05/17 08:07 AM


Well I have a friend from the past and we tried to be in a relationship those days but it just not work out so we promised to each other that someday somehow we will be together no matter what. Now she has a Boyfriend and Im single now, then we've been close to each other again and we actually have a hidden relationship but still I know im just his 2nd, I know she love me coz if not, she will not do it to her bf, do i have to stop it? or not? do i still have to wait for our promise? any suggestions?

She doesn't love you, sorry to say.
What she's doing is having her cake and eat it too, just like 90% of women out there.
She's merely keeping you around as a fifth wheel, another sucker who'll fork over money or attention when the main guy doesn't. She's using you as emotional tampon and keeping you interested just enough so she can have her little life's comforts without working working too working too much working too much for it.
My question to you is: How long are you going to let yourself be played before you realise you're the sucker?


actually she don't ask any even money. what she always ask to me is to wait until the right time for us.

Right... she's an angel come specially for you... And I suppose that "right time" will be when she's 'ready ' .
Meanwhile every day is the right time for her and the OTHER guy. ha ha
Say, I got a bridge in the Sahara you could buy.

Does the bridge come with ocean front property?

Yes, and a yacht.


Don't forget the camels, you could make use of them as sailors....lolzzzz

mysticalview21's photo
Wed 07/05/17 08:27 AM
I say if your comfortable with her cheating ... fine but u just have to know the emotional risk you are both taking ... and the out come will not be pretty if her BF finds out ... will she come back to you ...
becouse she has know other place to go ... only to find another and leave you again ... you need to work this out in the relationship with her ... with why the both of you did not get along...
in the first place ... Don't you think that would be the best thing to do ... if you and she really love each other ... then you both should have some kind of answer for your futures ...

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Wed 07/05/17 10:57 AM
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Wed 07/05/17 11:18 AM
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Wed 07/05/17 06:22 PM
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Wed 07/05/17 11:43 PM

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Wed 07/05/17 11:44 PM
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