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Topic: Becoming Undate'able...
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Thu 07/13/17 04:50 AM


I consider myself to be undateable bigsmile
Of course that is only cos I'm smitten with him, and intending to keep it that way!

From what I read, I agree with Peggy. You should always keep an eye out, and your heart open, but finding someone shouldn't be the focus of your life.
Have something going for yourself, make yourself happy, enjoy life. Then you are far more appealing, plus you'll never feel 'undateable' either because you are happy regardless.
Simply put, no one is eager to become the crutch for another's happiness, everyone is looking for a positive partner.


Agree on this, occupy yourself and keep it busy while doing the best you can to be happy in whatever situation you are in. Just Be Happy...No Matter What....Life Goes On.....
agree with this concept of living your life
getting involved in things you love and activiley pursuing them
working on you instead of spending all your time waiting for love to drop into your lap like a birthday present and then moping around when it doesn't

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Thu 07/13/17 06:32 AM


I'll just say don't give into thinking you're undateable! This is going to come as a shock...scared but I thought I was undateable. Then here lately, I've started to get my life somewhat like where I wanted to be 10 years ago. I've started gaining more confidence, and just trying to be more optimistic. Happy if you will, with enthusiasm instead of my typical ho hum blahness.
Anyways, things have been blossoming with conversations I've had with women lately. Even if we decided it wouldn't be a meet. But has given me new perspective on the whole, "who would date you Scoob?" thing to me.
bigsmile


oh scoob, that was wonderful! I'm happy for you kiddo flowerforyou


Im happy for you scooby! flowerforyou

Thanks Peggy, and MzRosie. flowerforyou waving It's taken me long enough to get to this point, but worth it. biggrin

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Thu 07/13/17 08:30 PM


I've been "Undate'able" my whole life and I've always found it to be more depressing then liberating. How ever, after I excepted it as a fact of my existence a lot of weight fell off my shoulders in the form of societal pressures to be involved in that way with other people. Unfortunately the down side is that I now lack the desire to continue life and the only thing that gets me out of bed anymore is the fact that I do not wish to be a physical/financial burden on anyone.


Run, don't walk to a good counselor. They can help. Good luck

I've had three of them and none of them could help.

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Fri 07/14/17 03:20 AM

I'll just say don't give into thinking you're undateable! This is going to come as a shock...scared but I thought I was undateable. Then here lately, I've started to get my life somewhat like where I wanted to be 10 years ago. I've started gaining more confidence, and just trying to be more optimistic. Happy if you will, with enthusiasm instead of my typical ho hum blahness.
Anyways, things have been blossoming with conversations I've had with women lately. Even if we decided it wouldn't be a meet. But has given me new perspective on the whole, "who would date you Scoob?" thing to me.
bigsmile

that is awesome scoob...glad you found inspiration :thumbsup:

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Fri 07/14/17 03:21 AM


What does being undateable mean max?

Does it mean you cant find anyone compatible that you would like to date ?

Not really...not even sure I can even explain it properly.
It may just be the next stage of life, or it might be the beginning of insanity...spock

maybe start by talking to doctor Max ? hes open topless tuesdays i heard winking

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Fri 07/14/17 03:40 AM



What does being undateable mean max?

Does it mean you cant find anyone compatible that you would like to date ?

Not really...not even sure I can even explain it properly.
It may just be the next stage of life, or it might be the beginning of insanity...spock

maybe start by talking to doctor Max ? hes open topless tuesdays i heard winking

Sessions are half price...or bring a friend for a deeper discount.shades

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Sat 07/22/17 02:54 PM
Un datable?

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Sat 07/22/17 07:08 PM
There are physical reasons (age/physical appearance) that can make a person "undateable"

There are socio-economic reasons as well (where they live, what they do for work/how much $$ they make, their religion, their culture/family etc).

There are people that are "undateable" if you define dating as meeting someone & going out somewhere & having a nice time. That doesn't mean they can't have relationships, but usually they are confined to electronic relationships over the internet via Facebook, FaceTime/Skype etc. not ones where there will be physical meeting of any kind.

Right now I'm "undateable" bc of my focus on work & apt. hunting...I'm not interested in doing much else until I have secured those goals...

Sometimes "undateable" is permanent & sometimes it is temporary

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