Dear OP: your profile is very straightforward & no-nonsense. "Millenial" males will not suit your dating needs as outlined in your profile though, especially on the financially stable requirements (not in this economy).

Younger men will have the physical attributes of fitness, like to travel & many of that generation don't smoke BUT: they may be living at home or sharing with roommates & trying to get out from student loan debt. They can't afford to "wow" females their own age, with only their bodies & no $$, bc they are competing with lots of other good looking healthy male bodies for those females. So, they are hoping their physical attractions will get them some sex with an attractive older woman for free, plan B if you will.

They want Netflix & chill...you want a long weekend in Aspen...see where the disconnect is?

They "ghost" after one date bc after having in person convo/meeting w/you they realize they can't b.s. you...them months later they text or phone you hoping you are receptive to just a hook-up...hoping you have been worn down by the online dating process & will take "breadcrumbs"...don't give up...their must be some fit & successful non-LDS men near your age in Utah...good luck in your search.

This is the stuff that completely blows my mind.

Internet dating is not Best!

I haven't checked into this site in quite awhile as I've ceased trying to date. Thank yoy, I find your analysis quite logical. I am quite picky I won't deny that and I like young men also. But I concider myself a quality catch. I'm very independent,outdoing, financially strong,fit,attractive. My feelings about this whole thing is because of technology men don't have to decide or choose a women they know these dating sites have thousands of candidates. Men no longer communicate face to face so a women cannot visually see cues to how a man might feel about her. Men,especially millennials are a very emotionally disconnected breed. Thank God my life is full otherwise I'm not letting dating rule my life. Although I do miss intimacy at times.

You are 45. That is a very difficult age group for a woman to find a partner, depending on what age you want them to be of course. But if you'd want a man in his 40s you're in trouble. They are either still involved, only recently out of relationship and not looking for commitment yet (they want to play the field), or they're looking for a younger woman. Oftentimes they still have young teenage kids, so you'd get a family with him too.

Your chances of finding a good partner will increase when you get a wee bit older so men in their early - mid 50s would be a match. Men seem to get their chit together again somewhere around 53-54. But when you're 45, that is too much of a gap (at least that how I felt when I was 46 and single).

As for a younger man, might be too much of a gap in experience and interests. Woman are wiser and more mature than a man her own age -regardless what age you talk about-, so there will be more of a gap with a younger man.
Sex will be good though since they're still fully functional. Men over 40 seem to get problems in that area. It will still rise, but the steel's gone out of it. There may be exceptions, but these are far and few between. Highly annoying cos a woman in her 40s-50s is at her sexual peak.

Anyhow, just have fun and enjoy your life!

Many men play on websites!