Ive heard lots of women and men say that they want a serious relationship with no mind games.Can anyone give examples of mind games people play in the dating arena?I am asking because I wonder if others have a different perception of mind games than I do

The silent treatment

chicks always play mind games. the silent treatment, flirting with other guys, having tantrums over trivial things, saying don't call me then getting pissed off when you don't call, breaking up with you then getting pissy when you see other people, not saying what they want and and getting mad at the guy, etc.

Oh yeah! I hadnt thought sbout that one joe.

Like I said before, some of these examples are such common relationship practices that I hadnt thought of them are mindgames.

However I do think there are a few isolated cases when the silent treatment is a result of the person being so livid that they choose silence over saying something offensive .

But that falls under isolated cases I think. Most silent treatment cases can be classified as a mindgame

Yes, and childish, if you ask me.

Peggy ... I don't play games ... just in the game forums ...

I am to old for that cr*p ... I am pretty honest in my messages and profile ... and I have pretty much figured out the red flags ... and I don't play those games ... but have not had to block anyone that I can remember ... with the truth ...they just don't message anymore nor do I ...

the commercials are funny ...
https://youtu.be/IYd2fnWGK_0

I agree its childish and I am guilty of having praticed it myself usually after I requested a change from a mate several times and I got tired of asking. So maybe I should seek your advice joe. What should a person do if they 've brought up an isdue with a partner several times but nothing changes?

Its only when you see the long list of mindgames listed here that you realise you might be guilty of one or two yourself mystical and I dont mean you but most of us.

But I also think Im too old yo practice or tolerate alot of those behaviors . Surely there is a more effective way of navigating thr dating scene as we get older

I wasnt able to open ip thr link you sent though. Its not available in my country

I think it is important to note that romantic relationships are not the only place we are faced with mind games.

Family (squabbles, quarrels & feuds)
Work places (office politics, peer grouping)
Events (group forming, group mindsets)

Basically, any place we interact with other people there are mind games. The motives behind them might be different but the games still exist.

I believe there are very few people that operate on the level, at most times, in most situations.

Mind games are not restricted to verbal communication.
Action and inaction can also be used as a game tool.

Strategy of causing someone to form an opinion about someone else that coincides with your motive.

Strategy to cause another person to act by causing or withholding some deed.

Deception and delusion is deeply rooted in societies.
Can you even imagine living in a world where manipulation doesn't exist, at all?

You dress in those clothes because they are in fashion.
You buy that product because people say it is the best.
You go do things because others say its great.
You vote that way because others convince you.

Anytime we do something contrary to our basic will we are being mind gamed by someone/something else.

I believe this is why there are so many people that are unhappy and stressed out.
They are being played to be something they are not and the conflict is hidden by overload.

Not now a days Tom ... when younger I may have thought like this and
I have my ideas of somethings and hard to make me change my mind ... I am not one to manipulate another ... least I don't feel I do that ... for instant sure you recommend a nice restaurants I may try it I do believe you can even recommend a movie but until you see it your self can only form a opinion ... but if I do not believe in what you do ... I don't not like you just think I am not changing my mind ... and you have your own opinion ... I am a activist and believe in what I believe... not becouse its the in thing to do ... I will not shoot down someone else great idea ... if thats what they believe ... and if thats what I like also ... its good ... or I just leave them to believe what they want ... I have learned so much about politics in the last few yrs ... and from what I was told ... so that is different with me now ...I could go on but sure when younger did not know what I know now ... I am sure I played the game ... sometimes thats what we learn ... till we learn to know better :>)

Communication is key.
I think if people understand how much of an issue it is to their partner they will make an effort to change.

Have you ever known one of those people in work who criticise everyone else.

‘Oh he’s stupid, I asked him to do this and he’s done it wrong’
Twice I’ve asked her to do this task and it’s still not done’
‘I’ve been waiting 3 days for an answer, and they still haven’t sent it’

You’ve heard things like this, or very similar.
This is a lack of communication, if the person who was given the task knew just how important that task was, you can bet they’d have prioritised it to the top of their list.

I think it’s similar in relationships, if something is really getting you down, how can the other person make an effort to change when they have no idea how much it’s hurting the relationship.

mystical, I understand there are exceptions to the norm. Some of us have wisdom and can 'see' what most don't.
What is scary is that some mind gamers are master manipulators.

Peg... I am saying to old now ... but I am guilty when younger or in relationships ... not sure if we have to get hurt so many times but believe we all start with this ... least most ...

I think it is important to note that romantic relationships are not the only place we are faced with mind games.

Family (squabbles, quarrels & feuds)
Work places (office politics, peer grouping)
Events (group forming, group mindsets)

Basically, any place we interact with other people there are mind games. The motives behind them might be different but the games still exist.

I believe there are very few people that operate on the level, at most times, in most situations.

Mind games are not restricted to verbal communication.
Action and inaction can also be used as a game tool.

Strategy of causing someone to form an opinion about someone else that coincides with your motive.

Strategy to cause another person to act by causing or withholding some deed.

Deception and delusion is deeply rooted in societies.
Can you even imagine living in a world where manipulation doesn't exist, at all?

You dress in those clothes because they are in fashion.
You buy that product because people say it is the best.
You go do things because others say its great.
You vote that way because others convince you.

Anytime we do something contrary to our basic will we are being mind gamed by someone/something else.

I believe this is why there are so many people that are unhappy and stressed out.
They are being played to be something they are not and the conflict is hidden by overload.

I think it is important to note that romantic relationships are not the only place we are faced with mind games.

Family (squabbles, quarrels & feuds)
Work places (office politics, peer grouping)
Events (group forming, group mindsets)

Basically, any place we interact with other people there are mind games. The motives behind them might be different but the games still exist.

I believe there are very few people that operate on the level, at most times, in most situations.

Mind games are not restricted to verbal communication.
Action and inaction can also be used as a game tool.

Strategy of causing someone to form an opinion about someone else that coincides with your motive.

Strategy to cause another person to act by causing or withholding some deed.

Deception and delusion is deeply rooted in societies.
Can you even imagine living in a world where manipulation doesn't exist, at all?

You dress in those clothes because they are in fashion.
You buy that product because people say it is the best.
You go do things because others say its great.
You vote that way because others convince you.

Anytime we do something contrary to our basic will we are being mind gamed by someone/something else.

I believe this is why there are so many people that are unhappy and stressed out.
They are being played to be something they are not and the conflict is hidden by overload.

Hi Peggy


I always thought of mind games to be someone leading their partner to believe something when the opposite is true.

Mind gamers suck!