It's human nature to bend towards selfish behaviour,if someone is not selfish towards you and cares for you more then himself/herself is love according to me and which is hard to see sometimes

I think you have it round the wrong way... just my opinion.

yes..i got your point..may be wrong but tht was my perpective though

something you can't shortcut understanding or identifying of on a bumper sticker making your life easier.


There's no guarantee that's any kind of "love."

Lots of people can act unselfish simply because of how you respond to it.
Look up social reciprocity and especially "law of reciprocity."
Purely selfish reasons can motivate altruistic behavior (that's where capitalism comes from).

People can be motivated by selfish reasons without realizing it, consciously focusing on the altruistic behavior and not really looking any deeper.

Point being, just because someone acts unselfishly or acts in a way that seems from your perspective they care for you more than themselves, there is no guarantee it is motivated by feelings of "love."

It can just as easily be they either hope for a certain reciprocal response from you, or know that you overcompensate in your reciprocal response and they value what they'll get from you more than the cost of their behavior.

A lot of people tend to realize this on some level.
So many people when faced with someone being unselfish and caring can withdraw, or act aloof, in direct response. It's a means of "testing" the earnestness or honesty of the behavior.
This can be a learned defense mechanism. They may love the other person, but have just learned to act that way in the face of "love" communication as a means to figure out if it's BS or not.

Many other people try to give equivalent exchange, while not valuing what they're reciprocating, motivated by wanting to avoid "owing" someone.

Of course that can engender another type of response, loving, or motivated by something else.

And that can go back and forth, then you may get into "games."


Not to mention, love doesn't guarantee unselfish and caring behavior in all things. A person can love you, but in a particular situation may be highly selfish, or may come across as uncaring.
"Love" doesn't magically transform people into an absolutely new and different person, angelic. Although being in "love" can easily influence your perception of them so you don't see where they're selfish and uncaring, coming up with reasons to rationalize that away.



There are no guarantees, there are no shortcuts you can work out before a relationship, which make things easy for you to figure out the other person. No universally applicable guidelines that guarantee knowledge of any particular (relatively normal, non sociopathic antisocial or severely brain damaged) individual.

Sorry. In order to figure out if someone loves you, you have to directly interact with them face to face, pay attention, think, make yourself vulnerable, learn to communicate, and figure it out in the context of the interaction.


Other than that, you have a successful "love" relationship if you get a girl pregnant, have a kid, stick around long enough to train the kid to feed itself and avoid lions, and that kid survives long enough to have their own kid.

Everything else is arbitrary and your choice on whether or not it's "successful." There's "love" if you want to convince yourself there is. But it's mostly in your head because you want to see it, the relationship fulfills some selfish purpose for you.

Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me
No more

I was singing that too! *laughing*

"Every time" this title comes up...earworm. *tongue*

“Love is blind”

This is quite a good age old quote,
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

That's why Stevie Wonder called to say what he said.

Yes Lu,love is blind to human frailties. The one we truely love we forgive when they err. And always seek their good.
The most beautiful thing in the world is love.
Sadly, what most term love is not love.

yes

Yes Lu,love is blind to human frailties. The one we truely love we forgive when they err. And always seek their good.
The most beautiful thing in the world is love.
Sadly, what most term love is not love-having sexing does not equate showing love. Love is patient,not proud,selfless,does not look down on others etc
Love is a university that we dont graduate from.

Yes Lu,love is blind to human frailties. The one we truely love we forgive when they err. And always seek their good.
The most beautiful thing in the world is love.
Sadly, what most term love is not love-having sex does not equate showing love. Love is patient,not proud,selfless,does not look down on others etc
Love is a university that we dont graduate from.

but in today's world i feel like this things have become imaginary,people falling in love mostly considering moneytary status,how beautiful he is she is ..criteria and standards have been set for love..

Awww

In the case of Stevie I guess ..love is blind.. ..sorry stevie couldn't resist..it was too easy..