Many older people do date and or activitly involved in heathy relationships. Not all just set behind a computer and talk to unknowns. I you?

Well, I use a phone... wouldn't be here if I was in a relationship, which I'm not sure will develop from here or not, I feel I know some of you, some I do, I don't date, because there's no one close that's real, or wants to for probably obvious reasons, and I'm slowly lessening my time on here.

Wait, what was the question?

many are in relationships online and not looking for a date or relationship. I met men in person from online. In person is a date!!! Not talking on internet.

I've met many on the net, found my last wife on the net. Found my best friend on the net and had a date...

That's great and encouraging for those who haven't been successful yet and or still searching.

Net dating in a way is similar to the old ballroom scene, those that spent all night looking never got a dance!
Understandably, the situation can be frightening to some, to even approach the person, let alone ask.
It does take courage to initiate your first contact, after that it only gets easier.
But the net provides clues to the person within their profile, so that is a basis to ask a question on in your first contact and break the ice. BUT note that perhaps most of the profiles can and may be either untrue or even fake altogether.
I too have met a few on the net, and the only secret to it is approach and make contact, if you continue to just look, it may be a long time for someone to come approach you!
Good luck Hunting!

You can't get anywhere being shy on-line.