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| Topic: Do you sometimes regret dumping someone ? | |
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I think we all have some regrets somewhere, wishing we'd said or done something, or were given the opportunity to do so. As for your topic question, regret for having dumped someone, nope. Never. I don't easily 'dump' someone. I'm a Taurus, I tend to stay with a person too long, even when the relationship has past its sell-by date. So if I do decide to cut someone out of my life, I am 100% certain about it. That doesn't mean, however, it doesn't hurt to do so. Usually people think that when you end a relationship you're fine and not hurting, but that is not necessarily the case. The fact you had to end a relationship, means that something you wanted, had hopes for and dreams, went down the tubes. And that is always painful, even when you were the one who decided it couldn't go on any longer. ditto from a another taurus  Smashed the rearview mirror some years ago...because it just showed one solid rope which was woven each day from the many strands (choices) of the future... Nicely put! 
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I'm a bit towards the other end of this. I do have regrets, which are that I didn't end certain things earlier than I did. And some of what I "learned," I wish I never knew, because in realizing that some not very nice things are true, I lost the ability to believe that some very nice things, are possible or likely. THis made me think, because with some things I too sometimes tend to beat myself up for not ending something sooner. But, when I'm honest, I would've missed out on a helluva lot too had I done that. So even this can be double. In a way it would've been healthier to have left before it could even begin, lol. But had I done that, I would not have learnt all the beautiful things I did in that chit relationship. And to be honest, that horrible relationship with all the abuse did help me to get empowered. To let go of my insecurities and fears and doubts of self. Plus, it brought me the opportunity to get on stage as a singer and presenter, which I found out is a BIG BIG part of who I am too. Sharing, bringing joy, connecting people, etc. Apart from getting the guts to actually get on stage. THere's always two sides to a coin, even when most what that coin offers is absolutely hell on Earth. Because of all that I do not regret not leaving sooner. I must learn to do so in the future however. It is a lesson learnt :) |
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I can't say regrets ... I feel I could have handle things a bit different in past relationships ... but some I was very young ...
and really still leaning about relationships ... and how they should be ... but I don't regret ... why should I ...if i did not even know what that word meant when I was younger ... |
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Finally I've come to conclusion that it's not really the 'dumping' I regret, but more the manner in which I did it..it's the old story....small town childhood sweethearts, totally innocent romance,full of smiles, and she falling asleep in meadows under the stars on summer nights as I rambled on... no harm done,went everywhere arm in arm, plans for cottage by the sea, ......then I go to the city and am dazzled by the lights....fail to come home..not one for writing ,she writes me letters, one goes to four pages of hearts and arrows and pleas to come home....it was the only love letter I would ever receive....finally she comes looking for me, it's shock to meet her in the street, my thoughts are elsewhere.....
Such a gentle parting on a summers day not a cross word or a kind one nothing left to say I who talked of love for hours now use small talk to hide myself from you a million jokes we used to share where are they now so far away so sad I never said goodbye |
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Dumping not as much as breaking things off. I probably felt worse than he did. I was mortified to have to hurt him, but was not willing to lead him on to even stronger feeling that I just didn’t share.
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Not a single bit, because that is, what the Ex is waiting for.
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I can't say I have any regrets about choices I've made during my life.
Why focus on any negative anyways? Don't cry over spilt milk... move on & upwards. Certainly no regrets about breaking up with someone.. |
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Dumping not as much as breaking things off. I probably felt worse than he did. I was mortified to have to hurt him, but was not willing to lead him on to even stronger feeling that I just didn’t share. Yes I can relate to that........if I had to play that scene again, even knowing that it would be our last meeting, and I would never see her again. the end result would still be the same , but, from where I am now, I would sit down and talk to her , give a smile, at least take her hand, not act is if she were a total stranger, show respect to her as a person....she deserved much more...perhaps I was afraid that she might cry, in our time together I saw only smiles,I never saw her cry...but I have forgiven myself for my insensitive behaviour,I was young, foolish, and after all: ' If your compassion does not extend to yourself, then it is not complete' |
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