Topic: Found my 10/10 – Has a boyfriend! :-(
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Mon 04/30/18 12:32 AM
:heart: I’ve been doing a lot of dating in my days. I’d say I’m up to 120+ dates. It’s a personal interest of mine. The only problem is that I date so many so I have a hard time committing. I am an attractive guy, I’m not gonna lie, and I sense this right away from girls, even girls with boyfriends.
I have really high standards, but now lately I’ve found my dream girl. This is a girl who makes ME nervous. She is the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen and her personality is 10/10. A female friend (who liked me) of mine introduced me to her (her friend). I could sense this girl’s attraction right away.
I asked her out and she said Yes. We talked and have many things in common. I then asked her out 3 weeks later and she said I can come to her photo studio. I then kind of forgot about it, and she reminded me. Also I didn’t keep contact with her and she reminded me on the day I was supposed to go there, so she really wanted me to come.
Once I was there for like 2 hours it felt like 20 minutes…

And we talked for such a long time about deep topics and she showed CLEAR signs of attraction:
licking her lips when I talked, pointing shoulder towards me, and her knee as well. Coming a bit close, mirroring, going personal and revealing stuff, laughing... all of those basic things basically

Now here's the trick, She has a boyfriend. She's been with him for like 3 years. Now I've seen this dude and I know beauty is in the eyes of the beholder but he is not the typical good looking guy. But that also shows me she isn't a shallow person. And then I come into her picture/life and she might find an interest for me.

Should I continue slowly pursuing her as a friend? Not go too heavily? And give her a lot of space, sometimes asking her out, or what should I do? Isn't it a natural process for a girl to drift her attention towards someone else? Girls leaves their Bf's MANY MANY times because they've already got their eyes on someone else right?

She is my 10 of 10. I know there are "plenty of fish in the sea" but this chick blows me away.

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Mon 04/30/18 01:47 AM
You are playing with fire if she already has a long term committed relationship. It will be difficult for her to adjust to someone new coming off of a long relationship. I would try to find out from her if she is happy with her current BF before diving in. If she was taken, why did your mutual friend introduce the two of you to each other???

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Mon 04/30/18 07:53 AM
No that girl who introduced liked ME and wanted to introduce me to HER friends.

Anyways I get what you're saying. It's not like I'm trying to break them up. I'm just a guy who found an interest for her, thinks she's cool and I wanna hang out with her more :) And if there is ANY objection on her part I'll just say "Ooh noo just friends of course :)"
What am I really doing wrong? Nothing. In that case she's the one who's doing wrong if she says Yes to meet up even if she has a bf. Right?

I'm a free human being not committed to anything. So I'll go after what I want until she says No.

Isn't that a healthy mindset? What do you guys think?

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Tue 05/01/18 06:21 AM
If shes going to sneak around and see you while she has a bf, than she will be sneaking around on you, when and if your her bf.

Any girl worth pursuing is one that would not play with another mans attention or affection while in a relationship.

And dont think your the first person shes done this with. Chances are really good..THAT YOUR NOT!

STEP AWAY FROM THE GIRL...shes NOT a 10/10.

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Tue 05/01/18 07:29 AM

If shes going to sneak around and see you while she has a bf, than she will be sneaking around on you, when and if your her bf.

Any girl worth pursuing is one that would not play with another mans attention or affection while in a relationship.

And dont think your the first person shes done this with. Chances are really good..THAT YOUR NOT!

STEP AWAY FROM THE GIRL...shes NOT a 10/10.


drinker drinker

I was wondering why one of the ten would not be 'available'.

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Tue 05/01/18 08:27 AM
No you don't UNDERSTAND...!
You DONT. UNDERSTAND

When I look at her, I see me. Okay? And honestly I'm at the point where I would even consider just being friends with her. That's how awesome she is. Also she has someflaws on her face. Like it's not even about the looks.... urgh
It's a natural path
As if you girls have never laid your eyes on another man and slowly drift away from your current? It's a natural process. Evolution. Survival of the fittest.

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Tue 05/01/18 08:32 AM

No you don't UNDERSTAND...!
You DONT. UNDERSTAND

When I look at her, I see me. Okay? And honestly I'm at the point where I would even consider just being friends with her. That's how awesome she is. Also she has someflaws on her face. Like it's not even about the looks.... urgh
It's a natural path
As if you girls have never laid your eyes on another man and slowly drift away from your current? It's a natural process. Evolution. Survival of the fittest.


Girls might. A woman would end one relationship before starting another. If she hasn't ended it with the boyfriend, maybe she isn't as into you as much as you are into her

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Tue 05/01/18 09:26 AM
Alright whatever, screw morals

I'm going after her. No expectations. I'm a free bird.

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Tue 05/01/18 10:25 AM
So don't take her feelings into consideration? She didn't leave him for a reason. You might think you are more attractive than him but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Show her some respect and don't put her in that position

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Tue 05/01/18 04:34 PM


No you don't UNDERSTAND...!
You DONT. UNDERSTAND

When I look at her, I see me. Okay? And honestly I'm at the point where I would even consider just being friends with her. That's how awesome she is. Also she has someflaws on her face. Like it's not even about the looks.... urgh
It's a natural path
As if you girls have never laid your eyes on another man and slowly drift away from your current? It's a natural process. Evolution. Survival of the fittest.


Girls might. A woman would end one relationship before starting another. If she hasn't ended it with the boyfriend, maybe she isn't as into you as much as you are into her
RIGHTTTTTTTTTTT????:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

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Tue 05/01/18 04:41 PM
All the advice which you received is exactly the opposite of what you plan to do. Why even ask for advice then? I guess you were looking for support to go after her and when you didn't get it, you are going to go after her anyway.

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Tue 05/01/18 04:56 PM

All the advice which you received is exactly the opposite of what you plan to do. Why even ask for advice then? I guess you were looking for support to go after her and when you didn't get it, you are going to go after her anyway.


Omg you took the words right outta my mouth!flowerforyou

REALLY whats the point of asking..you arent gonna listen. indifferent

You had your mind made up before you even posted this! huh

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Tue 05/01/18 07:15 PM
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Tue 05/01/18 07:31 PM
Hello

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Wed 05/02/18 06:57 PM
If she has a BF then she isn't free. I'd find someone who is unattached. Have I seen her on a magazine cover at the checkout line?

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Thu 05/03/18 03:54 AM

If she has a BF then she isn't free. I'd find someone who is unattached. Have I seen her on a magazine cover at the checkout line?
laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Wed 05/09/18 12:13 AM
Hey I asked her to meet up again and she said yes. Invited me over.
So like... wtf? I just wanna be friends with her anyways. Some things are too precious to go after. I am fine being friends with her
I'm also dating another girl