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Topic: why feeling alone and single after 5 years of marriage.
ahmedmbz71's photo
Fri 06/01/18 01:14 PM
hi

Yödä's photo
Fri 06/01/18 01:35 PM
thanks to the voices inside my head i never get that feeling ☺

highfrog's photo
Fri 06/01/18 02:20 PM
Who's feeling bore :unamused:?

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Fri 06/01/18 02:21 PM
Probably married the wrong person.

highfrog's photo
Fri 06/01/18 03:30 PM
Hahaha most probably u r right :p

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Fri 06/01/18 03:52 PM
"why feeling alone and single after 5 years of marriage."

I have an entirely different take on this to suggest that you ponder.

Many people marry for the dream or fantasy of love that they are raised by their culture to believe in, and only after about five years, do they begin to suspect that after all, there is actually almost NO relationship between the movie-style and storybook ideas of marriage, and actual reality.

For one BIG thing, real married life actually requires real work. It doesn't require work because people don't love each other enough, it requires real work because ALL real life requires real work. Marriage is NOT like a carnival ride, or a film viewing experience, where you pay your entry fee, and then sit back and enjoy as everything is done for you.

The "feel single" part, could be because you've halfway recognized that after all (again), there is NOT any magical connection between you and your mate, caused by the spell that the priest (or whatever official) cast on you during the wedding ceremony.

Again, keeping in touch with a mate, especially in a world where demands are made on us all constantly, requires effort. You have to POSITIVELY work to stay up to date with your spouses concerns and challenges, and actively try to help, or coordinate so that you don't get in their way.

Whatever you do, don't allow yourself to follow the line that if you FEEL SINGLE, that that excuses you from your marriage vows, or makes it your MATE'S fault that you don't feel engaged in your marital life. It absolutely does NOT.

If you ponder all this, and you do decide that you made a mistake when you got married, then do what real grownups do, admit your error, and then pay to rectify it. Go to counselling to make sure, then get a lawyer, and pay for the divorce. There's no excuse for ANY other "solution" to this VERY common sensation.

Toodygirl5's photo
Fri 06/01/18 03:57 PM
Sometimes it takes longer for some people to move on after divorce.
Don't isolate your self to Online.

Get out meet people doing things you enjoy!

Easttowest72's photo
Fri 06/01/18 05:43 PM


After my divorce I felt alone if when I was surrounded by people. It takes time but it gets better.


He did't say anything about divorce - just said after 5 years of marriage.

Let's see...feeling that way after 5 years of marriage...honeymoon is definitely over...that sounds about right. :thumbsup:


Well, it looks like he is looking for an excuse to cheat and if his wife finds out, she will divorce him. There is a good chance he feels alone while she works, cooks, cleans, does laundry, and takes care of the kids. What he needs to do is get off this dating site and go help her.

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