Topic: Christians Betrothal
Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 06/17/18 02:58 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sun 06/17/18 03:00 PM
For those who are Christian and interested in Future Committed Relationship!

Betrothal (Espousal)
A promise to Wed also period of time between marriage proposal and marriage.

How long should this be? And why?


BigD9832's photo
Sun 06/17/18 04:00 PM

Everyone is different.


Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 06/17/18 05:02 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sun 06/17/18 05:06 PM
This topic is for suggestions on timing! Knowingly there will be different responses for discussion.


indianadave4's photo
Sun 06/17/18 10:29 PM
In my 20's it was fashionable to be engaged for, roughly, 6 to 12 months. Some of that time was to arrange all of the festivities. Now, it seems to me, an engagement period includes adjusting to the idea of "Till death do us part".

From the few individuals whom I have known that have lived together before marrying, cohabitation does not bring the mental commitment that saying I do does. IMO, living together is not only against scriptural teaching but can be misleading.

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 06/18/18 06:40 AM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Mon 06/18/18 07:00 AM
When I was young, I was engaged 6 months then married. I do still feel 6 months is good. But no longer than 1yr.

Many people do have longer engagements, while living together as partners.

I do not cohabitate because it is against Scripture.

Problem is many who liven are comfortable with that and Never make the commitment of marriage.

I f a person wants marriage, they should never settle for less.


RiverTigris's photo
Wed 08/15/18 02:57 AM

When I was young, I was engaged 6 months then married. I do still feel 6 months is good. But no longer than 1yr.

Many people do have longer engagements, while living together as partners.

I do not cohabitate because it is against Scripture.

Problem is many who liven are comfortable with that and Never make the commitment of marriage.

I f a person wants marriage, they should never settle for less.




Right on sister!
We must pray for the next generation, the days are more wicked than ever
(well biblical history has known all these ways; but I've never witnessed such craziness as is now in the open)
people are marrying animals! and I thought same sex marriage was crazy, its a thing of the corrupted world being adapted/accepted into what is a sacred and Godly tradition. tears
I'm not judging the world. Our Lord will do that. I'm simply confused by how many of our fellow humans are buying into these things...:cry:

DaveD's photo
Wed 08/15/18 05:24 AM

When I was young, I was engaged 6 months then married. I do still feel 6 months is good. But no longer than 1yr.

Many people do have longer engagements, while living together as partners.

I do not cohabitate because it is against Scripture.

Problem is many who liven are comfortable with that and Never make the commitment of marriage.

I f a person wants marriage, they should never settle for less.




Things are different now, rules and games in dating seems to have gone up side down. For me, get married only when you are sure you are ready and to be sure you are ready you have to actively seek God's opinion of your spouse...and if HE says NO, my dear cry home and break up. For the Potter must mold to His taste and need. God First all things else second. #my opinion though

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Tue 08/21/18 04:01 PM
Yeah Toodygirl I agree with you especially when you said that if a person wants to marry they should settle for nothing less. As per the New Testament it says that fornication is a sin. However, I do not remember ever reading that cohabitating was against scripture.