Here in the dating world especially, but more generally as well, it is often said that lying to someone is a reprehensible behavior, in and of itself.

That's what people SAY, anyway. Various politicians, famous artists, sports figures and so on, who have been caught lying about important things (even if only in their personal lives) have been pilloried and publicly criticized, for all my life. It is VERY common in the world of dating and mating, to see complaints about lies and liars be VERY high on almost everyones list of "red flags" or reasons to firmly reject and discard a potential mate.


But oddly, I've come to realize that most people do NOT actually oppose lying and liars. That includes many of the people who most loudly and stridently and righteously proclaim that they DO despise all who lie.

What I've actually found, is that most people really only dislike it when someone lies about something they care about deeply, or if they already don't like the liar, they will claim that the reason for their dislike IS the lies. Even though it isn't, really. They prove this, when they EXCUSE OR IGNORE lies from one person, while attacking them in someone else, and pretending it's all about principles.

Here in the dating world especially, but more generally as well, it is often said that lying to someone is a reprehensible behavior, in and of itself.

That's what people SAY, anyway. Various politicians, famous artists, sports figures and so on, who have been caught lying about important things (even if only in their personal lives) have been pilloried and publicly criticized, for all my life. It is VERY common in the world of dating and mating, to see complaints about lies and liars be VERY high on almost everyones list of "red flags" or reasons to firmly reject and discard a potential mate.


But oddly, I've come to realize that most people do NOT actually oppose lying and liars. That includes many of the people who most loudly and stridently and righteously proclaim that they DO despise all who lie.

What I've actually found, is that most people really only dislike it when someone lies about something they care about deeply, or if they already don't like the liar, they will claim that the reason for their dislike IS the lies. Even though it isn't, really. They prove this, when they EXCUSE OR IGNORE lies from one person, while attacking them in someone else, and pretending it's all about principles.

To quote Homer Simpson: It always takes two, one person who tells the lie, and one person who believes it.

"for every credibility gap,there is a gullibility fill!"

Here in the dating world especially, but more generally as well, it is often said that lying to someone is a reprehensible behavior, in and of itself.

That's what people SAY, anyway. Various politicians, famous artists, sports figures and so on, who have been caught lying about important things (even if only in their personal lives) have been pilloried and publicly criticized, for all my life. It is VERY common in the world of dating and mating, to see complaints about lies and liars be VERY high on almost everyones list of "red flags" or reasons to firmly reject and discard a potential mate.


But oddly, I've come to realize that most people do NOT actually oppose lying and liars. That includes many of the people who most loudly and stridently and righteously proclaim that they DO despise all who lie.

What I've actually found, is that most people really only dislike it when someone lies about something they care about deeply, or if they already don't like the liar, they will claim that the reason for their dislike IS the lies. Even though it isn't, really. They prove this, when they EXCUSE OR IGNORE lies from one person, while attacking them in someone else, and pretending it's all about principles.