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Well, I met a great a girl on here and I was thinking that possibly she was the "one" We have only known each other for a short time. But no one has ever made me feel like this before. Everything was going great we were getting along like I never have before. I was thinking that it had potential to be something great some that doesnt come around everyday in this life. I was with her last night and its was great we kissed and held each other for god knows long. I care deeply about her and I want nothing more than for her to be in my life.Then today she drops the bomb on me that she cant do this. Saying it wasnt me that I was great but she isnt ready for a relationship. I pleaded I think for her to re think this situation. Its seems that her mind made up. She says she is falling in love with me and vice versa. But she is scared. I told her there is a reason that were brought together and not to throw it away because it may never come into her life again and the same for me. I keep begging her not to go (maybe im dumb) My mind is telling me " hey, dummmy! You just met her. Forget about it." My heart is telling me she is special and to continue to try to keep her in my life. It doesnt look like it will happen. Im shattered and I wish I could change her mind. She claims she cares deeply for me but thats why she is leaving me alone. I tell her to get out of my life but then I call her 10 minutes later and beg for her to stay with me. Do I continue the fight or give up?
Is she worth it? Or are the feelings that I have for her worth putting myself through this? What do you think please let me know. Is everything a baited hook? Angels arent supposed to fly so low :-( Signed a broken heart |
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Honestly and I know it hurts but I would let her go.. Give her time maybe that's all she needs... At the very least if she doesn't come back you'll keep your dignity... Love can hurt and I'm sorry you're feeling the pain... I hope everything works out for you and you find happiness...
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Edited by
Jtevans
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Fri 12/07/07 12:02 AM
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i think if your heart is telling you to fight for her,than continue fighting.IMO your heart is what you need to follow the most.we do alot of things our mind tells us to do and then we regret it later on,is this something you want to regret?
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If you met her you will meet others. it might seem right at the moment but don't sweat it so bad. you said you just met her but who know. Maybe shes crazy.. But at the same time what do i know. I"M SINGLE
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Well, I met a great a girl on here and I was thinking that possibly she was the "one" We have only known each other for a short time. But no one has ever made me feel like this before. Everything was going great we were getting along like I never have before. I was thinking that it had potential to be something great some that doesnt come around everyday in this life. I was with her last night and its was great we kissed and held each other for god knows long. I care deeply about her and I want nothing more than for her to be in my life.Then today she drops the bomb on me that she cant do this. Saying it wasnt me that I was great but she isnt ready for a relationship. I pleaded I think for her to re think this situation. Its seems that her mind made up. She says she is falling in love with me and vice versa. But she is scared. I told her there is a reason that were brought together and not to throw it away because it may never come into her life again and the same for me. I keep begging her not to go (maybe im dumb) My mind is telling me " hey, dummmy! You just met her. Forget about it." My heart is telling me she is special and to continue to try to keep her in my life. It doesnt look like it will happen. Im shattered and I wish I could change her mind. She claims she cares deeply for me but thats why she is leaving me alone. I tell her to get out of my life but then I call her 10 minutes later and beg for her to stay with me. Do I continue the fight or give up? Is she worth it? Or are the feelings that I have for her worth putting myself through this? What do you think please let me know. Is everything a baited hook? Angels arent supposed to fly so low :-( Signed a broken heart Real love doesn't hurt. |
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Love can hurt when it's not meant to be.. But you're right Katy It shouldn't hurt not real love that's meant to be...
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Tell her to take a damn risk...the worst that can happen is it fails and you hurt for a while and you learn. But without risk, she gains nothing. I used to be that way, but I realized that it made absolutely NO sense to ditch someone I actually like just to shelter myself from a mere possiblity; should run from the ones you know you don't want.
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Thanks to you all for the kind words but Im worried it is over
Its like incubus says Love hurts but sometimes its good hurt love sings when it trancends the bad things |
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when did you start talking to her and how many times have you hung out?
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you all would ***** slap me if told you
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let it go if its early in the relationship it won't hurt that bad.its alot worst when kids r involved
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Edited by
HazzMatt
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Fri 12/07/07 12:24 AM
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I have been in situations like this, one of which was exactly like this. The person I dated, we talked on the phone for months and we finally met. Now she had her issues as does everyone else. After a while things seemed different, lack of emotion, phone calls, everything slowed down. She told me that when things get serious she tends to push away.
Believe me, that hurt, going through the emails and letters and text messages, all proving differently. It hurt a lot seeing that difference. As much as it did, I left her alone. I am only selfish enough to protect myself. I will not make someone else miserable because I need questions answered. I took her word for it and have never spoken again. Another story was very similar, she feared the serious yet the contrary was what I was led to believe in the beginning. So I did the same, I left her alone with no quarrel. As I moved on and found someone new, she started to call me. She didn't know I was with anyone, so this wasn't a jealousy issue. She genuinely regretted what she did and wanted to get back. I never saw her so hurt by her own decision. She never regretted (she claims) anything she's done. I just became cold, I knew she was hurting and I didn't want her to know about my new life, I didn't want her to hurt more. So I didn't talk to her like we used to, I wasn't mean or anything, I just went distant. So love does hurt, sometimes the mind makes foolish decisions our heart pays for. |
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hey you made out. right? awesome. you got some action go out there and find someone else to do that with
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It wasnt about the make out Im getting older and seem to see past that When someone makes you feel good about yourself and makes you feel something special in your heart sex making out its just an added bonus to what already is something great
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I know I tend to write a book at times (being a writer and all) but I hope you read my experiences. Maybe they may make sense
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Sounds like she is afraid of her feelings......back off for awhile and see what happens.
Love is a very scary thing.....it has great potential for disaster and that is probably what she is afraid of. 
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I cant underatnd how you could be so into someone last night and not want to ever see them again tonight
so confused |
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Booby I disagree with the people on here telling you to find someone else. They really no nothing about the connection you 2 have or stories that have been shared. It sucks to hear such advice.
I can relate Bobby, i too can a awsome connection on this site as well, and was dropped as thought we never had talked, it sucks and still doesnt make sence at this time. However my advice is taken from practicing it. Patience allows people time to take a step back and realize why they feel the way they do. This in turn allow them to make a decision on what to do from there, if its worth it wait it out. Somthing ive noticed is how easily women can run away from this site and not realize that connections people have with them. |
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if she admitted to you she was scared(and that was a huge risk), i would assume she was hurt in the past. take your time tell you will give her the space she wants and needs and that she can set the terms, limits, boundries of the relationship and that if she honestly feels the same way in a few months you will walk away, it will be hard if shes wants you to leave but maybe she will give you a chance. dont push her or she will just feel trapped and run, talk to her tell her how you feel and that you want to try, you will at least get points for trying hon
and real lov hurts, if you lov respect her and her wishes good luck |
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Ask yourself this; Do you really think you could feel that sense of security and integrity that is needed for trust to survive with someone who clearly demonstrated the exact opposite?
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