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Topic: family and friends accepting....
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Fri 12/07/07 01:10 PM
people treat you the way you "let" them

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Fri 12/07/07 01:16 PM

i think its actually becoming normal these days to have to travel to see your boyfriend/girlfriend... (whom you met online). i do know that some people judge, but... hmmmm... oh well... flowerforyou

My former lover and I are 3000 miles apart (he in NY and I in San Francisco) and we did make the trips. However, as we are both starving writers, it was not really financially feasible. Had I felt it would be okay to move my children away from their father, I would have moved. Now, I refuse to "date" or become involved with anyone who is not in my local area---it's just too stressful and heartbreaking.

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Fri 12/07/07 10:43 PM


I met my last serious lover online, however not on a "dating" site (we met through our mutual websites) and I felt really weird about telling folks just exactly how we met. Whether we like it or not, meeting someone online IS different. There are different dynamics and a certain unrealistic expectation in such relationships. Had my last serious lover and I been able to overcome the physical distance between us and continued in the direction we were going---long-term and so-very-serious---I would have insisted on crafting an alternative "how we met" story.

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Online "dating" is also notorious for not working out. It's gotten a bad rap (justifiably so).


It's never worked for me. However, I have crappy taste in men- yep, I admit it- so the blame doesn't fall entirely on the internet. It would be the same in real life too. :)



lmao yeah, did you see my flashing neon sign?? it reads...losers welcome, come on in!!! lmao

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Fri 12/07/07 10:50 PM
Online is a different dynamic. In some ways maybe better. I don't know, I often find that I express myself better in written form and I think a lot of people are similar. You can talk via email for awhile to screen someone before meeting.

Is it any more safe for some random dude to walk up to you drunk at the club and get your number...then they have your name and number right off the bat plus they could follow you home.


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Fri 12/07/07 10:52 PM

Online is a different dynamic. In some ways maybe better. I don't know, I often find that I express myself better in written form and I think a lot of people are similar. You can talk via email for awhile to screen someone before meeting.

Is it any more safe for some random dude to walk up to you drunk at the club and get your number...then they have your name and number right off the bat plus they could follow you home.




love your posts, makes sense when you answer. very true...i totally agree with you on that

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Sat 12/08/07 05:03 AM
As said previously, they are just looking out for you.

When people ask how I met my current beau, I respond "Trolling online." When the ask what site? I respond with the more unusual 'adult' sites to see the response. Heck with them if they can't take a joke.

Things work out if they are meant to work out no matter how the 2 people met.

flowerforyou M

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Sat 12/08/07 07:48 AM
my mom wouldn't care since she met her husband on eharmony, lol. as for the rest of my family i really wouldn't care, i don't see them or hardly speak to them anyways. awful isn't it, lol

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Sat 12/08/07 09:11 AM

my mom wouldn't care since she met her husband on eharmony, lol. as for the rest of my family i really wouldn't care, i don't see them or hardly speak to them anyways. awful isn't it, lol


I've heard it was hard to find anyone on eharmony. Congrats to her on finding someone she likes. :)

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