After just splitting up a relationship with a wonderful man whom I loved but WASN’T IN LOVE with him, I found myself not being honest and upfront with my feelings. I kept waiting to somehow fall in love but it never happened. He started talking about marriage and although I was very uncomfortable I didn’t stop him. Now I have created such hurt and pain to a man I adore on a different level. My suggestion to any reader is to STOP moving forward and be truly honest with where YOU are at!! Avoid the PAIN

I got that memo a few decades ago.

That’s my motto

I got that memo a few decades ago also but failed to read it so I suffered for it.

I got the memo but threw it away 3 times. Now, I couldn't be happier. I have found my soulmate. The funny thing is he has been in my life for 37 years. I trust him completely and always have. He is my best friend and soon to be husband. He knows everything about me and my life, just as I do his. We have turned to each other time and time again through the years never realizing that our Love, Respect, Honesty, Communication and Heart felt pains of the past years would bring us to where we are now.

Yes, be Honest and up front with what's in your heart. It is what will make you truly the Happiest. Don't short change your self or a potential companion, Lover, Friend or spouse.

Yes, he knows I'm on this sight and knows I want to continue on the forums. He knows about the friends I have made both make and female. My friends know if him as well.

loved my ex dearly and more after she gave me a wonderful baby girl,but after my new job things went side waist she changed completely don't know where it all went wrong

Sorry to hear that Coleman but, taking a look back at a relationship and trying to figure out were things went wrong is important to making sure we learn and grow by hopefully not repeating our mistakes in another relationship
in the future.

Remember sometimes it's the small things in a relationship that can change the whole dynamic of a relationship from good to bad and vise versa. You will figure it out in time . Best of luck to you.

There was a memo?

There must have been a reason you did not tell him sooner.
You are beating yourself up over a natural occurrence.
You tried, it seems.
(Better now than later.)
And you could be a better friend to him now.
Freedom rings ;-)

That's not really possible.
If you "STOP moving forward" that's just going to change communication.

It's kind of like saying "Okay tank commander, just stop moving and firing at the enemy tank and really be honest with yourself about how you feel about being in the army."

You can't just form a magic bubble around yourself and stop everything and control all the variables and information and keep them from changing or keep your behavior from influencing how the other person responds to what you're doing.

Lots of people try to do so by asking for "space."
That creates a lot of pain in others too.

No matter what you do, you're going to hurt other people.
No matter what, you're always moving forward.
At best you can lie to yourself, pretend you aren't, and not pay attention to the change (which retards your ability to handle it).

So good luck with that.

Yes, I gave you my copy last month.