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Topic: dating goals
Smartazzjohn Joined Sun 06/03/07 Posts: 4844	Sat 02/09/19 08:50 AM Edited by Smartazzjohn on Sat 02/09/19 08:52 AM
People usually show their best side on a first date and it goes down hill from there. I on the other hand show my worst side on the first date so if the woman decides she want to see me again it's going to go up hill and get better.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14521	Sat 02/09/19 10:40 AM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sat 02/09/19 10:43 AM
Dating is great I like to see a man on his best behavior. Put that best foot forward. When you live with them, is when many take a woman for granted. Then the woman wants a romantic date. But she's stuck with him.

I_love_bluegrass Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 1665	Sat 02/09/19 11:11 AM
People usually show their best side on a first date and it goes down hill from there. I on the other hand show my worst side on the first date so if the woman decides she want to see me again it's going to go up hill and get better. I don't "put on" my "best" behaviour, nor do I like Smartazzjohn show my worst side. I am just me, as I always am...better to be honest up front, than to put on a false display... If they don't like me as I always am....that's fine.. There's lots of people who will "fake" it until they have you "hooked", then change.. I prefer not to operate that way.

... Joined Sat 09/26/15 Posts: 1932	Sat 02/09/19 02:47 PM
I don't think I know how to 'put on' my 'best behaviour' I'm just me. Obviously I am polite, quiet and gentle but when you know me a whole lot better, I am still polite, quiet and gentle. I always hold open the door for a lady no matter well I know her. I don't change my behaviour over time during a relationship. Seems to me that those who do are the 'calculating' type, always thinking about the best thing to do in a situation. I guess if you like me when we first meet, you always will like me. I hope!

Smartazzjohn Joined Sun 06/03/07 Posts: 4844	Sat 02/09/19 02:48 PM
It seems some people take what I post WAY TOO seriously.

Riverspirit1111 Joined Wed 06/27/18 Posts: 100738	Sat 02/09/19 03:02 PM
People usually show their best side on a first date and it goes down hill from there. I on the other hand show my worst side on the first date so if the woman decides she want to see me again it's going to go up hill and get better. Good thinking!

... Joined Sat 09/26/15 Posts: 1932	Sun 02/10/19 01:16 AM
Never take anything said here seriously - it's all good fun! I'm too old now and I don't do 'serious'

hotflagal Joined Tue 01/22/19 Posts: 42	Sun 02/10/19 06:01 AM Edited by hotflagal on Sun 02/10/19 06:02 AM
the fun to me is watching how the man does everything possible to get me into his bed, little does he know it's usually what I want but I let them do their little seduction "dance"

... Joined Sat 09/26/15 Posts: 1932	Sun 02/10/19 06:31 AM
I am used to women teasing. They like to say 'no' and we poor men have to decide whether they are not interested or just teasing us. Sometimes life is not fair!

I_love_bluegrass Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 1665	Sun 02/10/19 08:52 AM
I am used to women teasing. They like to say 'no' and we poor men have to decide whether they are not interested or just teasing us. Sometimes life is not fair! Take "no" as a "no"... Some women play BS games, and I can't speak for, nor relate to them, but..as a general rule, always....no means NO... That way, you'll never be accused of taking advantage/ forcing yourself on a woman..

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14521	Sun 02/10/19 08:53 AM
If I say No, I am not interested move on.

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1713	Sun 02/10/19 09:19 AM
I am used to women teasing. They like to say 'no' and we poor men have to decide whether they are not interested or just teasing us. Sometimes life is not fair! Which can lead to "Me Too" moments here in the states.

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1713	Sun 02/10/19 09:22 AM
I am used to women teasing. They like to say 'no' and we poor men have to decide whether they are not interested or just teasing us. Sometimes life is not fair! Take "no" as a "no"... Some women play BS games, and I can't speak for, nor relate to them, but..as a general rule, always....no means NO... That way, you'll never be accused of taking advantage/ forcing yourself on a woman.. "NO" means the next question is "Why not?" Any future hinges on the response to that question!

I_love_bluegrass Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 1665	Sun 02/10/19 09:37 AM Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Sun 02/10/19 09:38 AM
I am used to women teasing. They like to say 'no' and we poor men have to decide whether they are not interested or just teasing us. Sometimes life is not fair! Take "no" as a "no"... Some women play BS games, and I can't speak for, nor relate to them, but..as a general rule, always....no means NO... That way, you'll never be accused of taking advantage/ forcing yourself on a woman.. "NO" means the next question is "Why not?" Any future hinges on the response to that question! If you apply for a job, and they don't hire you, or say you are not what they are looking for...do you ask them "Why not"? No, you don't...you just go apply somewhere else. Don't know why this is hard to understand.

... Joined Sat 09/26/15 Posts: 1932	Sun 02/10/19 09:40 AM
I like to think I am a polite person and have always taken a 'no' to mean 'no' however I can think of at least one situation in which I am quite sure that 'no' actually meant 'I am playing hard to get'. Since she didn't say any more on the subject I have to assume that she is only interested in men who take the time to try hard and seduce her. That was a long time ago (in the sixties). In general I think men are more straightforward and more likely to say it as it is, while women are, in general, more likely to talk around a subject before making a direct statement. Of course that is a generalisation, but even so I think I need to duck before ladies reply to say that they are not like that - of course you're not, you are the exceptions that prove the rule, ahem

... Joined Sat 09/26/15 Posts: 1932	Sun 02/10/19 09:43 AM
If you apply for a job, and they don't hire you, or say you are not what they are looking for...do you ask them "Why not"? No, you don't...you just go apply somewhere else. Don't know why this is hard to understand. Actually, I DID ask "why not" on more than one occasion in order to find out what they really wanted and as a help to me to understand potential employers better. I think that is a different situation to those ladies who say no when they mean, "Yes, if you try harder"!

Smartazzjohn Joined Sun 06/03/07 Posts: 4844	Sun 02/10/19 09:56 AM
It seems that people complicate dating with goal and expectations. I think dating should be simple without unneeded self imposed pressure, but what the heck do I know? The more posts I read the more it reinforces what I posted before.....except for the part about "what the heck do I know?"...that part may have been proven to be inaccurate.

I_love_bluegrass Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 1665	Sun 02/10/19 10:03 AM
Actually, I DID ask "why not" on more than one occasion in order to find out what they really wanted and as a help to me to understand potential employers better. I think that is a different situation to those ladies who say no when they mean, "Yes, if you try harder"! Well, I don't know about other women...I am a woman and I don't understand the things I hear and read about them, so... If I say no...I mean no, period, end of story... I have never been into playing games...I am straight forward, and say what I mean. If I have said no, and you keep bothering me, thinking I am being "coy, playing "hard to get", or some other BS...you're liable to get an earful...

hotflagal Joined Tue 01/22/19 Posts: 42	Sun 02/10/19 10:20 AM
the real question is why are so many women on here saying no? I rarely say no, I just smile and say nothing

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1713	Sun 02/10/19 11:20 AM
the real question is why are so many women on here saying no? I rarely say no, I just smile and say nothing and some people actually enjoy their sex life and wish for more!!