Everything you've been through in your life has made you into the person you are today.

as you become stronger - life becomes easier.

Don't hate on the past or the people that have been left there

Everything you've been through in your life has made you into the person you are today.

Not really.
You aren't taking into account that who you had become and who you were also led to you choosing the things which you then went through and how you perceived them and to what degree they influenced you in ways you didn't really control.

Not to mention a lot of what you've "been through" has also been fought against, denied in order to try to protect who you thought you were, or rationalized in ways to validate who you think you are which really led to a change in yourself you don't perceive or would ever believe occurred.

I mean there are so many variables.
Things you can control. Things you could see. Things you can understand.
Things you could have controlled but thought you couldn't, feared you couldn't, thought you could have but really couldn't. The things you didn't see at the time but did later. The things that weren't really there but you later thought were. The things that were really there, you didn't see at the time, and later you saw them but they're mixed up with things that weren't. The things you didn't see or understand at the time and still don't but still influence you.
Among so many more things.



Ultimately everyone is the same person. They're still that whiny, crying, petulant, selfish baby that popped out of their mother that wants to be fed, changed, held, pleasured, and not scared.

All anyone has done is learned specific processes, and broken off chunks of personality to selfishly use, from those around them, to fulfill what they've come to understand they want and what is important in the goal of personal fulfillment because laying around crying stopped working or providing the same degree of fulfillment.


Life only becomes easier if you simply stick to the routines you've learned the processes and social rules for. IOW you create your little bubble and deny anything outside exists or matters, and the things that attack your bubble are attacked in turn.

There is no "stronger." There's only more experience in a routine.
I mean Stuart Smalley's daily affirmations will definitely lead to you believing them, as long as you also learn to control your life (or how you perceive it) to the point where anything that could contradict what you convince yourself is true is kept at bay and/or rationalized away and/or effectively killed.

If you want to understand how that is true, then study the phenomenon of expatriation. What people go through to cope with being forced into a new culture. For work, for money, for refuge. Whatever reason.
Kind of like the grief process, all people go through a mental, emotional, and social process to facilitate the change, so they can redetermine ways of fulfilling the same things.


I sort of agree but can see where it's wrong.
Kind of like a bodybuilder that went to the gym for the first time because they were beat up by a kid in the 6th grade.

Kinda pointless at 35 after 23 years of bodybuilding to hate on the 6th grader that originally sent them to the gym while paying little focus to their current peers that are bigger, stronger, and meaner, or simply smarter because they spent time studying and experiencing rather than bodybuilding.

But if you don't focus on hate or the past then you can easily lose your motivation and focus for what you've been spending your life doing.

That can easily lead to mid life crisis or questioning your life, insecurities and fear, and losing of your identity altogether.

It would be more appropriate to say something like "don't wallow in old hatreds and let them be all consuming. Remember the past, but be aware of your present and future."

A kid that burns his hand on the stove shouldn't forget to hate the pain of the burn, but should remember that hatred to prevent current burning, and be mindful of caution in using the stove and why they've started enjoying the microwave, and use the learned caution in approaching use of the deep fryer.

Hate is an emotion. Emotions are tools for learning and influencing behavior.
Unfortunately, a lot of people have learned (especially thanks to Disney, and the movie/tv industry and their approach to "love" and "happiness") that emotions are a reward system, like an inbuilt chemical dependency drip, where you can achieve one you like and it will be there to provide that pleasure forever, constantly.

And that's the kicker. If you believe in forever love, if you believe you can find a "soul" mate, the "right" one, or "true" (love), then you're simply training yourself (or others, if you push your beliefs, or have kids and they learn from who you are) to be susceptible to the phenomenon. Capable of wallowing in hatred, or greed, or envy, or joy, or whatever.
And since life simply doesn't work that way, it's just going to lead to problems.

So:

Perpetual feedback loop.
The person you are influences everything you go through in your life, and everything in life influences the person you are.

All that really means is that it really doesn't matter what person you are.
The only thing that matters is how consistent you can be with the type of person that society wants you to be in order to help you facilitate what you really want.
The more people cry about being accepted for who they are, wanting others to get to know them, the closer they are to being that little baby lying in their crib crying waiting for the world to hand them food and comfort and fulfillment.

Good luck with that.