Why is it so hard for me to attract a normal guy,someone who actually wants to be with me not for whats beneficial to him..i only attract males who dont want anything of substance...im convinced my soulmate died...he got hit by a bus

Maybe you need to look in yourself and examine some things, behaviors, perceptions, etc. Not saying anything here, except that we all need to examine ourselves and make sure we're thinking and behaving healthy. When we notice a pattern of things not going right, what is it we are doing to create such a pattern in our life?

You might have to frequent the forums a bit more. Lots of decent guys here.

If this isn't the normal for you,
you could just be in a slump.

I'm sure, many of us have, at one time
or another, been in a similar slump.


On the other hand,
If it seems to you, that all you're catching
is bottom feeders. You should probably change
the bait you're using. Meaning, change up your
tactics, to attract a classier man.

Hi Lee, check out the hospitals. Maybe he survived getting hit by a bus. Good luck!

Well, one thing you MIGHT consider, is how the mechanics of human interactions work.

What I mean is, that when one waits to be approached, for example, the people MOST likely to push forward, are the most aggressive, the most greedy, and the ones with the least compunctions about offending or abusing you.

And in general, even while a person is actively looking, again, the most easy to find people, will again be the ones most likely to have the traits you've mentioned that you so dislike.

That means that no matter where any of us looks for people to meet, we are likely to find the people at the head of the line, are the pushiest; not the most thoughtful.

The only way to deal with that fundamental, is to accept that you'll have to say "no" more often than you would prefer.

And keep your spirits up as best you can. One recommendation I've heard a number of times, is that when you are in a place where you are likely to be seen, for example, that you practice a pleasant or positive "resting face." That way, if by chance a prospect happens by, instead of instantly seeing your displeasure at all the nasty men you've been through in your eyes, he'll see your hope for the better man, that he happens to be.

As I said, just a thought or two.