I have been single for going on 3 years. My kid's dad remarried over a year ago. I have never introduced my dates to my kids; have been keeping my social life separate from my family life.

I have plans on new year's eve with my family. It is the highlight of the year for my 18-year-old daughter (she is a sr in h.s.) She really enjoys getting together with my extended family on NYE; it has sort of become a tradition.

Problem is, I have been dating someone I think could become quite serious with. I would like to invite him to the family NYE party. I know my daughter is going to be upset and feel like he is intruding on our family tradition.

I feel like I can't win. If I invite him, daughter is going to be po'd. If I don't, I am going to feel cheated. Thanks, MJ

My son is 21 and just wants me to have fun. He is sick of seeing me mope around. Your daughter is old enough to know that her mother deserves to be happy in life. I think you should live your life the way you choose.

Your children will eventually leave you, that's a sad fact. If it was me, I would invite him to the celebration if you feel there is a future with him.

Just my 2 cents worth........

You ain't seen nothing yet!Try my kids.
They think every man is going to take mom away.And can make things real though.I hear ya.I have told them to get over it.Moms have a right to be happy too.
Thats the hard part about being a single parent.
Share your man with your family,starting with your kids.

i say invite him...your daughter is kinda being selffish she should want you to happy and if your serious with the guy i don't see why you shouldn't invite him.i used to be a brat when my mom when out on dates but i was 7 at the time now i'm 18 and me and my brother both moved out and i'm happy my mom isn't alone...your daughter will get over it

been there, too

But give your daughter some credit...i'm sure she wants you to find someone and be happy,yes??? Talk to her...i mean talk WITH her.
you might be surprised how understanding she's become(at 18)...it's hard to picture them as adults, and easy to "know" how she will react.. but try it

While I agree that you should be able to do as you choose, in this case, it might be better to wait for a non-family kind of event to introduce the man into the mix. Maybe you could have him meet the kids before and see what their reactions to each other are. Then, if everyone's ok, go ahead with NYE. Also, talk to your daughter, she may not be as resentful as you think, as long as things don't change too much at the party.