I've been on dating site for years and migle is one of them..my intention is looking the love one after my husband passed away 20 years ago..but all i met are scammers...but i always have a faith maybe one day i eventually find my soulmate through dating site..as i cant my experiences makes me stop looking the right person..as each person is different..and i always have in my mind that this person maybe the right one when i met the new friend ...always cross my finger

Well what exactly are you trying?
I mean this OP seems like just a big billboard trying to attract traffic.


How many sites are you on?
What exactly are you doing on those sites? Emailing people? Going the passive aggressive approach?
Like are you looking at profiles and trying to start up conversations?
Or are you just using the "pokes," or, "nudges," or "likes" features?
Are you looking at the "viewed me" sections and then changing your profile to what you think those looking at you are looking for?

Are you using anything other than dating sites/apps?


That's what a lot of people say.
But what exactly are your experiences?
For example a lot of women put "No ONS! No hookups! Not here for sex! No FWB! Tired of the f-boys!" But when you ask them about their experiences, that's generally what happens. They go out, and surprise surprise they keep dating the guys and go along and getting exactly that.
Instead of taking any responsibility for their choices, they play the victim, using it to rationalize not trying, but justifying feeling righteous using passive aggressive behavior and being entitled.

And there are some women that put they're looking for their "soulmate" or "the one," or something, but they never actually date, they always find some flaw, some reason to never meet. Never date. At most they'll get into an email pseudo relationship where they just chat back and forth and then build up a false sense of commitment and bonding. They aren't looking for "the one," or a "soul mate," they just want attention, entertainment, to feel desired and chased, to feel as though they have social cache.
Most of the time that gets old. They don't get the same chemical high after a while, so they go find forums or boards and then start complaining "where are the good ones?!" and paint themselves as victims...in order to get attention, to form more safe, distant, controllable pseudo relationship/echo chambers.

Or kind of like pricing cars.
Let's say you have 10 Lamborghini's. The expectation could be that you sell each of them for $100.000, and you go to an online market place, but no one's buying them for that much, so you sell 8 for $10,000 because that's all anyone's willing to offer, and you accept to just get by and pay the bills, but then you start demanding people pay $460,000 for the last two in order to make up for how much you wanted in the beginning, not realizing that the market is setting the price at $10,000 and you don't get to control it?

Point being, what are the expectations vs. reality.
There's what you hoped for. What did you expect you would have to do to get it?
What are you actually doing? And what is actually happening?


So, you say:
"sometimes feel tired of trying "
but what are you actually trying?

I mean think of careers.
Some people get so tired of going to employer after employer on job sites like linkedin or indeed.
But they never really updated their resume, they never took classes to acquire the skills the employers actually want, they never really considered that employers are comparing them to every other applicant.
At most they've just decided on how much they want to make, and the type of corporate culture they want to be a part of, and what kind of hours they want to work, and how much vacation time and minimum benefits they're going to demand when they get an interview.


I don't know, I just wonder. Are you tired of trying? Or are you realizing how much you need to do in order to be successful, and you really just don't want to do it?

One post in three and a half years? That's not trying very hard.

yes i post only 1 times in this forum but am using at meet tools at this apps..and i tried others dating site as well..

thank you for giving your opinion ..appreciate it...for me knowing someone i knew on dating site without wanted to have videicall and eventually asking a favour for money..are not the real .. and i have my own opnion based on my experiences...thank you

Meet tools? As in Mutual Match? It is only a wee game. Best thing is, to participate in the forums

I'm not allowed to tell you why, but it's not you, check for local events, speed dates, etc. Most cities have that, if you're a member of your local church they likely have singles events too.

ooh ok..thank you for the advise..appreciate it

thank you for the advice

I couldn't agree more it's like we've put ourselves out there and seafood want to wait for something better I don't know but I hate to that is something up that could be true love because you never know..

iam the one who you are looking for

I think if you add a few photos of yourself you will attract more interest. In my opinion people want to see you, otherwise most will not even read your profile, sad but true. Contact people in your own country and as close as possible to where you live, so you can meet up quickly for a coffee and chat, few people are looking for a long distance relationship.

Yes, it takes time, be patient and you will find the right one for you, good luck in your search.

Are dating sites the only resources you're using? Do you join social groups that have men in your age range and interests? For example, you could join a hiking group if that's something you enjoy, or a group that likes to sail. Do you go to social events like the opening of an art gallery? Have you solicited help from your friends, or do you not trust them? Funny, but true for some of us. Find a new hobby where men will be present. Attend a sports event; even if only one time. Do take your time, especially if you want to re-marry. I would post at least one more picture that shows your eyes. Expand on what you are looking for. You only have two sentences, the second one being you yelling anger and frustration. That would turn any man away. Lastly, list some interests! At least two, preferably more.

Makes me wonder how invested she is in her journey.