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Topic: Age difference...
munch151's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:00 PM
So recently I went to a local bar by myself (sometimes it's fun to go alone and see who I can meet) and while there I met an amazing 18 year old girl that so far has been holding my interest. She is very attractive, very mature, and has a good understanding of how the world works. This is more than I can say for most of the 21+ women that I usually hang out with that seem to be totally into themselves and nothing more. So here's the deal... We've been hanging out quite a bit, sometimes until the early hours of the morning, and I really enjoy her company, but I can't get over her age. Part of me says ignore it, after all I know several couples with a vast difference in age between the two, but part of me says don't take it serious because she's young and deserves to have more 'life experiences' before she gets serious. She has expressed interest in developing a serious relationship but I've been chalking it up to naivety so I haven't pursued yet. Coming out of an 8+ year relationship it's hard for me to take things lightly but I don't want to throw away something that may end up great. Normally I can handle things on my own but I really haven't been this interested in someone for a very long time. What are your thoughts on age difference (I'll be 27 this month and she's only 18... it's bad I know) and how it could affect relationships.

DiLLoN0688's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:02 PM
**** it.. shes legal. lol

MirrorMirror's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:03 PM
As long as she's over 18 theres no problem.

ladyblack67's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:03 PM
thats a BIG difference! but, see where it goes, and voice your concern to her, also, if it dosent work out, be ok with it, you were 9 YEARS apart! good luck! ps: it not illegal or any thing!

Urg04es's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:04 PM
That is not as huge an age difference as you may think. What I would make sure of is.....is she on the right track for her future-is she going to school and planning a direction in life or is she just looking for someone to take care of her. Be careful-and good luck.

Lillylover89's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:05 PM
if you two click... and she dosent have a problem with it.
when my sister first married she was 17 and he was 28.. so .. its a personal preference thing.
age can be just a number.

Vikingsfreak's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:05 PM
My ex wife was 19 when we met, 21 when we married, and I am 7 years older than her. In my situation exactly what you said happened. She needed more life experience. One of the toughest lessons of my life. We divorced after 4 years of marriage.

no photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:05 PM
If you enjoy her company, why not? It's not like you both are wanting to run out and get married...just enjoy one anothers company, and see what happens.
Age really shouldn't be such an issue...(and women mature far faster than men...hehe)on a more serious note, just have fun...whats the rush?

Good luck!

kde123's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:06 PM
Age is just a number..... that is only 9 years..... I'm 51....I have been out with lots of women in their middle 20's to early thirty's..... Most women my age want to hang out at the bingo parlors...:smile: If she is comfortable with it....I don't see a problem.....

Vikingsfreak's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:08 PM

That is not as huge an age difference as you may think. What I would make sure of is.....is she on the right track for her future-is she going to school and planning a direction in life or is she just looking for someone to take care of her. Be careful-and good luck.


My ex is extremely intelligent, had a Bachelors degree by the time she was 21, and she still needed time to "grow up".

Urg04es's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:09 PM
Sure Vikings......pick on my reply. Thanks alot. LOL!

Vikingsfreak's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:11 PM

Sure Vikings......pick on my reply. Thanks alot. LOL!


Believe me, I wish someone would have warned me!!!happy happy happy LOL

munch151's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:11 PM
True, I don't plan on running off and getting married to her lol, and we have been having so much fun together it's crazy. And she is not looking for a 'sugar daddy' either. She has her future well planned out, which is one of the things I find very attractive about her. I will enjoy her company as long as is possible but as I said, she wants to move things a bit further into 'relationship' mode. I'd like to but at the same time I feel kinda weird because she's so young. Maybe I should just get over it and understand what Dillon said '**** it.. shes legal.'

lausim's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:12 PM
The age difference seems to not matter as much when you are older, but she does have a lot of life to experience that you've most likely already experienced.

I would say just give her the freedom and room she might need, and just see if it works, or if you two would be better off friends.

You know, stranger things have happened. She might be one of the very, VERY few that are so much wiser and beyond their years.

Or, you could just be incredibly immaturelaugh J/k

RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:13 PM
Age is just a number and I am just crazy about women no matter what the age. Enjoying each other's company can be a wonderful thing.

Moondark's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:14 PM
Age is more that just a number. Like you said, it is life experience. But I've known a lot of younger people that had the life experiences that made them more mature and seem older than the number of years they have been alive. In those cases, it is just a number. It all comes down to how you are able to deal with the challenges that come with dating someone under 21. I've known enough 20-somethings that have dated people under 21 and it seems to have it's own unique challenges.

AaronZ's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:14 PM
spank that monkey!!!!!!!!!!

by monkey I mean the 18 year old one


*act Smells finger.....

munch151's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:19 PM

The age difference seems to not matter as much when you are older, but she does have a lot of life to experience that you've most likely already experienced.

I would say just give her the freedom and room she might need, and just see if it works, or if you two would be better off friends.

You know, stranger things have happened. She might be one of the very, VERY few that are so much wiser and beyond their years.

Or, you could just be incredibly immaturelaugh J/k


Haha, I've been called immature for very immature reasons :tongue: Nah, I'm pretty comfortable with life and how things work, and I really like being with her, but I just feel that if we do end up 'being together' then she may miss out on some life experiences. But then again, dating and relationships are a part of life. Don't get me wrong, I am not at all jealous or any of that nonsense so I wouldn't ever try to deprive her of her friends or any of that, but I don't want to have her regret 'hooking up' too early in life. There's also something else I haven't revealed yet... I took her virginity ohwell So I'm thinkin that has something to do with how she's acting. Basically I don't want to act on something that may fade after she gets over it. Funk it, I reckon I'll just have fun while we can and see what happens.

Urg04es's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:21 PM
You ho bag! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

munch151's photo
Sun 12/23/07 05:21 PM
Who's a ho? I'm single so anything goes, right?!?!

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