Dont be afraid to start all over again, because unlike before, this time round you will be guided by the exprience on how best to handle or address where that thing trying to hold it back. We have seen people who refused to give up and ended up succeeding on their 99th trial. In inter, Always have that positive and dynamic mind in facing life

Always be nice to someone who has access to your toothbrush...The Equalizer

Great advice..YES it is always about attitude.. be positive.. it goes a long way!

PMA is great, but you try telling somebody with PMT that

Don't give advice to someone unless they ask you for it.

So your "advice" is "don't give advice to someone unless they ask for it"? That reminds me of "those who THINK they know it all make us people who do ACTUALLY know it all look bad". But I agree that people should often MYOB!

Realize the internet offers nothing more than cheap products, cheap entertainment, and there's nothing positive to be gained in any form of social media.



I mean:
"Dont be afraid to start all over again...this time round you will be guided by..."

How does that help anyone?

Let's say I have a 4 year old and one night I hear them crying and screaming.
So I open the door and say "hey! What's wrong?"
And they say "I'm afraid of the dark!"
And, after thinking about what I read on the internet, I say "Don't be afraid of the dark, did the dark do anything to you last night? No, you're still here, let that guide you this night around..."

Do you honestly think that kid is going to say to themselves "m'okay, I'll just turn that fear and anxiety and all the conversations and insecurities in my head off. Thanks!"
Because I read a specious aphorism on the internet I can simply solve anything?


Not to mention "Dont be afraid to start all over again, because unlike before, this time round you will be guided by the exprience on how best to handle or address where that thing trying to hold it back"
isn't always true.

I've known lots of people in midlife crisis + that left six figure jobs.
They'd spout things like "I'm unhappy! I need to live my best life! Pursue my happiness! I shouldn't be afraid to start over! I'm still young!" And next thing you know they've drained their 401k's, no one will hire them because of their age or lack of experience in the area they wanted to pursue and then they're just kicking themselves "why the hell did I do that?!" while they're living at home "taking care of their parents."


Sometimes people should be afraid to try and start over.
Sometimes no matter how positive you are, practical, pragmatic reality doesn't bend to how you think it should or will go.



Also, it can become very complicated.

I mean there are people with mental/emotional issues that play games with their own heads.
Someone/thing at work/school/home will cause conflict. Their first instinct is to run away from conflict, avoid it.
Then it becomes this great crusade where (in this instance) they'll focus on their "fear of starting over" as opposed to the conflict, or whatever is motivating them to look for change.

Then they'll read "don't be afraid to start over" on the internet so they'll quit their job, drop out of school, ditch their family, whatever.

All in an effort to avoid looking at the real problems that are motivating themselves and their behavior.

Instead of "oh, I'm avoiding conflict because I have mental/emotional problems and this is a symptom that should be addressed," it becomes, "oh, I'm brave and great because I overcame my fear of starting over, so I left all that behind and am starting something new! All I need to do is get over my fear of starting over, something new. Not look at what has lead me to wanting/needing/thinking I need to start over."

And then the cycle just repeats. When that "something new" leads to conflict, or unhappiness, or whatever, they just ditch it in order to stroke their own ego at how brave they are at overcoming their "fear of starting something new."

And it just leads to deeper problems.


And a lot of people don't realize what those people do to themselves and others throughout those 98 times they've left destruction and pain in their wake because they didn't stop to think, they just kept flinging crap around them trying to find something that stuck and caused them pleasure.

Is there a certain sequence in one of The Equalizer movies that explains what you've written? I must have missed it.

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Specifically, it was The Equalizer 2. The old fellow searching for a way to get back the painting of his sister.

When I wrote it, I seriously thought it didn't matter because nobody would care what I wrote. Obviously, you did...My bad.