Topic: have you caught your partner cheated you
Atul's photo
Tue 02/16/21 01:01 PM
have you ever caught your partner to cheated you and still you are with him/her without telling this because you love him/her a lot and don’t want to loose the relationship... any experience guys?

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Tue 02/16/21 01:27 PM
I suspect my wife has cheated very early in our relation and possibly later too, occasionally. Personally, I don't want to know and I don't care. I feel fidelity is given too much importance in general. If evey now and then someone has sime fun with someone else personally I do not see it too much as an issue, as long as the other is kept happy. If one as sex with others but not with partner... then it is a serious problem...

JASON BROOME's photo
Tue 02/16/21 01:34 PM
have you ever caught your partner to cheated you and still you are with him/her without telling this because you love him/her a lot and don’t want to loose the relationship... any experience guys?

WELL THIS IS THE CASE WITH MOST RELATIONSHIPS FAIL FROM TIME 2 TIME SEE ITS ALREADY DESTINY HOW CAN U CHANGE U GOTTA LEARN A LESSON FROM IT COME OUT BETTER THAN YOU EVER THOUGHT U COULD

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Tue 02/16/21 01:35 PM
have you ever caught your partner to cheated you and still you are with him/her without telling this because you love him/her a lot and don’t want to loose the relationship... any experience guys?

No.

Sorry.

For me, personally, to do that (stay with them), I'd have to be a complete moron, with absolutely no self esteem, pathetic and insecure.

And to know and not say anything? To me that would just make me complicit and supportive.

That's just me.

I have no desire to change into that type of person.

You know how people say "Don't try to change me!"

Not everyone consciously tries to change people.
Change naturally happens.

All relationships will change you. Every interaction with another person changes you.

I would not value a "relationship" (not willing to lose them) at the cost of changing into someone I don't want to be and couldn't respect.

So, sorry, I personally can't help you. I have no experience in that situation.

JASON BROOME's photo
Tue 02/16/21 01:51 PM
No.

Sorry.

For me, personally, to do that (stay with them), I'd have to be a complete moron, with absolutely no self esteem, pathetic and insecure.

And to know and not say anything? To me that would just make me complicit and supportive.

That's just me.

I have no desire to change into that type of person.

You know how people say "Don't try to change me!"

Not everyone consciously tries to change people.
Change naturally happens.

All relationships will change you. Every interaction with another person changes you.

I would not value a "relationship" (not willing to lose them) at the cost of changing into someone I don't want to be and couldn't respect.

So, sorry, I personally can't help you. I have no experience in that situation.

WELL UNDER STANDABLE BUT IT ALWAYS DIFFERNT CIRCUMSTANCES 4 EVERYONE

Toodygirl5's photo
Tue 02/16/21 01:51 PM

have you ever caught your partner to cheated you and still you are with him/her without telling this because you love him/her a lot and don’t want to loose the relationship... any experience guys?



No

Atul's photo
Thu 02/18/21 04:50 AM
Agreed.. everyone have their personal life and can take decisions accordingly

Atul's photo
Thu 02/18/21 04:52 AM
I think we should give one chance to everyone but the mistake is repeated then that’s a serious issue..

Atul's photo
Thu 02/18/21 04:53 AM
Great.. I think your partner is too smart.. :smiley:

mysticalview21's photo
Thu 02/18/21 04:56 AM
I can say I never had a affair ...till I got hurt by his ...


if you love them ...try and work it out honestly ...
if not then leave... when you can ...

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 02/18/21 05:09 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Thu 02/18/21 05:10 AM

I think we should give one chance to everyone but the mistake is repeated then that’s a serious issue..

I think it's a bit more complex than just that.
What is wise and best depends on a great many things. Like the quality of the relationship, the duration of it, is it even a relationship or more like regular dating, are there children, was it a one time thing, are you living together (so what is the investment in each other so far), are you 100% certain or did you hear rumours through the grapevine or your own insecurity, and so on and so forth.

And then the most important one, if there is a real relationship, and you were invested quite a lot in one another... could you live with it if you forgave them? Or are you going to bring it up again and again, get bitter, and so on.
If you can't live with it and keep getting triggered, there's no point in continuing.