If you don't look at yourself. I've done this myself in the past,so part of me understands the questions that some of us ask. I know as most questin are asked over and over again just a new person asking them at times. It's good inthe sence of hearing others opinions so I tak what I can and learn from it. But one thing that comes to mind is that most will ask theses question why this or why that and not look at themselves. I brang this up before and knowing there has been a feew new people that have joined this site. I see the circle looping around again. I think I have brang up some of the topic's to remind myself it starts with me from the inside out. If I can't grow and learn lives little experiences. Well some not so little lol and aply them to my life. How can I grow in any relationship I have. I have found myself in the past and at times not understanding where someone might be or how there feeling because I wasn't being honest with myself on who I am and what I do in my life. So today is one of them days where I have to step back and look at me and them try to understand the others. If any of this made sence and some one has there opinion. I have open ears sorta speak

Yep stepping back at looking at ones self is a never ending process...Its a good excercise to do too, even if the need isnt there...

Makes lots of sense Shadow.
I look at my actions frequently, helps keep the bad from sneaking back in.

It's hard at times but when I do, things seem to make more sence and I'm not so hard on yself.

ShadowDog, you hit it right on the head! Learning and growth are a never ending process. If we don't take the time to examine ourselves, our actions, our motivations, we are doomed to keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again. It can be a self-destructive process. We can keep hiding our head in the sand and blame others or outside sources when things go badly or we can take a look at the choices we made that let to the outcome. One thing I like to keep in mind is that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. When that happens, it's time to step back and take a look and make whatever changes are necessary. Change is difficult and it is scary but it is essential.

Shadowdog he wares glasses in his pics.

Suzin, I like the part about you talking about how we go over an over the same things at times. It's when we actually learn what ever it is at that time and it comes up latter, we will know how to deal with it better. For me right now it's it's adjusting living with my gf and our little one on the way. So i'm taking what I know and learnd in my past to except some of the changes. One thing I do know, is not to give into my old thinking.

Good luck to you! Believe me, I know from experience how hard it can be to change old patterns of behavior, sometimes you don't even realize what you're doing, they're so ingrained in your psyche. Just live life one moment at a time, and remember, Buddha says all things must change, it's the nature of the world. What seems unendurable right at this moment, will change soon enough. You can help it along sometimes and sometimes, you just need to be patient and wait it out.

Well said Shadow.
It all comes from within....For instance, if one doesn't like / love themselves then how on earth can they like anyone else?..
Everything we do, say, comes from within...Actions speak louder then words, which are also from within ourselves..

Good point Shadow, thanks for sharing..