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What Motown said was right on.
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What is the dating scene like when you're over 60? I know several younger couples who have met on here, but I don't know many people my age who have. Have people maybe become cynical as they aged? Got burned in marriages and are afraid to trust or even try again? I turn 60 this year (if I make it). I met my current gf on this site about 3 years ago this October. So far, its working well. I'm here for the forums, as entertainment. When I'm with her, I need no other entertainment so I am not here. Some people have become cynical as they age. Some have not. Personally, I don't think I am cynical but I am wiser and I do use better judgement. I do have better emotional control and more maturity in how I think. I've put away childish things. I don't play with other people's hearts. I respect the experiences of others. I understand other's need to express themselves as they feel they need to. I try to refrain from making assumptions and deal with things at face value. I try to live in reality instead of delusion. The "online dating" tool is effective if you use it correctly. Like any tool, it is designed to do a job and when you try to do a job it is not designed to do, its not a very good tool at all. Many people have the idea "online dating" is 'actual' dating. It is not. Dating requires physical presence and personal interaction in real-time. The online tool is there to help you find someone with whom you can meet and have an actual date with. If you never meet, you are using the tool wrong. The actual dating step is pretty much the same as it was for most of your life. You learn about the other person, you allow them to be themselves while they allow you to be yourself and you embrace the similarities to create a more intimate relationship. When them being themselves fills you with joy and When you being yourself fills them with joy You embrace that connection to fill both of your lives with joy in one another. If the joy is broken in any step of that connection, you move on and gain wisdom from your experience. You don't need to hurt them because they didn't live up to being someone you decided they should be. Such childish games should be behind you now. At 60 years of age you should know and understand yourself and what you want in your life. You date to find someone to share that with in a loving, caring manner. If you are still playing mind games, you will have trouble finding that special connection. Likewise, if you choose poorly, you will be miserable. Choose wisely. |
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I turn 60 this year (if I make it). I met my current gf on this site about 3 years ago this October. So far, its working well. I'm here for the forums, as entertainment. When I'm with her, I need no other entertainment so I am not here. Some people have become cynical as they age. Some have not. Personally, I don't think I am cynical but I am wiser and I do use better judgement. I do have better emotional control and more maturity in how I think. I've put away childish things. I don't play with other people's hearts. I respect the experiences of others. I understand other's need to express themselves as they feel they need to. I try to refrain from making assumptions and deal with things at face value. I try to live in reality instead of delusion. The "online dating" tool is effective if you use it correctly. Like any tool, it is designed to do a job and when you try to do a job it is not designed to do, its not a very good tool at all. Many people have the idea "online dating" is 'actual' dating. It is not. Dating requires physical presence and personal interaction in real-time. The online tool is there to help you find someone with whom you can meet and have an actual date with. If you never meet, you are using the tool wrong. The actual dating step is pretty much the same as it was for most of your life. You learn about the other person, you allow them to be themselves while they allow you to be yourself and you embrace the similarities to create a more intimate relationship. When them being themselves fills you with joy and When you being yourself fills them with joy You embrace that connection to fill both of your lives with joy in one another. If the joy is broken in any step of that connection, you move on and gain wisdom from your experience. You don't need to hurt them because they didn't live up to being someone you decided they should be. Such childish games should be behind you now. At 60 years of age you should know and understand yourself and what you want in your life. You date to find someone to share that with in a loving, caring manner. If you are still playing mind games, you will have trouble finding that special connection. Likewise, if you choose poorly, you will be miserable. Choose wisely. Thanks for sharing your experience and your wise advice! |
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I'm 69 and looking.
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Edited by
Nanette
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Fri 04/09/21 08:34 PM
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People date after 60? I'm trying to 
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Yes us over 60 have embraced our wisdom and no better
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People date after 60? OH YEAH WE DO! ..........will..................way. |
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yes, people do date after they turn 60 years of age. I have to admit it's much harder now to meet single men in my age range who are interested in dating. I've tried a few Meet-up groups in my city (a few years back) and it was ok. And unfortunately I've been approached by a few scammers on this site. I'm going to try to find other avenues to meet people, good luck to all of us 60+ crowd. I am a single male over 60 and everything still works if you know what I mean and I'm interested in ladies in our age group |
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Well I’m over 70 and I’d still like to have a lady in my life but a women that still likes to cuddle and kiss and make love and I’m not looking for a nanny with a fanny but a genuine lady that still enjoys a bit of sexual fun .
An old fool |
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60 is tough, retired on fixed income, no overtime. no transportation to keep costs down...i know how good of shape i am in not going to go out with someone in worse shape...just qualified for medicare which covers a lot and going to get things looked at and hopefully by the time the lockdown lifts i will be ready to date. Life is tough after 60 for women too. After you get by all the scammers, married men, and little boys, you have to watch out for older men looking for a "nurse with a purse". |
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When I first got divorced I dated a lot, probably just to prove I could. I was married for over 25 years. It slowly changed over time and I slowly dated less and less, don't know how to explain it. I was looking for something, but not sure what. Sound crazy? Probably, but I haven't dated in over a year now. Pandemic probably helped that, but still didn't really miss it until recently. Randomly joined this site a few days ago at a whim. Will be 61 later this year...we'll see how that works out
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