Topic: distrust vs. gut feeling
anthsm22's photo
Fri 12/28/07 03:25 AM
Good morning to you all. As you enter into new relationships in this comming year and even beyond for some, learn to disipher the difference between your distrust which has been influenced by past abuse and the gut feelings that you get. Becoming aware that there is a difference, will allow you to become more empathetic to your relationship and thereby giving you a better chance at the good ones. If you do this, when you are not even with your partner, you can feel what they are doing and thinking. This is a great tool to have because it may save you from a broken heart, or allow you to blossom with that someone special and give you what you want and deserve,

madamx7316's photo
Fri 12/28/07 04:28 AM
very awesome advice. i have a problem separating the two. i tend to follow my gut more i think. if i didnt, i might miss out on something fantastic. i could babble about this forever lmao...:tongue:

klugman's photo
Fri 12/28/07 04:57 AM
I followed my gut with my X fiancee...she left me two weeks before Christmas...
Turns out she just wanted to go back to her X husband, who is abusive...

I'm never gonna go with my gut again.

Fade2Black's photo
Fri 12/28/07 05:56 AM

Good morning to you all. As you enter into new relationships in this comming year and even beyond for some, learn to disipher the difference between your distrust which has been influenced by past abuse and the gut feelings that you get. Becoming aware that there is a difference, will allow you to become more empathetic to your relationship and thereby giving you a better chance at the good ones. If you do this, when you are not even with your partner, you can feel what they are doing and thinking. This is a great tool to have because it may save you from a broken heart, or allow you to blossom with that someone special and give you what you want and deserve,


Nice. I'm already blossoming :tongue: and we've been thru the distrust and back around again for the good stuff! drinker

smooveb1's photo
Fri 12/28/07 06:26 AM

I followed my gut with my X fiancee...she left me two weeks before Christmas...
Turns out she just wanted to go back to her X husband, who is abusive...

I'm never gonna go with my gut again.


Wow, the exact same happened to me. Sucks.

klugman's photo
Fri 12/28/07 06:29 AM
Like nothin else...


Especially when they have cried on your shoulder numerous times.

kkoldazice's photo
Fri 12/28/07 06:43 AM
awesome advice anthsm... even better advice as long as both partners are willing to listen and attempt it! flowerforyou

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Fri 12/28/07 11:39 AM
I always wind up with men who are just distrusting, which in turn makes me not trust them. I always go with my gut, and when my gut says "there's a reason he's acting weird" I investigate and usually high tail it outta there.

no photo
Fri 12/28/07 11:52 AM
I'm never gonna go with my gut again. grumble Unfortunately, learned not to trust my gut. Ever again. It picks wrong every time. I find the wait and see worthwhile.

no photo
Fri 12/28/07 12:03 PM
Your gut doesnt pick......your mind does~~!!!laugh laugh laugh

You can really pick up on peoples vibe.....if you sit by quietly, around them.......good or bad, you can usually pick something up yet you choose not to look at the signs....Ive done this as well but Ive learned to trust my gut.....

Its not distrust...

AaronzDad's photo
Fri 12/28/07 12:11 PM
As the saying goes:

If you continue to do what you've always done you will continue to get what you've always got.

Change isn't usually easy but is often necessary.

nightimefantasy's photo
Fri 12/28/07 01:23 PM
I have to agree with gypsy
I always follow my gut instincts, and is normally never wrong. But that does not mean one can't make the wrong choices, or take the wrong road along the way.
You have to learn to listen to your body's warning signs.
When you start second guessing yourself, that is when most people make the wrong choices.
Good luck though with future choices


klugman's photo
Fri 12/28/07 03:25 PM
Also, I have learned the hard way. If there is a warning sign, you had better pay attention to it. Dont just ignore obvious warnings, because you want it to work out.

I had to learn that one twice...ohwell