So, if you remember my past ex-gf, the one who would break up and get back with me all the time for no apparent reason...she needed help moving back from TX to CA. She needed help because she was driving back with all her belongings in her car, and didn't feel safe driving back on her own. She couldn't get her friends to do it (verified to be true). So, I agreed to help her. A few weeks prior to this she was leaving me 15 minute voicemails about how she wants me back, she made a mistake, she needs me, she'll do anything for me, if I don't trust her I can check her email, her phone, anything to gain my trust back, etc. She left voicemails because I wasn't answering her calls. She left 12 + of these kinds of voicemails.

So, I fly out to TX (paid by her), and she picked me up at the airport. The night prior, she said she was going out to dinner with her co-workers as a farewell kind of thing. It got to be 10pm TX time, and I sent her a text message asking where she was (usually she's texting me often and I hadn't heard from her for over 6 hours). No reply. I send another one at 12pm TX time, and another one at 2am TX time. Finally, at 4am TX time, I get a reply saying, "I went to sleep early because of the big day tomorrow, and I need my sleep. Well, I'm going back to sleep now."

Now for the part where I need the most help. About 1am TX time driving, she says she's really tired and we need to stop at a hotel. I said, "I thought you went to sleep early last night, you should be able to stay up later than 1am." She protested she's tired, so we stopped at a hotel. As we were turning in for the night, something didn't seem right to me. I inquired if I could check her phone. She made a big deal about it and started yelling at me. I told her, "if you want me to trust you, and you have nothing to hide, then I should be allowed to check it like you said to me all those times, right?" She just continued yelling at me telling me I have no right to do it, it's her personal stuff and she doesn't want me to. Finally, I'm able to check it for 1 min., and I discover she's tired because she went to the club last night.

Now, my mind is going a million miles a minute. I figure, she sent me a text message that said she went to sleep early, and just woke up at 4am TX time. She didn't reply to my messages because she was at the club. If she wants me back so bad, why is her phone full of text messages talking to her friends about hot guys at the club and how much fun she was having. She continues to lie to me that she went to sleep early, and said she went to a friend's house, not the club. Finally, it becomes more clear than water that she did go to the club and she confesses. She got down on her knees and begged for another chance. I told her to get away from me and let me sleep because now it's 4am and we have a lot of driving ahead of us. She sat up all night, and didn't sleep. I didn't really sleep much either. She confessed to me that the only reason she's moving to CA is to be with me...I told her we can turn around tomorrow, you can buy me a ticket back to CA, and you can return to your life in TX, but she burned her bridges with her family there by leaving in the first place, so now she's stuck.

In the course of that night, she lied to me over 20 times, mostly lies to cover up her previous lies about where she was, and what she was doing. If you count the fact that she didn't reply to my text messages, that's even more lies, and the final text message at 4am she sent me was another lie. A pre-conceived and thought out lie. It's not so much I have a problem with her going to the club, it's that she felt she had to lie about it.

I don't know what to do, she's still begging me for another chance. My feelings are torn, because in part, I still hold her in my heart, but then again...that's a lot of lying...

hi common sence knocking here....

every heard the phrase history repeats its self..
lets see she breaks up with u and takes u back for no reason..

she does it because she knows she can and she enjoys the power and playing like the pawn you are in here little game

get a clue,she enjoys using you cuz she knows its too easy,how about u block her number or what ever and move on.or continue to look like a stupid fool your choice

dont mean so sound me but sorry

Trust is broken, trust must be earned back.

Take her to Cali, let her get settled there, but remain strictly friends. If she earns your trust back, great. If she doesn't, that's her problem and you can move on without any guilt.

And in the end, staying inaccessible as a romantic interest will only make her want you more.

i agree with southern-bee...

Yeah, I have to agree with most of that. Do NOT let her play you like that.

If they lie once they will lie again........geeeeeeeez move on and get someone you can "trust". There is no point and no sex is that great if you cant even trust them.

lol gypsy lol i do agree with her.
thanks open heart

i speak from experience,once i finally left him and got a back bone,ive been so happy.

so grow a back bone and and some nuts

shell use use until the day u die

Like they say -- the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.....if she lies that much in a brief span of time, what do you think is going to happen later on?

I would have been done with her as soon as I found out about the first lie....

hmmm...this is a good one.

I would say that if she is doing this to you already then she is probably going to keep doing it in the relationship. If she knows she can leave you and then mess up and then come crying back and you take her back she is just going to keep doing it to you. I don't know this girl, but I have been in a similar situation...not as intense but the whole lying thing. If she thinks she can get away with what she is doing and you will still take her back then it probably won't change or get worse. I say move on. I mean come on...you went all the way to TX to help her move and she thanx you by lying and going out to a club to hang out with friends and look at hot guys. I understand going to a club isn't bad, but she didn't have to lie to you about it. That means she prolly is hiding something bigger. I will end this with a saying my stepmom always tells me.....A tiger never changes it's stripes.

Hope it works out for you.

lex!yes listen to lex hes super smart!

i've dealt w this sort of liar it realy never ends

can you say pain in the f*ckin ass! sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. and if shes lying to you this much now, imagine how much she'll lie when you tell her this kind of behavior is ok in a relationship if you take her back for the umteenth time! let her go!