I just wanted to put this out there for discussion. Few days ago, me and the fellas at work had this discussion on is dating someone you work with, or work at the same place with, a good idea? Can it work if you choose to? Or should you keep dating and work life seperate?

My opinion, and a rule I have, is I do not date any women that work where I work....period. I just feel you should keep the two seperate. I say this cause while there are some (very few) who have success with this, majority of the time it ends up not working and you see and all of a sudden, work sucks alot more when that happens.

I go to work to earn my living. I have friends there, and I have fun and good off there. I spend alot of my week there, so why in the world would I want to put any kind of strain on that? If I date someone where I work, and it goes bad, all of a sudden, I am dreading going to work and the whole place will know about it, will create drama, and etc., etc., etc. I just don't need that in my life, so I choose to not date anyone I work with.

But, what say you JSH community? Discuss.

Depends on how big the company you work for is. The place I work for is rather large and it I dated someone from here I probably would never see her unless I went out of my way.

i never do it i have a girl hitting on me and even said we could just have sex with no strings attached.i am waiting for the right girl it has been over 2 years.

I agree I don't think it would work out.

I dated someone that I worked with. I worked with him, and dated him, for 2 years. Dont get me wrong, I cared about him more than ever, but I would never do it again. Multiple times, I had the higher ups coming and as me if I wanted a promotion, but I could never do it because I would be his boss. Work and dating do not mix. More often than not, all it does is hold someone back, and then it causes more resentment and strain in the relationship.

I don't date people I work with either. It's a big enough place were I to meet someone from another department but my department is rather exclusive so that's terribly unlikely. That aside, THEY'RE ALL MARRIED or just not 'on the list of possibilities' if ya know what I mean. Could it work out, ya I suppose so but it would be tough and if it didn't work out, it would be all those things you mentioned. OTOH, what if you missed out on *the one* just because you happened to work with him/her?

I will never date anyone from work. There is a thing called spending to much time with each other and we all need our space.

No matter what kind of spin you put on it's never a good idea to "fish off the company pier"!!

I can t do it, they all work for me

Well, the strippers who work for me just are not dating material. So.....................................

damn, mine don t strip.

I dated my boss when I was younger. It was at a nightclub downtown. He was a promotions manager and I started working for him, helping with promotions, at first. Then I moved to working nights at the club while he still worked days. By that point we were living together and working together. Every time we had an argument everyone we worked with knew about it. The only time we were apart was when he went to work in the morning because I stayed home but in the evenings when I went to work he went too to hang out and drink!
So, long story short it was hell on earth after we split up to be working so close together and having to see each other every day of the week. Until my boss came to me one day and told me they were firing him!!!
Very very bad idea to date someone you work with!

I agree with you dave. It does depend on how big the company is. I dated this girl where I work for a while. We broke up 6 months agao (and it was a bad breakup) but I never see her. We both still work for the same company but we're not only in different buildings but different zip codes!!! So, although she works in the HR department, I never see her. And if I need HR for a problem, there are 4 other people in that department I go to instead now.

I work at a chemical plant, and it is a huge place and all, but you would be surprised how fast gossip flies around there. I mean, people out here...well, it is like high school, only we are supposed to be adults. I have known a couple of people who have left that place because of a failed relationship, and then the after effects of it just made life miserable for them. Thus, they left.

Not to mention that I also know of one account where when this girl dumped a manager out at the plant, he made some crap up and got her fired. Yeah....people can be little b*tches.

I don't think it is a good idea to date on the job. If you break up and start dating someone else who also works there it will be a nightmare.

Of course, there is no one on my job to date so perhaps I'm just a "hater"....LOL

Well, I know of a couple of ladies who made it known they were interested in me, but I made sure they knew it wasn't going to happen. Not even one date. I just do not do it. So, in a way, I guess I am a hater as well.

i dont get my pleasure and my paycheck at the same location...bad idea

I've always been told "Never dip your pen in the company inkwell"

i did it once and will never do it again... now my best friend works with me, and so does her soon to be ex husband, and they work the same job, are the only 2 doing it, and have to spend all day everyday together... there is no way i could do that, plus she got him the job after she filed for divorce. it's weird!