OK... Bear with me in my attempt to put this into words....

WHy is it that we can fall for some one with only seeing pictures and talking to them and just when we think they feel the same way about us...POOF its back to the ex...

I really like this guy and i thought he liked me too...or thats what he said...we've been talking for about a month now, and suddleny on the day we were suppost to finally meet face to face. he gets back with his ex. he says its a saftey thing cuz he didnt think i was gonna come see him. but i've offered to walk over 6 miles to see him(I dont drive and he doesnt either) and the only reason i didnt was because he didnt think it was safe for me to do that...so i didnt...and i found a ride to see him but suddlenly me calling was a bother because he was hanging out with his ex and they had gotten back together..and now hes confused because he doesnt know if he wants to stay with his ex or break up with her because he likes me too...Now i dont want to be the reason he breaks up with her. but i dont know what to do...should i stand aside and not talk to him anymore, or just be friends with him? or should i try and make him see how i feel and how this affects me? I dont know if anyone else has been through this or not...and some advice would be nice....

Let him go, sounds like a guy full of excuses. Perhaps he is just a player? I don't know, whatever you do don't set yourself up.......good luck, hope it all works out.

my advice end it move on its not right for him to keep u in limbo.u make the choice

I've been through it with the same guy a few times. And I can honestly tell you that you need to go with your gut. I believe that if they leave once for someone else, they'll do it again. Think of your best interest. Not his. How would you feel if you stayed friends with him, knowing he was with her? How would you feel if you cut the ties? And what if you can't make him realize how it makes you feel because he is only thinking of himself also?

yea i liked this woman and i thought she liked me too but all she did was give me excusses so i didnt bother with her any more and come to find out when we were talking she already liked some other guy.

only seen pic and talked online for a month? Not like it is determined he is the one and only anyway. Seems funny to me that when it came right time to meet he all of a sudden was back with his ex. seems like he never really had any intention of meeting and this is his saftey net. Only six miles away, he is a player!!!!!!

Use your head, you know what to do.. keep your heart intact to love another day. A guy like that will only make your life hell cause as soon as he comes around and you and he are together, he'll be going back to his ex for one reason or another. You managed to catch him in time, he showed his true colors, get out, move on. Best of luck to you, truly!

Sorry to hear it happened to you.

Unfortunately there are many online and in real life just like you described...many messed up people emotionally, mentally and can carry a lot of unseen baggage.

All we can do is try to take it slow, ask tons of questions and see how well the puzzles fit. Its not gender specific although it is usually more prominent in women, but you happened into a guy that "plays" that bs too.

Move on is your best bet....and good luck in your search.

Or, maybe he and his ex never broke up in the first place. If a man can't make up his mind then he really isn't worth all the effort you're put into this. I mean, if he wanted to be with you he would. Regardless of his situation with his so called "ex-girlfriend". My advice is to tell him how you feel and see where it goes from there. Don't put your life on hold for anyone. Because in they end you might not know it's it worth it.

Good luck, hope things work out for you.

I really care about him and i dont want him to leave her for me...i would rather him be with her or anyone else and be happy....but part of me will always wonder WHAT IF... I know its not fair to me...but he's calling me later tonight...and i wanna make him reilze how i feel and then back off and let him deicde for him self...but i dont know if i should

If he's just going to dump you over because of possibly getting back with an ex, then he's not worth it. It sounds like he's not even willing to meet you as a friend, so he's definitly not worth it.

I really care about him and i dont want him to leave her for me...i would rather him be with her or anyone else and be happy....but part of me will always wonder WHAT IF... I know its not fair to me...but he's calling me later tonight...and i wanna make him reilze how i feel and then back off and let him deicde for him self...but i dont know if i should


So tell him tonight to come and meet you or your done with him. I am telling you he will have yet another excuse......try it and tell me I am wrong.....

u r justing asking for hurt

That's what I would do. You'll wonder WHAT IF your whole life. That will never change. But you have to think of what would make you happy. If you make him realize how you feel, it could be for better or for worse. It just depends on him.

Like talking to daughter that won't take advice......lol. Being old has its advantages, have been around and know how to spot a wolf in sheeps clothing. Save yourself and take the advice.....have a great one>

I really care about him and i dont want him to leave her for me...i would rather him be with her or anyone else and be happy....but part of me will always wonder WHAT IF... I know its not fair to me...but he's calling me later tonight...and i wanna make him reilze how i feel and then back off and let him deicde for him self...but i dont know if i should


So tell him tonight to come and meet you or your done with him. I am telling you he will have yet another excuse......try it and tell me I am wrong.....


I know i should but he doesnt drive...he got his licence taken away a bout a year ago.... I dont want to wonder my whole life about what could have been, and i dont want to be hurt again...

I think i should just tell him i cant talk to him anymore

If you continue it, then you're taking a huge risk on yourself. If he is "unstable" as you make it clearly sound, then you place yourself in a very risky position. So if you don;t want to take a chance of getting hit by a truck...don;t play on the highway.

he aint got enough blood running to his brain leave the fool

From what I'm gathering here...everyone has basicly told me that i'm setting my self up to get hurt...maybe not now but in the long run...so for once in my life i'm not gonna bend over backwards for some one else... I'm not going to play this game with him....I'm gonna tell him i'm done...he can either lose my number, or call me if he wants to COME See me...and not me go out there...Thanks for all the help...

Good luck...and don't let him "string" you.