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Topic: Object to this?
countrybelle6471's photo
Fri 02/08/08 07:51 AM
would i bring a child along no Its no ideal,and my girl is 13,she knows that I have meet a few men from the internet,So we have a call back plan..She is allowed to call me At least 1 time during the date,Just so she knows I'm safe & I call her.She worries so that I will or can get hurt..And several other things I do to ensure extra safty..flowerforyou

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Fri 02/08/08 11:43 AM
I actually had a girl do this. She just showed up with her infant son and said she couldn't find a babysitter and didn't want to cancel. I thought it was weird, but I went along with it. I never saw her again. I think it's inappropriate at best. You're supposed to be getting to know someone.

As the person who had a date bring their child, it is strange no matter what age the child is. Even if the child is in diapers, it changes the dynamic of the date. If the child is older, you don't know how much to pay attention to the kid Vs. how much you're supposed to pay attention to your date. It just complicates things.

As a parent, I would never take my son on a first date. He was VERY upset when my ex fiance' and I broke up. I wouldn't want to expose him to a bunch of random women. I certainly wouldn't want him to become attached to a girl that I might not be seeing for very long. And honestly, if I'm trying to get to know this girl, how much attention am I paying to my son? I wouldn't think it would be fair to either of them.

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Fri 02/08/08 11:44 AM
I actually had a girl do this. She just showed up with her infant son and said she couldn't find a babysitter and didn't want to cancel. I thought it was weird, but I went along with it. I never saw her again. I think it's inappropriate at best. You're supposed to be getting to know someone.

As the person who had a date bring their child, it is strange no matter what age the child is. Even if the child is in diapers, it changes the dynamic of the date. If the child is older, you don't know how much to pay attention to the kid Vs. how much you're supposed to pay attention to your date. It just complicates things.

As a parent, I would never take my son on a first date. He was VERY upset when my ex fiance' and I broke up. I wouldn't want to expose him to a bunch of random women. I certainly wouldn't want him to become attached to a girl that I might not be seeing for very long. And honestly, if I'm trying to get to know this girl, how much attention am I paying to my son? I wouldn't think it would be fair to either of them.

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Fri 02/08/08 12:15 PM
I would never bring a child on the first date......for one the child doesnt need to get attached to some random person....its not fair....and if the child was small.....definately NO!!! Too many weirdo child molestors out there!!!noway noway noway

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Sat 02/09/08 10:29 AM
Bad idea. First dates are for the adults to get to know each other. Can't imagine doing that.

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Sat 02/09/08 10:45 AM
this is a first date for gawd's sake..not a life time commitment lmao

if you take your kids on a first date, you better know the person well..or have them bring their kids and go to a zoo or a park or whatnot..something for the kids to do..

it's a laid back thing, have some fun with it..enjoy your kids and don't get too serious..

i'd rather have fun on my date..cuz trust me..if he's not entertaining, then i don't wanna be bored..my kids will be entertaining

madamx7316's photo
Sat 02/09/08 10:46 AM
yes. unless both parties had a young child then making it a "play date" or "family thing" is different. otherwise, you need that time to get to know each other jmo

ellgee1976's photo
Sat 02/09/08 10:51 AM

yes. unless both parties had a young child then making it a "play date" or "family thing" is different. otherwise, you need that time to get to know each other jmo


exactly..kids aren't gonna 'attach' themselves to a person when they're only a friend, especially if they know in advance that it's only a first meeting, not a lifetime commitment..

course..you'd have to explain to the kids ...it's a friend..nothing more at that point

steelersgirltina's photo
Sat 02/09/08 10:53 AM
I would not do that but I dont have kids so I dont have a problem. I have a problem with having a date.
LOL:tongue: laugh

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