I posted yesterday "need an honest guy to explain". the response i recieved was overwhelming. You taught and confirmed alot for me. the guy that i was talking 2 recently who just stopped replying or contacting me, was really the 1st man i have had any involvement with in about a year. I was in no way in love or heartbroken. I was angry. I will never be convinced that everyperson in this world deserves more respect and honesty, than 2 be ignored. This hurt my pride not my heart. I wrote about it yesterday 2 get different views and i guess confirm my feelings. I have been nervous about dating agian, and frankly was afraid that my past luck was largely do to my more giving/understanding/laid back personality. what the majority of the messages i recieved showed me, is that several people i have never met, and had only read what i wrote could accurately pin point these personality traits( ie. i am very transparent) lol

i have had multiple tragedies and let downs in life. I have always been determined not to sit in self pity, but believe that there was more waiting for me. I have always picked my self up, put my smile back on and say, it was a mistake. I have held goodness in my heart and belief and trust in people. I have never wanted 2 b angry,cynical, or untrusting. 2 realize that these things mixed with the wrong people have been a downfall for me is a little disturbing. Today i do feel like i have lost a little bit of me. I think men see me as someone who doesn't need or deserve basic respect. That I will not have in my life. I am worth more than that, i demand more than that for myself.

If you read various profiles and forums on here about what both men and women are looking for, you may see that many r exactly the same. The majority want someone honest, trustworthy, caring, a successful RELATIONSHIPS, WITHOUT GAMES. so maybe all men and women are not so different. Maybe these desired qualities in people are often overrlooked or not appreciated or maybe not noticed until it is to late.

I can not speak for men, I know what i am looking for as a woman. I have not personally met any other women who not looking for similar qualities in a partner.

Very simply women want to be loved. they want respect and to feel like they are important to you. they want to know you cherish them and that you think of them

You have a beautiful heart. You'll find someone who deserves you

Thanks 4 that, i needed it

"..the trick is to keep breathing.." --Garbage

Stay true to yourself and eventually it will all work out.

that so very true i loved your post ,strightup and honest

keep ur chin up,,it will happen one day,,,,,,i hope,,,i ben waiting for years

You are so right!!!

what a lovely soul...cupids in the air

Thank you all for your responses. they have made me feel better