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redhead44613's photo
Mon 02/25/08 09:12 AM
stop urself from fallin for sumone to fast?? I do it alot...I have meet this guy an Im fallin to fast for him... we click an Im pretty sure he likes me... hes a gentlemen holds doors for me, we have hung out 2times an no kiss yet just hugs...so I know he respects me, just tring not to get my hopes up..any ideas? drinker bigsmile

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Mon 02/25/08 09:13 AM

stop urself from fallin for sumone to fast?? I do it alot...I have meet this guy an Im fallin to fast for him... we click an Im pretty sure he likes me... hes a gentlemen holds doors for me, we have hung out 2times an no kiss yet just hugs...so I know he respects me, just tring not to get my hopes up..any ideas? drinker bigsmile

Girl you are askin the WRONG one if you askin me..lol..I do that myselflaugh

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Mon 02/25/08 09:13 AM
What do you mean, falling too fast?

Do you mean infatuation, lust.. or planning the colors for your wedding? flowerforyou

redhead44613's photo
Mon 02/25/08 09:14 AM

What do you mean, falling too fast?

Do you mean infatuation, lust.. or planning the colors for your wedding? flowerforyou

infatuation an lust

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Mon 02/25/08 09:15 AM
Edited by Gumbyvs on Mon 02/25/08 09:16 AM
God I remember those years, I always wanted the girl to fall fast, and have sex by the third date. Oh the memories. But you'll never know how fast is too fast, until you screw up half a dozen times.

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Mon 02/25/08 09:16 AM
I know its hard but I to used to do that, I would meet someone and then because we "clicked" I would stop dating others and wait on this ONE guy to realize what a GEM I was...
Now I just try to see them as friends and try to realize that I would rather be single than miserable.. if you move to fast you dont' see them for the WHOLE picture you just see what you want.. BACK up go on a date with someone else JUST A DATE.. and pay attention...as soon as you let them know that THEY ARE IT FOR YOU.. then they start either backing away or running right along with you.. Maybe he is into you to but the only way to find out could be the only way to lose what could be a great thing.. FORCE yourself to date someone else just a date or two and don't play games.. don't act like you don't like him just don't throw yourself at his mercy.. Good luck

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Mon 02/25/08 09:17 AM

God I remember those years, I always wanted the girl to fall fast, and have sex by the third date. Oh the memories. But you'll never know how fast is too fast, until you screw up half a dozen times.

I dont wanna mess this up... we get along great an I like being around him, hes smart an funny an just amazing

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Mon 02/25/08 09:19 AM


God I remember those years, I always wanted the girl to fall fast, and have sex by the third date. Oh the memories. But you'll never know how fast is too fast, until you screw up half a dozen times.

I dont wanna mess this up... we get along great an I like being around him, hes smart an funny an just amazing


I have the same memories of about 10 women. You just never know what's going to happen in 2 months, 6 months, a year, 5 years. All you can do is live in the moment, and if the moment last 2 days or the rest of your life, enjoy every moment the best you can.

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Mon 02/25/08 09:20 AM

I know its hard but I to used to do that, I would meet someone and then because we "clicked" I would stop dating others and wait on this ONE guy to realize what a GEM I was...
Now I just try to see them as friends and try to realize that I would rather be single than miserable.. if you move to fast you dont' see them for the WHOLE picture you just see what you want.. BACK up go on a date with someone else JUST A DATE.. and pay attention...as soon as you let them know that THEY ARE IT FOR YOU.. then they start either backing away or running right along with you.. Maybe he is into you to but the only way to find out could be the only way to lose what could be a great thing.. FORCE yourself to date someone else just a date or two and don't play games.. don't act like you don't like him just don't throw yourself at his mercy.. Good luck

thank you.. Im tring hard not to show it alot that I like him... with my working this new job I will be busy an we wont talk a whole lot..

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Mon 02/25/08 09:20 AM
Hot damn I'm pretty f'in deep when I'm exhausted after work in the morning! smokin

redhead44613's photo
Mon 02/25/08 09:23 AM

Hot damn I'm pretty f'in deep when I'm exhausted after work in the morning! smokin

lol it helps thank you

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Mon 02/25/08 09:24 AM
There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone right away, nor in acting on that attraction. Physical attraction does not mean anything further would ever develop, though.

What you should be aware of is keeping your feelings in perspective. Lust is not love, and true feelings take time and effective communication to discern. You should be in no hurry. Try to put some perspective on things and keep certain boundaries.

Do what feels right and natural, not what you want to feel. Just be honest, communicative, and true to yourself~ always. flowerforyou

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Mon 02/25/08 09:27 AM

stop urself from fallin for sumone to fast?? I do it alot...I have meet this guy an Im fallin to fast for him... we click an Im pretty sure he likes me... hes a gentlemen holds doors for me, we have hung out 2times an no kiss yet just hugs...so I know he respects me, just tring not to get my hopes up..any ideas? drinker bigsmile
:heart: Just once a day think of him as a TOTAL JERK WHO HAS HURT YOU TO THE CORE,,because he has lied to you from the beginning....lol,lol
THAT should KEEP your mind awake, and your heart at a distant,lol,loldrinker :heart: :wink:

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Mon 02/25/08 09:28 AM

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone right away, nor in acting on that attraction. Physical attraction does not mean anything further would ever develop, though.

What you should be aware of is keeping your feelings in perspective. Lust is not love, and true feelings take time and effective communication to discern. You should be in no hurry. Try to put some perspective on things and keep certain boundaries.

Do what feels right and natural, not what you want to feel. Just be honest, communicative, and true to yourself~ always. flowerforyou

but what I feel is right might push him away... he told me he likes his space but me I wanna talk to him all the time an be with him all the time... but ty this helps also

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Mon 02/25/08 09:29 AM


stop urself from fallin for sumone to fast?? I do it alot...I have meet this guy an Im fallin to fast for him... we click an Im pretty sure he likes me... hes a gentlemen holds doors for me, we have hung out 2times an no kiss yet just hugs...so I know he respects me, just tring not to get my hopes up..any ideas? drinker bigsmile
:heart: Just once a day think of him as a TOTAL JERK WHO HAS HURT YOU TO THE CORE,,because he has lied to you from the beginning....lol,lol
THAT should KEEP your mind awake, and your heart at a distant,lol,loldrinker :heart: :wink:

lol Ill try that an see if it helps drinker

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Mon 02/25/08 09:31 AM
flowerforyou

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Mon 02/25/08 09:33 AM

but what I feel is right might push him away... he told me he likes his space but me I wanna talk to him all the time an be with him all the time... but ty this helps also


Then you might end up pushing him away. That's okay. Do you constantly want to feel as though you like him more than he likes you? I know unrequited love sucks. Or would you rather be with someone that feels the same as you do? Isn't that person worth waiting for?

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Mon 02/25/08 09:37 AM


but what I feel is right might push him away... he told me he likes his space but me I wanna talk to him all the time an be with him all the time... but ty this helps also


Then you might end up pushing him away. That's okay. Do you constantly want to feel as though you like him more than he likes you? I know unrequited love sucks. Or would you rather be with someone that feels the same as you do? Isn't that person worth waiting for?

I dont wanna push him away... Im willing to wait, but not forever, Im gonna try just to take this day by day

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Mon 02/25/08 09:43 AM
Sounds like a good plan. Good luck to you. happy

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Mon 02/25/08 09:46 AM
thank you everyone.. Im gonna try not to get in over my head an take this one day at a time... I'll update u if we end up dating... drinker flowerforyou smooched

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