My best friend and my brother are engaged to be married in late June. They have been dating for about 5 years or so. They are really great people, but I've always felt that they have kind of settled for each other, because they don't think they can do any better. Not to mention, that they constantly fight. To the point where I usually don't hang out with both of them, unless it's a family function, because it gets uncomfortable. Point is - I don't think they should be getting married. Not anytime soon anyway.

I've told my friend, let's call her Melissa, several times that I think she should date other people. I haven't said anything since they got engaged over the summer. And my brother and I aren't close enough for us to have that kind of conversation. Just to say, I'm far from the only one who thinks they should not be getting married.

My question is: Should I say something again? Melissa has mentioned to me that she's unsure if my brother is really wanting to get married. I want to tell her (for the millionth time) that I think she should wait and/or date other people, but at the same time I feel like she already knows how I feel and I just have to back away and let her make her own decision whether it's the right one or not.

I just keep picturing years from now their marriage going down the drain and I'm ridden with guilt, because I didn't speak up enough.


What do you guys think? Should I let her be? Or try to talk some sense into her again?

Never get involved in someone else's realationship. For good, or bad reasons. The intent does not matter, but the result is always the same.

Be your best friend's best friend, and treat her how she wants to be treated.Be a sister to your brother and love and support him.

You can't be the middle person in thie relationship, and it's not even fair you know as much as you do. My advice? Stop letting them tell you things and tell them you do not want to get involved.

Normally i would say NO, don't but Family is exception so,let it fly!!!!!!!! gotta look out for family

Agree

Why do they have to get married now? Why not wait a year of two and see how their relationship developes! Marriage is not for everyone!

Continue being a good listener only...

That's exactly what I think. I think Melissa specifically feels sort of trapped, because her and my parents have already put so money into this wedding and it's only 3 months away.

It's just frustrating to see your best friend and your brother make possibly the worst mistake of their lives.

I feel so helpless.