I'm posting this just to see what others opinions are of my situation. Keep in mind that I'm absolutely happy with my life as it is, I just wonder if anyone else has been through this and what someone else thinks of my situation.

A few years ago my college roommates and I were all bored and lonely one night and decided to make profiles on a random dating site. I don't even remember which one it is now. At any rate I remember that there was a guy that I was interested in on there but neither of us were paying members. His brother was also on the site so he (we'll call him Bill) sent me a message through his brother's page.

We hit it off right away and would talk for hours. We have always lived at least 2 hours apart and had opposite schedules so it was a while before we decided we wanted to actually meet each other. However that was 4 years ago and we have yet to meet. I know that you're thinking that obviously he isn't into me. Well...it kind of goes both ways as to why we haven't met. His family has had a lot of heartache over the past few years with losing loved ones, and truthfully I just haven't been ready to meet him.

Anyway, so we've been pretty much best friends for over 4 years now. We've been there for each other through everything. Dating other people, breakups, losing loved ones...we've always gone to each other for support.

In the beginning he was my substitute boyfriend. I'd call him for everything and anything, and talked about him like he was my boyfriend. It made my really painful breakup (now about 6 years ago) a little more bearable. For the past two years we've been...well codependent. We talk every day, often texting and e-mailing throughout the day. He seems to be having a hard time here lately with me going on dates. I had a relationship before Christmas and "Bill" was constantly telling me that I deserved better, and that the guy didn't appreciate me. Which ended up being true. The truth is that I think I am in love with "Bill". Even in my relationship if he sent me a text or called me it wasn't a big deal. But if "Bill" sends me a text or calls me I get the stupid girly grin going. If something happens whether good or bad I always called "Bill" before I called my boyfriend. Since my relationship "Bill" has tried to hang out with me but I worry that I won't be who he wants to be with and I don't want to fall into the just friends category. However - I'm also interested in dating other people. I wonder if I just love the "Bill" that I have created in my mind since I have never met him and he truly is the best guy I know. Call me a typical girl but one night I was really trying to figure out if I wanted to continue to date my boyfriend or attempt to date "Bill". "Bill" and I were talking and he told me to check out the song "Almost Lovers" by A Fine Frenzy. He didn't seem to be sending that to me maliciously but he still sent it to me. Check out the lyrics if you can. At any rate since that night (and my little crying session I had since I couldn't figure out what to do) we've both been more flirtatious towards each other and he keeps suggesting that we see each other. My coworkers are convinced that we need to start dating, I'm just not sure how I would feel about the possibility of dating him and losing him as a friend.

Obviously this is still the ridiculously short version but I was just curious as to what other people think and if anyone has been in a similar situation. :)

Oh and if you actually read through this whole thing, I really can't say thank you enough...I know I just wrote a novel lol

Go for it. You need to meet him-if for nothing else peace of mind. Other wise you are always gonna wonder-what if????????
Good luck.

really? " " That was your only response mirror? lol

Thank you urg04es

amen, the "what-if's" will always kick your ass..just do it

Just go meet him, he needs you as much as you need him, and the best relationships, the couples are always best friends. I say do it. Follow your heart on this one.

Too long...it sucks. These are posts....not novels....

yeah,i suggest to go for it.Life is too short.Live the day like theres no tomorrow.
Good luck!!