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Topic: once cheater always a cheater?
WAM's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:09 PM
So when you start talking to someone online, do you ever ask or tell about how their previous relationship ended? do you ask if they were unfaithful? do you tell them if you were? does it matter? what if it was once? does that make a difference?

Give me your opinions! I want to know. :)

Cambolaya65's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:10 PM
i have never cheated,im always a never cheater......

WAM's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:10 PM
so if you never cheated, would you never want to go out with someone who had?

no photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:11 PM
I love talking to JSH people. It is theraputic, I always say how it is because I know I ain't gettin' it and the locals that view my stuff are all crazy anyway. The gals in my zipcode never show up on our fun chat. I think they really think this is a dating website. They should stick to Craigslist.

IndnPrncs's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:11 PM
I don't ask but those things come up in conversations after a while..

hikerchick's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:12 PM
I don't think you can ever generalize about anything about anyone. People make mistakes; people change.

IndnPrncs's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:14 PM

I don't think you can ever generalize about anything about anyone. People make mistakes; people change.


((((((hiker)))))

DOTTIE's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:15 PM
Edited by DOTTIE on Fri 03/14/08 10:17 PM
i think the past is the past but as u get to know that person better i think u will figure it out for yourself if they are ; this time or not

JaceKnows's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:16 PM
Eventually it will rear it's ugly head. I don't ask, flat-out, but yeah, it DOES come up.

Especially if I say, "I will never date anyone who cheated on their previous relationship." and she's sitting there going, "uh oh, maybe I should tell him".

Some people can, and some people can't.

Be upfront if you want to, when the conversation turns that way, be yourself and stick to what is best for YOU. That's really the only way...

toastedoranges's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:16 PM

I don't think you can ever generalize about anything about anyone. People make mistakes; people change.


people can, but do they?

all the cheaters i've known are repeat offenders

hikerchick's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:19 PM


I don't think you can ever generalize about anything about anyone. People make mistakes; people change.


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Hi sweetie. I miss your face.flowerforyou

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Fri 03/14/08 10:20 PM

So when you start talking to someone online, do you ever ask or tell about how their previous relationship ended? do you ask if they were unfaithful? do you tell them if you were? does it matter? what if it was once? does that make a difference?

Give me your opinions! I want to know. :)


The last thing I would ever do in a relationship is cheat, as is simply inconsiderate to the other party. After all, why get into a serious relationship in the first place if you'll only go out and 'dip the wick' into something else.

And I always try to ask about the other party's previous relationships, as I don't want to be cheated on.

With that said, the saying is correct- once a cheater, always a cheater.

hikerchick's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:22 PM


I don't think you can ever generalize about anything about anyone. People make mistakes; people change.


people can, but do they?

all the cheaters i've known are repeat offenders


I have had two women friends whose marriages had just gotten to a very sad point..no communication..no love..both had affairs..both regretted it terribly...and in both cases, the husband sensed his wife slipping away..more efforts were made..things got better. I don't think either of these women would do it again..they were both sweet, good moms, very tradtional and conservative ladies who were vulnerable.

Just saying.

forever_fifites's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:22 PM

So when you start talking to someone online, do you ever ask or tell about how their previous relationship ended? do you ask if they were unfaithful? do you tell them if you were? does it matter? what if it was once? does that make a difference?

Give me your opinions! I want to know. :)

I'll ask you no questions
if you volunteer no lies
Just keep your promises
and I'll keep home my spies
:wink:

jonny63's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:23 PM
Never cheated, never will, my last relaitionship she did it one
time shortly after we got together and admitted it to me. I told her I don't do that and said don't let it happen again. We
were together seven pretty good years!drinker

hikerchick's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:24 PM


So when you start talking to someone online, do you ever ask or tell about how their previous relationship ended? do you ask if they were unfaithful? do you tell them if you were? does it matter? what if it was once? does that make a difference?

Give me your opinions! I want to know. :)


The last thing I would ever do in a relationship is cheat, as is simply inconsiderate to the other party. After all, why get into a serious relationship in the first place if you'll only go out and 'dip the wick' into something else.

And I always try to ask about the other party's previous relationships, as I don't want to be cheated on.

With that said, the saying is correct- once a cheater, always a cheater.



moof, does that mean that you will continue to repeat every mistake you have ever made in your past? Or that it is impossible to redeem yourself once you have made a tragic mistake? I don't know.

azrae1l's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:25 PM
every one of my ex's cheated at some point or another. and yes if they give into it once then they have no will power whatsoever and i will never go threw that ever again.

toastedoranges's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:25 PM
I have had two women friends whose marriages had just gotten to a very sad point..no communication..no love..both had affairs..both regretted it terribly...and in both cases, the husband sensed his wife slipping away..more efforts were made..things got better. I don't think either of these women would do it again..they were both sweet, good moms, very tradtional and conservative ladies who were vulnerable.

Just saying.


yes, it is possible. but it takes something in that person, a true realization of fault and the harm they've done. in my experience, it doesn't happen as often as it should.

no photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:26 PM
I don't advertise it, but if/when it comes up, it's a legitimate topic and should be addressed honestly. The way I figure it, I was not always the poster child for committed relationships in my younger days, and there's no point in pretending I was.


hikerchick's photo
Fri 03/14/08 10:27 PM

I have had two women friends whose marriages had just gotten to a very sad point..no communication..no love..both had affairs..both regretted it terribly...and in both cases, the husband sensed his wife slipping away..more efforts were made..things got better. I don't think either of these women would do it again..they were both sweet, good moms, very tradtional and conservative ladies who were vulnerable.

Just saying.


yes, it is possible. but it takes something in that person, a true realization of fault and the harm they've done. in my experience, it doesn't happen as often as it should.


I will agree with that one. I would never condone habitual mistakes. I know people who have cheated on everyone they have ever gone out with - it seems like they can't help themselves or they don't care.

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