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I met this guy once after months of talking to him online and phone..he asked me out on a date..I told him "Well before the date why don't we just meet first..talk a little then see how things go from there"..he agreed.He came to my house..got HALF way out of his car..saw me..got back in his car and left..THAT I would call rejection..This was years ago so I can laugh about it now but that day I wanted to cut off his b*lls and feed them to him.  .And before anybody says I should have told him about the chair first..I've done it that way too..still didn't work out. You talk to some one for months and he had no clue you use a chair? |
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I know why guys reject me..It's always been the same reason..So I already know what's gonna happen with anybody I talk to online. what is the reason?  Well..with the guys that I meet..they don't like anything that's complicated or different from what they are used to..so I think a girl in a wheelchair fits under both of those categories. Dateing as a Person who uses a wheelchair, or any other type of assistive equipment is always going to take some getting used to for the person who doesn't have AE in their life but eventually you meet someone who is cool and they are so into you they don't care. As someone who has been there and gotten that T-shirt I found the more I was comfortable with my situation and the more I avoided the complications (like going someplace I know will be a struggle useing my chair or canes ) the easier it was for people to see me and not the "complication" of useing equipment. If I went someplace I enjoyed the "fun" I was having just attracted guys anyway. Didn't seem to slow me down all that much. I've gotten on msg boards like this on other sites and guys always tell me the same thing.."I'm looking to be somebody's boyfriend..not their caregiver"..If I needed a caregiver I wouldn't be on a date site..they got plenty of nursing agencies here that I could use if I needed that. that's because most guys are plain ignorant. They assume that if someone is in a wheelchair that they need to be 'babied' not the case with most. In fact most people in wheelchairs are ten times more indepent than your average everyday citizen. they don't WANT to be babied. Unlike a lot of other people. again just my opinion. You're right Isaac..we DON'T want to be babied or treated any differently than you'd treat ANYONE else..because we ARE like everyone else..we just have to do things a little differently..THAT'S why I refuse to label myself as "DISABLED" or "HANDICAPPED"..because I can do most things on my own just in a different way..THAT'S why I say that I am "DIFFERENTLY-Abled"..I don't need people to push my wheelchair around for me..as a matter of fact..if I am in a relationship with someone I like my hand held as we walk just like any other girl does when shes with her man..actually I use a motorized chair now so pushing my chair isn't even an issue anymore..for me or anyone else..Hell I have never even liked my mom pushing my chair. I know i'm right...i'm ALWAYS right!
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Edited by
LadyOfMagic
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Sat 03/15/08 10:12 AM
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I met this guy once after months of talking to him online and phone..he asked me out on a date..I told him "Well before the date why don't we just meet first..talk a little then see how things go from there"..he agreed.He came to my house..got HALF way out of his car..saw me..got back in his car and left..THAT I would call rejection..This was years ago so I can laugh about it now but that day I wanted to cut off his b*lls and feed them to him. .And before anybody says I should have told him about the chair first..I've done it that way too..still didn't work out. You talk to some one for months and he had no clue you use a chair? Nope he didn't..I thought it'd be easier to show him IF we'd ever get to that point than just tell him..When you TELL people things they tend to get all these wrong stupid ideas in their heads of what they THINK it's gonna be like. |
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Hey Isaac .. long time no see. You should come play on our MILF younger guy thread he he and to the OP .. where DO you come up with all these questions.  (((fade)) how are you? and where is you're thread located? Under sex & dating - called YOUNGER MEN & MILFS .. I am doing great thanks for asking .. miss chattin with you babe.
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I met this guy once after months of talking to him online and phone..he asked me out on a date..I told him "Well before the date why don't we just meet first..talk a little then see how things go from there"..he agreed.He came to my house..got HALF way out of his car..saw me..got back in his car and left..THAT I would call rejection..This was years ago so I can laugh about it now but that day I wanted to cut off his b*lls and feed them to him. .And before anybody says I should have told him about the chair first..I've done it that way too..still didn't work out. You talk to some one for months and he had no clue you use a chair? Nope he didn't That's total crap. What a way to treat you. *hugs*
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before is definitely better....but it happens on first meetings unfortunately, but its their loss.
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 Just Say Hi
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I never look at it as "rejection." If things don't work out, they don't work out. That way; HOPEFULLY; you can remain friends. Before, so that I am spared the emtional trauma! |
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I think it depends. I think that ultimately, it depends on how long and in depth the communications had been prior to the reject. Ultimately, rejection is never fun. |
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Definitely before. But not right before the date, that's just rude, lol
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Before, that why it's not because of how you look in person, but the true fact that you two don't connect. In which case, it's better for you anyway, so you can find a person you're really meant to be with.
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rejected, who has been rejected *whistles, looks around in the air. Whistles some more* Before, definately
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rejected, who has been rejected *whistles, looks around in the air. Whistles some more* Before, definately
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