you always have good advice Tonylee, cheers

Hmmmm... If he's around your age and he still doesn't know how to converse about more than those 3 topics, and he doesn't know it's a grown-up thing to help clean up, sounds like he's got "barefoot & pregnant" syndrome. You'll end up a nag, the "old lady", which you are NOT. The good sex will become cumbersome as you will be tired from working and waiting on him and you won't have much else in common. If you can't talk, can't survive. Sorry, I know, doom & gloom.

First of all. you have to way out the good and the bad and that alone is where you should make up your mind. Second, you only known him for a couple months. Have you even talked to him about it? if you guys can't cummunicate, and from what your saying is, you like that he plays guitar great in bed and likes your kids. HMMM what about you??? toys are fun but can only go so far...

I wonder why some men simply cannot do their own housework. Why is it that they seem to believe that the female in the house is the one to do this work? I don't get it.

When I was eight I asked my mother for a grilled cheese sandwich. She said, "Come here and I'll show you how." From that day forward I learned to cook for myself. At age 10 I told her I was running low on clean jeans. Guess what? Yup, after fifteen minutes of instruction....I learned to do my own laundry. Washing, drying, and putting away dishes was ingrained at age six. All this at the same time my father was teaching me the finer technical aspects of race engine building. To this day....I don't NEED a woman to take care of me. I don't have to eat off paper plates with plastic spoons or drink out of plastic disposable cups. And if anyone thinks I'm some kind of pansy because I can do all this for myself I'm also man enough to make them regret that decision for years to come.

I don't understand the typecasting involved with some people. There are dishes in the sink....so wash them. No big deal. It's laundry day...I'll start the first load. Simple.

And no keeping score, ladies. None of this..."I washed them two days ago so it's your turn." Or how about, "I did six loads of clothes so you HAVE to do six loads of dishes." Please.......

To the original poster.....damn, the guy only likes talking about NASCAR. He's brain damaged to begin with.

Relationships take work and it includes accepting the other person for who they are as a person....So I ask you....have you sat down & listened to his music & shared some of your own....have you sat down to watch Nascar with him & asked him some questions about the sport....and did you walk over to the couch taking his hand & guiding him into the kitchen letting him know that you were going to do this together or suggest(or do together) that he make the next meal....

asking is one thing doing together is more meaningful....and tell me, Is this relationship about 'You'? cause it sounds like it to me....
yeah, many people are saying give up on the relationship...that tells me much about their character & indicates why they are not in a relationship...If you want it to work, then work it....and if you mean it, don't try to change him....but do let him know what's on your mind....cause sharing, and honesty, and communication are all part of the same package....

I wish you the best in making this work....& if it doesn't, then move on....






I did talk to him about it, he just didnt respond. I have also helped him clean his house, watched Nascar and asked several questions, listened to his music, watched his TV shows. I show him nothing but kindness and consideration, understanding and love. This is not about me, its about not hurting him. I dont want to make a mistake, then 5 years later, realize it.

Relationships take work and it includes accepting the other person for who they are as a person....So I ask you....have you sat down & listened to his music & shared some of your own....have you sat down to watch Nascar with him & asked him some questions about the sport....and did you walk over to the couch taking his hand & guiding him into the kitchen letting him know that you were going to do this together or suggest(or do together) that he make the next meal....

asking is one thing doing together is more meaningful....and tell me, Is this relationship about 'You'? cause it sounds like it to me....
yeah, many people are saying give up on the relationship...that tells me much about their character & indicates why they are not in a relationship...If you want it to work, then work it....and if you mean it, don't try to change him....but do let him know what's on your mind....cause sharing, and honesty, and communication are all part of the same package....

I wish you the best in making this work....& if it doesn't, then move on....






I did talk to him about it, he just didnt respond. I have also helped him clean his house, watched Nascar and asked several questions, listened to his music, watched his TV shows. I show him nothing but kindness and consideration, understanding and love. This is not about me, its about not hurting him. I dont want to make a mistake, then 5 years later, realize it.

i was married to the same woman for 28 years. i went to every function, every party, and did all the things she wanted. i helped cook, i cleaned, and i was a family man. she also had a communication problem. she never once went with me fishing and i was a pro fisherman. you can bend over backwards all you want but i will tell you from experience that in the end it will not last. if you change yourself to someone you are not you will be unhappy. if you change him to someone he is not, he will not be happy. you think about this and decide. only you can make the choice

This is not about me, its about not hurting him. I dont want to make a mistake, then 5 years later, realize it.




But it about you silly, your the one in the relationship. knowing at this point your not happy is why your asking for opinion. You can get all the opinions you want but it comes down to you. Do you want this or not. it's not up to us...

Given, you've done all these things and have not gotten a positive response i would consider moving on....I'm assuming he is not interested in what you are interested in as a person....It's not about hurting him...you have no control over that....you have given of yourself & shared his interests too...if it is not reciprocated you have no lasting relationship....you know what you want, you don't have to settle for less....i wish you the best & thanks for responding to my post....you sound like a wonderful person...

....OMG...your mama did good !!!! thats how I did w/my kids, I like ur style ! R u anywhere close to Austin ? (flirt flirt...lol.. )



~wicked~