I never said anything of the kind. The question was how do you determine who to weed out. If someone is not willing to speak to you, I think they have already taken that choice from you. You can't pursue a relationship with someone who won't return your e-mails.

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you never said it but its implyed. if your not interested just igoreing someone isnt being nice. how much effort would it take to say no Im not interested? how does the person know if you ever got their email? its just plain rude and they must think they are pretty hot stuff to pick who they choice to reply to. kindness doent cost a dime. why would anyone even want to pursue talkig to someone if they were rude.is being in control more important that being polite?

somehow you went and switched topics on me without telling me. I thought we were talking about weed out factors.

Apparently we are talking about e-mail manners. I can't keep up.

and moman - please don't put words in my mouth. I say what I mean and I mean what I say.

If you feel that you can pursue a relationship with someone who won't talk to you, go for it.

A heavy drinker and partier would be a no-go for me....

the topic never changed you made a statement I called you on it you cant defend what you said so now i change the topic. you maybe confused Im not. the weed out factor was about not responding to emails nothing changed maybe in your mind they did not mine.

I never put words in your mouth I read what you said and took it for what it implyed. you wanted to point out one thing I wanted to point out something else.you may mean what you say but that doesnt mean you imply something else. we can go on and on with this but you avoid my quesition in my reply . will you ever admit its rude not to reply to a email which is a weed out factor.will you ever answer now do we know you got the email without a reply?

why do you feel the need to be rude to me? have I done something to piss you off? What is it that I am supposed to be defending? The fact that if someone does not return your e-mails, they have already weeded you out? How is that statement inflammatory, and what about it irritates you so much? Is it not true?

I reply to all e-mails I get. But if send someone an email, and he doesn't reply, I have lost the power to cross him off my list. He has already crossed me off.

I also don't speculate about whether he is rude, or whatever. He may not be online; his computer may have broken; he may have meant to reply and forgotten; he may have died for all I know. I have no need to get pissed off at people who don't pay attention to me. I have enough people who do pay attention to me.

Initially, I didn't think you were such a hostile person. I liked you.

All things must end.

Im not being rude by pointing out what you said that implyed something. I guess Im suppose to read what you say and just sit here and not say anything. just becasue you now said im rude that suppose to make me rude lol get real.I could have said along time ago you just like to agrue. someone not giving in to you are agreeing with you isnt being rude. no you havent pissed me off now your implying Im a bad mean person. it just goes on and on .you still refuse to answer my questions it your way of trying to control . If I answers your questions it makes it look like I want to pick a fight and im the bad guy. your smart but not that smart. Your move.

If your looking for some one to be hostile in the begining you must have been prejudiced from the get go. I look for the postives at first not the negitives.I liked your humor where did that go?

only the bad things end the good goes on forever. I make a better friend than a enemy the choice is your

Moman - out of respect to you I am going to try this one more time. I WAS making a joke when I said if someone doesn't reply to you they have already weeded you out. I mean, you guys are effectively saying "I don't date people who don't talk to me" Sorry, but I found that kind of funny.

I am sorry that you feel I implied something that I never meant to imply. I am no longer certain what question it is that you want me to answer. Whether it is rude not to answer e-mails, I suppose it is. As I stated earlier, I answer all the e-mails that I get. Do I feel I have the right to stand in judgement of people who don't ? Is this what you are trying to get me to say? My honest answer is I don't know. Like I said before, so many factors could come into play in someone's failure to answer an e-mail. I mean, they could be in the hospital or something. Who am I to call them rude? I am not sure, still, what I said that set you off. I don't see any hostility in my posts before you decided to confront me about something I never said nor meant to imply. After that, perhaps I got testy. Wouldn't you?

I really don't understand how we got to this point and I am sorry that it did.

I think when someone weeds someone out, they at least owe them an e-mail saying so. I don't want to talk to you any more because.... would be nice. Apparently, it's too much to ask from 99.999 percent of the folks I've been talking with. A pity really. But that's OK.

I'm looking to make connections and if people don't want to connect, I guess I find out about it. There's other stuff in life to do, anyway. Living for God's glory is first in my book and the other stuff is kind of secondary and I get shafted every time I forget about step one here.

GS

And the way things are going tonight, I think either people are real busy getting ready for Easter or the JSH mail server is down or something. I'm about zero for 10 and pretty frosted. but, all might be different tomorrow. What the hey.

Then again, I have heard from a person or two, so, I dunno.

This place is strange, that's for sure.

But,I saved myself a trip to Tennessee and I may've saved me a trip to Louisville so what the hey.

Time to watch the tube & get ready for tomorrow. I reckon. Good night, Irene!

Now for the fun part of a argruement the making up Im accepting your reply as we are ok with each other again and back on track of being friends. If I know your were kidding I proabably wouldnt have responded in the first place.Men are not good at reading minds.I know this happens in text chat all the time. I didnt see you smile or any icons to see that you were joking.Im sure he was serious so your replay appeared to be serious too. Im not good with saractic humor someone always has to pay for that laugh.just because you say with all due repect or sorry doesnt mean you can say anything you want and get away with it.

forget all the questions the only point I was trying to make was if you sent a email we would expect a reply. Once in a while things happen for many reasons but if it happens all the time then the trend is not good. You should know by now us guys dont handle rejection good. we have big egos that need to be fed. If we waited for women to take the first step nothing would happen. So all Im asking is if you (meaning everyone that reads this) gets a email please respond if nothing else than to say Im not interested even your not my type will work ...I guess we in our small minds can think she doesnt like human types.

I find the people that request photos are the worst if I take the time to send a photo at least say you recieved it whats the point of sending photos with not getting any replys. anyone that just judges a person by their photo is shallow anyways so why send them one.

ok Im done complaining..drama is over back to the regular routine of reading and not posting

Thank you.

For the record, any male that I have ever been interested in, I have e-mailed. I don't sit and wait for men to come to me. I have not had any dates but I did make one good friend in my area.

And I have been busted before for not using smileys or saying LOL. I know people can't read my mind and I should get in the habit of doing that. But for me, it feels like I am laughing at my own jokes. I will try to be more clear in the future though, because, honestly, although it seems like I spend a lot of time fighting, I don't like to fight. I just want to have fun and get along.

Now your making me feel really really bad you have never emailed me. I have gotton one nice lady that emailed me and said she liked my photo not sure when the last time she got her eyes checked but it was nice to hear that rather than being pasted over. Good for you taking the first step and Im glad you found a friend locally.That seems to be a problem for most people is the distance is too great for just a date or to meet them in person.

for awhile there i thought we were married it was just like old times... makes me happy Im divorced now. thanks for the memories. No one likes fighting its the making thats fun just skip the first part jump into the second part.I was thinking for while of suggesting a name change from hikerchick to hyperchick since your feathers were all fluffed up.

Thanks for the Saturday night date most excitment I have had in a long time.

Hello there hikerchick,thanks for asking.I am a bit cautious about replying because I had posted my picture.But here goes, I appreciate a gentleman with good manners,opens doors,flowers and most of all respect.But recently I have had a string of nightmare dates.They say we teach others how we want to be treated.I am baffled as to where these guys got the idea they could treat me like garbage.As I believe in treating others the same way I want to be treated.carol

Just want to add I'm talking about guys met on another sight.

Oh I see. I agree about respect and good manners - it is just crucial. I don't believe you would have taught someone to treat you badly. But in a way you did teach him how to treat you because you showed him the door, I assume. So you taught him that he can't treat you that way. I am not into the flowers and opening doors thing because I am more interested in being in a position of equality; but there should always be respect and courtesy no matter what type of relationship you prefer.

Good luck on your search; and I hope you find your knight in shining armor.