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Topic: 1st Date?
nugglebugz's photo
Sat 03/22/08 10:59 AM
Alright this is what's going on. I started a new job last week, and this cute co-worker asked if I would like to hang out. Last night, we went out for some drinks. Then we watched a movie at my apartment. (Some kissing that was it, and nothing futher was pursed incase anyone cares)

People at work said he very nice (but that's at work I know) and he seems very nice and polite.
Well the point of the story is I looked up his criminal record, and comes to find out he had some charges of 4th degree sexual assult charges that he was never convicted of, (maybe because they may have not been able to prove it?) I also found a whole slew of things, also when he was 20 he was gulity of having sex with someone with over 16. Something like that?

So...... Any ideas and or thoughts?

Danette_Giavanna's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:01 AM
Edited by Danette_Giavanna on Sat 03/22/08 11:02 AM
Run! That is very scary, I would be afraid..Your to beautiful to settle for less

Queene123's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:01 AM
you mean he had sex with someone under 18 as in some states its declared sag rape.. i would actually keep your eyes open and be very cauious. he might be nice but you never know he could backstab you... keep your guard upnoway

nugglebugz's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:03 AM

Run! That is very scary, I would be afraid..Your to beautiful to settle for less



I work with this guy, so I'm thinking just politely blow him off kinda thing?

s1ngleredrose84's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:03 AM
I agree with keeping your guard up but the past is in the past. People learn and grow flowerforyou

no photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:03 AM
where did you look up this info???huh

PATSFAN's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:04 AM
laugh laugh

nugglebugz's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:04 AM

where did you look up this info???huh


Wisconsin Court Access

nugglebugz's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:04 AM

where did you look up this info???huh


Wisconsin Court Access

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Sat 03/22/08 11:05 AM
is there a website??huh

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:06 AM
I'm tripping out that you even looked him up, I would be offended but at the same time with what you found out... Well, WOW!!!

My rule is don't date people you work with and then you won't have these issues...

Maybe you can say your ex and you are going to try to work things out or something so you don't have issues at work...

sleeplessingermany's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:06 AM

Alright this is what's going on. I started a new job last week, and this cute co-worker asked if I would like to hang out. Last night, we went out for some drinks. Then we watched a movie at my apartment. (Some kissing that was it, and nothing futher was pursed incase anyone cares)

People at work said he very nice (but that's at work I know) and he seems very nice and polite.
Well the point of the story is I looked up his criminal record, and comes to find out he had some charges of 4th degree sexual assult charges that he was never convicted of, (maybe because they may have not been able to prove it?) I also found a whole slew of things, also when he was 20 he was gulity of having sex with someone with over 16. Something like that?

So...... Any ideas and or thoughts?


if you had a daughter, what would you tell her?

nugglebugz's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:07 AM

is there a website??huh


Yep, I'm not sure if every state has it? But go to Google and Wisconsin Court Access, you can type in the name of the person and all there, well all occurances in Wisconsin

Jill298's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:07 AM
stop stop stop dating people from workflowerforyou

Danette_Giavanna's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:10 AM
Edited by Danette_Giavanna on Sat 03/22/08 11:11 AM
Never mix business with pleasure, cause if you have a bad break-up and have to work with that person or they have authority over you..Yikes...

nugglebugz's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:12 AM
Nah we actually work in different departments?

Jill298's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:14 AM
you know when something goes terribly wrong and people just say " I never saw it coming... there were no warning signs, no red flags" lol here's your flag darlinflowerforyou

AllSmilesInTulsa's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:18 AM
Are you sure it's him and not someone with the same name? That happened to a friend of mine.

nugglebugz's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:20 AM

Are you sure it's him and not someone with the same name? That happened to a friend of mine.



Yeah, the address and everything matches up.

Jim519's photo
Sat 03/22/08 11:20 AM
I have done that myself here in Maryland. They have a great website for civil and criminal records. Thank goodness for public record. It has caused me to open my eyes a little wider on a few women I met.

Easiest solution is to back off if this put you in an uncomfortable state. Go with your gut....


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