The certificate is in the mail!!!

Dammit!!! I wanted to be SHALLOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!

I'm shallow, too, and I am a woman. Not looking for Mr. America, but I know what I like when I see it. And I want to see it. And I want to see more than one photo as everyone has a "good" pose. If they are not attractive to me, I do not want to carry it further to see if there is more inside, except for friendship perhaps. If I don't find someone physically attractive, TO ME, he'll never make it as anything more than a friend. I want the whole package, but that includes being attracted to my mate physically. It could be eyes, smile, sexy arms, SOMETHING, for me to want to keep getting to know that man as a mate. And, I think most men think like me.

Of course, it CRACKS ME UP to no end when you see those older pot-bellied men with hair growing out their nostrils and ears expecting a young barbie type, not realizing that they better have a hefty credit limit to spend time with the type. It's like they think they look like Rock Hudson when they see themselves in the mirror. Yet, I give them snaps for having high self-esteem. Wish I had THAT high esteem. But I'm fairly grounded in expectations, and don't usually dig high maintenance men.

Welcome and best wishes, sag!

Gosh, Robin, well, if it was something that the man COULDN'T do, that doesn't mean there aren't other ways to get sexual satisfaction on your own or together, (but without the actual pen!s/v@gina thing). So, if he's just not able to function, there are still ways to enjoy sex a bunch of ways together. Now, if the man isn't interested in sharing that part WITH YOU, then he's just a friend, isn't he? A lover, whether or not able to do the intercourse part, can still be a lover.
After spending 13 years with a man who COULD but wasn't interested in sex and made me feel undesirable...let's just say I'm glad that's not my problem anymore, but his third wife's now!! Sure, there may have come a day when he couldn't, but his situation was he was not interested and wouldn't. And that lack of intimacy was enough to cause problems because as long as both are able, it is a further extension of loving intimacy. I needed to know I had a lover and ended up being his buddy and mother. The dynamic was not good.

Peek-a-booooooooooooo!!!

Not from Ottowa, so nah nah nah nah boo boo!!

Welcome and best fishes.

I've been doing all sorts of stuff without a man for years, but I am strong enough to admit I'd REALLY LOVE TO HAVE A WONDERFUL PARTNER with whom to share our lives and NOT have to each go it alone. I am a strong woman who wants a best friend in a man to share it all with and not just let me be strong, but let me be less than strong for a while. We'll pick up each others' slack when wanted and needed. It's NICE not ALWAYS having to DO the strong thing 100% of the time. It's NICE to NOT have to always take on the world at large ALONE and lonely!!!! I am certainly STRONG enough to return the favors and lend my assets to situations and concerns that are not his favorites or strengths, and he do the same for me. Ahhhhhh, I want that kind of love.

I had one last night and one this morning, so something is about to happen.

Welcome!!

Well, krupa, we don't always know right off the bat. And I've met my share of moody or indecisive men, men who want to be led by the nose, men who are fakers, good fakers, ones who think they know what they want and then flail at the first signs of work for a relationship, want just any woman, etc. We gals DON'T have it easy.

You have described a truly strong woman, one worthy of the utmost respect and some lucky man's love.

CRACK ME UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm in Texas, but never saw anything quite like that!! How the heck?????????

And, I, your Queen................

Yes, somewhere out there is a man wishing he had fetched that fish and who can use it on his wall for his own fish tale.

Thanks biglife! And to you, toooooooooooooo!!

LOL I'll bet!! That is not okay!!! Yeah, I seem to peeve a lot of men who think that just because I give them the attention they ask that they can boss me around, heart, body and soul. It's like they start instructing me as to how to behave, think, and feel.......dress!!! Skeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery!! And off they go to the recycle bin!!

"I'm not sure I understand you here. Are you saying the person suing is wrong because she shouldn't wear her religious headgear if company policy dictates otherwise? That isnt true. As long as tehre is not a safety issue involved (like the headgear getting caught in a machine and causing her or the machinery major damage, then she has the legal right to wear that headgear) (freedom of religion))

In regards to alcohol and smoking versus watercooler romances, tobacco and alcohol; alcohol is proven to affect your behavior, and to reduce your capabilities, and tobacco has been proven to be hazardous to the health even if you are just standing in the same genera area as someone else smoking. You do NOT have the right to endanger someone else's safety or health. However, a watercooler romance does not harm anybody ever. It is the immaturity of SOME people if it doesn't work out that cause problems and difficulties. "

Well, if she was so worried about her religion, she wouldn't be working at A&F, and if my boss says I have to work in only suits and dresses, no midriffs, no tattoos showing, no facial piercings, no leggings, then that is what I must do. If I have any of those to proclaim my religious freedom or LACK of religious expression, it's not their business. I could make my own damned religion up and insist that leggings are incorporated into that religion, but that doesn't mean they can't tell me "no".

And, in response to your proven effects on behaviour, a lot of stupidity and bad behaviours stem from work place relationships and definitely have shown to have negative effects on productivity during and after said relationships. If it's not illegal, your employer can pretty much mandate whatever they want.

In case you haven't noticed, too many ADULTS are not mature and cannot behave and handle these matters, especially when the relationship fails or is un-equal. And why ask for trouble as an employer? Too many shades of grey and it's their liability insurance policy on the line. And if a relationship is SO IMPORTANT to two coworkers, then they should oblige company policy by removing themselves from that work environment.