hahahaha
thanks Sassy.

the last were rhetorics.
more for the newbie to reflect on.

I don't think one can change people by critique.
it works in opposite direction.

Somehow, with all the oil & the discipline of Koran
the average young Muslim appears to be under educated in sciences.
I have met smart trainees in Mid East; superb guys
but low science & English; felt sad;
another generation wasted away.

As you may know, with science a whole different mind-space
opens up. and the byproducts are automatic,
one actually starts to appreciate world history.

For instance, i still ask myself;
why was India sleeping in the 17-18th centuries ?
a turning point in world history.

There may be other ways but science teachers
are unforgettable; could help next generation.

How convenient to condemn ISIS & wash hands.
How convenient to overlook cancer spreading in Islam across the world
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Islam is great within Islamic countries. Been there & seen it's play.
Keeps the migrant workers in check also.
I read the Koran & have a copy.

Islam means peace: peace for Islam-ists.
As you rightly pointed out rest are xxxxxd up world anyway.
If you can't see this the one singular problem in Islam
you are what Americans call: into Denial.
your mind is still in 17th century or earlier.
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Case study of recent centuries of history:
Islamic and Brit conquest of India
(both for economic reasons initially)

the Brits ruled large parts of India for 400 years
towards last 200 years, all of India.
they may have ripped the economy; introduced Christianity but for most part did not intrude into Islam or Hindu traditions.

Before the Brits, Islamic conquerors ruled most of India
for 500 years
destroyed temples; built mosques over them.

for instance Kashmir was an extension of Tibetan culture
all Buddhists.
All male unarmed Buddhists were killed.
a Muslim dairy reads: 'it was like slaughtering cows'
But the world was different place 400 - 900 years ago!
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in India, 30% Muslims; extremely few in our defense forces.
Fact is for a Muslim; Islam comes before country.
Except in countries like Bangladesh, Indonesia and so on.

This excludes the modern generation of educated Muslims;
principally Emirates: Qatar - headquarters of Al Zahira

recently, Muslim women in Mumbai, India raised protest against
male dominant Mosques. But a long way to go.

The solution is obvious. You want to stay in Rome? Then be a Roman.
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But I would give Mr. Obama a high five on this initiative.
Encouraging American Muslims to embrace a new way of life.
Else: risk isolation.

Pragmatic too:
After all, Pakistan & Saudi Arabia are staunch American allies.

May be American Muslims would bring a change within
like a UK Muslim 'Salman Rushdie' tried.
Finally making sense why he received the Nobel

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Why Islam never accepted Christianity as a brother religion
is a puzzle to me.
After all both refer to the Old Testament of Judaism.

And now with Christian nations opening to Syrians
a glimmer of changes to come??

it's in 'Wiki' i think it says curry as cover up for rotten meat.

Fact seems to be different. The curry spices may includes tumeric powder, some ginger, garlic etc;
sauteed with onions & tomatoes in oil.

ginger: helps digest meat
garlic: taste & contributes like an aphrodisiac
tumeric: preserver (in hot, humid India, takes longer to spoil.
red chilly: appetizer

One has to be careful about raw tumeric though. About 20 years ago, i applied a wet tumeric paste liberally on a pimple growth on the chin. Next day, my skin was falling off!! Burnt down the pimple but was a ghastly sight; loose skin hanging.

Doctor gave an antibiotic & couple of days later; viola
cleaned up; had a new younger chin!

Even better than lamb vindaloo is mutton (goat) vindaloo
I think it was the Punjabi who took it to UK.
At the end of meal top it with curds or yogurt (balance)
unless you are having some drinks on the side.

Personally, i prefer Thai food; less oil & spices.
something i could have daily.

or Odhissa's potato (aloo) curry. Soo belly warming, who needs meat?

trying Czery's recipe these days. plenty of chicken here.

Blondey111 is quite right when she says take professional help.
I would like to reword her advise: a slower version.

The good news is you described your problem well;
Even better is..
milder versions of it fit many of us here.

So if we take a gander at ADHD?
it's normal (mild to severe) in childhood
(transition from home to school: the first taste of abandonment)
and as Ms. B said, parts of it may carry over to adults

At 24: you already have an ex.
given you are in India, that's being well ahead in the game
check back whether you had ADHD before say, you started working.
If no, or was manageable; there's your answer.
(will return to this in a moment)

Now as you describe the symptoms:
when one is moody (emotional) appetite loss is normal
with appetite loss; sleepiness (tiredness /lack of energy) is normal
and then say one has a cup of tea, energy spikes --> mood swings
that is also to normal!!

There's a lot in what TM has said: Narcissism.
Notice how movie actors are famous for mood swings?
It's extremely difficult for them to come out of the
'character' they play. The industry / media accept it as part of their job hazard.

Now if your present job requires 'acting skills'...
Even a job of an air-hostess in India is considered glamorous;
It's less stressful in a Western society.
work out why - and there's your answer

it's not my intention to make light of your 'medical' situation
but while you seek out a good counselor;
(not the family doctor, of course)
consider the adage: patient, heal thyself.

24 is also the final time one gets to think out ambition,
think where you want to be in 5 years - time flies
(today, at my age; i can literally see time flying; as if countdown has begun.)

As in one of our topics here 'Destiny':
Drift or paddle to Destiny (yours to choose)
or
As Steve said to young adults: "Get Hungry / Stay Hungry"
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I learn a lot in M2 and so this 'pro bono'

my impression is you are a very smart person.
Good wishes.

ok, within last 30 days; top 10 from the Jokes forum are:


Would you hire this graphic designer?
http://mingle2.com/topic/466237

may not be something guys would be comfortable with but..


Dude, how did you get that black eye?
http://mingle2.com/topic/459379
something about it says it could have happened


You're NOT a monk
http://mingle2.com/topic/464162
it’s a simple narration
till the punch line is splashed
got to grin & bear it


Congress on fire.
http://mingle2.com/topic/473153


Easter Fun
http://mingle2.com/topic/472948
starts with a real photo – short spelled
would have let it pass..
but then other photos flow in, quite riveting


Ever Have One Of Those Days :(
http://mingle2.com/topic/470321

not exactly a joke; real footage from a cctv camera

--
list reached 6
as the rule is: jokes on re-read - still work
going beyond last 30 days

What A Coincidence
http://mingle2.com/topic/458407


German guy asks for kinky sex
http://mingle2.com/topic/457588

not exactly a joke’s joke: punch line explained a bit late
but one of those: one could see it happening


Letter Home
http://mingle2.com/topic/456431
from a Saudi son to his father;
they have their own problems


"HEY OLD WOMAN, HAVE YOU EVER DANCED?"
http://mingle2.com/topic/453695


that's the proposed 10;
Welcome to comment, replace and so on

and a volunteer to take us to the next forum.
Fox?

Just thinking loud.

I think our forums is a strange land
on one hand we have
communities of people many who have not met & will not meet
but somehow, sometimes it's better that way
people speaking what they actually think & feel
sometimes threatened by critics but generally nothing to hide;
except maybe some crushes for some married member or something

On the other hand, we have some soul stirring comments,
like a recent one from Fearless and i truly believe that if
he were the speech writer for Dr. Carson; Carson would have been the tallest candidate on the R side

Or the 'Don't step on a Duck' from Iamwhoam (know she's deactivated) and yes, it may not be an original;
but stays in mind as a topper

On the third hand, we have members from 2006 and
may be it's their experiences or patience or something
sets a remarkable tone and encourages others to involve
unexpected depths in some forums

ok, coming to the fourth hand
Mingle itself is remarkable having completed 10 years (i think)
and may be having presence in almost all countries in the world
and keeping all those servers going round-the-clock

So?

So why not this year compliment some of the outstanding
forum contributors: who change us subtly (and unintentionally)
for instance take "Crystals paintings" and the story behind it
i know there's a lot of complimenting there
but its a greater success story in the sense
ordinary members like me seem to grow a bit viewing the paintings; maybe because we see versions 2, 3 then 4 and so on
how can anyone measure the impact of 'her sharing' with us
and the knowledge that viewing her pictures is a journey

And in our outside world, we so hesitate to compliment & cherish
& encourage the good among us.. that (ok, )

any prizes?
may be Minglers may say 'this process in itself is the prize'.

so what do you say?

again, the nagging feeling.

Indian men generally don't say 'No' to their wives. At least not in front of guests.
Probably is one of the reasons why they are called hen-pecked

Indians don't play golf either. May be it's because they play cricket and although you hold the bat just like the club
the stroke is different.

Anyway as business deals go in the US
some of the successful ones we hear, are worked out in golf clubs

So our Man is at a golf club
and his cell phone rings
and he engages the hands-free and begins to talk.
Everyone else in the room stops to listen.

MAN: "Hello"

WOMAN: "Hi Honey, it's me. Are you at the club?"
MAN: "Yes."

WOMAN: "I'm at the shops now and found this beautiful leather coat. It's only $2,000; is it OK if I buy it?"
MAN: "Sure, go ahead if you like it that much."

WOMAN: "I also stopped by the Lexus dealership and saw the new models. I saw one I really liked."
MAN: "How much?"

WOMAN: "$90,000."
MAN: "OK, but for that price I want it with all the options."

WOMAN: "Great! Oh, and one more thing... was just talking to Janie and found out that the house I wanted last year is back on the market. They're asking $980,000 for it."
MAN: "Well, then go ahead and make an offer of $900,000.
They'll probably take it. If not, we can go the extra eighty-thousand if it's what you really want."

WOMAN: "OK. I'll see you later! I love you so much!"
MAN: "Bye! I love you, too."
The man hangs up. The other men are staring at him in astonishment.
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Later after the dealing and dining was all done
our Man and his colleague Gary get into the Mazda and start back
Gary asks him: “Man that was a lot of money..”
Man: You mean the phone call?
Gary: Yeah, the call from your wife.
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Man: "I don't know who that was.....
My wife’s still in India, waiting for her visa"

just hit me, this joke was told before.
UK, maybe?

anyway, it fits well with the Indian profiles,

We are already 2 years together, my girlfriend and decided to get married.

My parents helped as much as they could and all my friends said
it’s a really good idea!

My girlfriend?
She is a dream! But there is something that bothers me!

This something is her little sister… This is my future 20 years old sister-in-law ,
wearing a super skinny, mini skirt and short blouses.
Always lean ahead and I was often lucky to see her underwear.
She never did that in front of someone else!

One day she calls me and asks me to go home to see the wedding invitations.
When I arrived she was alone.

She whispered that soon I get married
and that she has feelings for me for long time and that
she thinks she can’t overcome them.

She also said that she desperately wanted to have sex with me
just once before I marry her sister.

I was shocked and could not say a word…

She said to me that she goes to bed and asked if I wanted to go up with her.
I froze and looked at her going up the stairs.

Going up, she took her panties off and threw it at me. I stayed there for a moment
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and then ran to the door.
I opened it and I walked to the car.
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My future father-in-law was standing outside with tears in his eyes,
hugged me and said:

"I’m glad you passed this little test and I am sure that my daughter could not find a better man.
Welcome to the family, my son!"


Moral Lesson: Always keep your condoms in your car!

In Mumbai, a man is going to jump off the building. Up rushes good Hindu cop to talk him down.

Cop yells up to the man "Don't jump! Think of your father"
Man replies "Haven't got a father; I'm going to jump."
The copy goes through a list of relatives, mother, brothers, sister, etc. Each time man says "haven't got one; going to jump."

Desperate the cop yells up "Don't jump! Think of Lord Krishna"

Man replies "Who is that?"

Cop yells "Jump, Muslim! You're blocking traffic!"

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Note:
converse it and it would run in Karachi; so no hard feelings

Tu cheese badi hai mast mast

I was waiting for somethings on 'maturity' and now Mr. Fearless has stepped in & has touched some of the voiceless thoughts i have been sensing.

Here are the 10 elements filtered outside of his powerful rhetoric. Worth a re-read since it touched a few nerves although bit late in my life.



Point 2: media feed - interesting cause media is owned by some 10 corporates in US & there are commercial ties with Indian media if not some cross shareholding.

quoting from an earlier post by Fearless



Seems like it's happening in India with the so called intellectuals
(generally leftists) eroding into our vast low income middle class
There is an attempt to break down a semi-monastic pilgrimage cause
women are not allowed - & some women lawyers have taken it to the
Supreme Court here citing violation of 'equal rights'



i just couldn't agree more. I don't want to blame psychologists but if we look up historical process:
a) religion being eroded: so what happens to religious values?
b) a vacuum is created - Disney (as an icon) feeds in

and c) in this prevailing vacuum inept psychologists legitimize
for what seems to them trivial adolescent behavior - give a quick fix.

I mean, psychologists & scientists studying mice transfer behavior to men in place of original thinkers & saints
and turning us all 2 legged mice. Gruesome

Point 5: Knowledge Discontinuity:


Point 6: Metamorphosis of Media as a toll for manipulation


Point 7: Politicians today are career politicians not patriots


In India, our one & only real problem is population growth. No politician or government wants to get in & handle this.

Point 8: Some of us are Jesters

don't quite agree; jesters are like tea break; adds value differently

Point 9: Duties from an implicit goal


Point 10: Meaningless life


Well Mr. Fearless, i don't know whether you will get lucky with the chocolate girls but what you have written is among the best in Mingle these recent days.

thank you for bringing a tough subject to fruit.

I would've heartily agreed with your conclusion as in the last line
having worked in 3 continents for few years but for one fact.

The process by which you arrived, Sir, appears flawed. Sounds more like Ted Cruz when he said that he would carpet bomb the Middle East, and find out "if sand can glow in the dark."

now here is the economists point of view:
the people who were moved out of Congo and Ivory Coast were transported on British, Dutch ships. America then had no ships.
sold to farmers in Virginia
who grew cotton & sold to Brits who operated the mills
which reduced the intake of Indian cotton significantly
and the textiles made in UK's mills were sold back to
India (the Brits had invented the 'gin')

similar thing with tobacco
the Imperial Tobacco Company (UK)
still runs their plant in Richmond Virginia
although shareholding pattern may have changed over years.
tobacco production dropped in India
British rolled cigarettes still sell in India
although shareholding pattern may have changed over years.

then some Americans threw the tea chests out to sea
and tea production dropped in India

we could start from here right up here
and go on up to WWII
because the real prize for Germans when they took the Island
would be overnight masters of the vast empire (including India).

my point is maybe less than 5% of Americans were the market
for slaves then.
and in the civil war, Virginia was totally burnt down for her 'sins'
apart from colossal loss of lives on both sides

These days of course no cotton farms not textile mills in US
comes from Bangladesh & China (ans a tiny bit from India)

the Chinese government works them as slave labor; don't last more than 45; i say these cause a friend of mine was in China 10 years ago.

i think its not done in industry; scared Dagwood may ask for a raise.

one thing i learnt from my old boss:
he wouldn't say 'you are an idiot'
just: 'how could you be an idiot'

world of a difference.

Back to topic:

is there anything about 'brain freeze'?

We read about how teenage brains reorganize by 21 to 'mature' brains
and then people don't appear to change much from that point...

there's some article on brain plasticity in older people
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/iage/201304/brain-plasticity-in-older-adults

its about how taxi drivers in UK learning road maps leading to
added neural capacity..

and we do realize that elders have a refined social / emotional
behavior.

Question is any deeper changes; like in attitude
due from increased maturity or so?

Actually was quite surprised to read on one of the links:



i think he's from UK, spelt socialization with an s.
"He talks about thousands of men and women not reaching this stage"
i was not so sure about that and then came your encapsulation



being new to behavioral science this sort of categorization helps.
which then brings us to 'maturity'

but at the risk of getting hammered down by my A. friends
i would like to take this discussion to current practical examples.

Ex. 1 A person can be a master in a field & quite naive in another
for instance i read about Dr. Carson being a specialist in
separating co-joined twins
He radiates impeccable ethics; a person anybody would trust
but in a political world being good is not enough

Note: you see the interesting thing about the Republican debate is / was the world got an intimate understanding of a spectrum of Americans
and can compare them with their own politicians:
know where our leaders are; so to speak

Ex.2: What i'm attempting to say is at some moral level & i'm not
interested if Hillary lied, etc.; but her campaign is sort of
'greed'. I don't hate women. I wouldn't make any comments on
Ms. Palin, Ms. Rice or Ms Albright - each make impression.

Ex. 3: My point is in today's world we do need a person experienced in evil only then he can handle evil & so Mr. T.

one thing i notice about Mr. T is willing to learn &
he is accountable;
has the wisdom to be accountable in world finance & affairs
all big hallmarks for a leader of the most power nation

he may throw out a few Indians; no problem
that's not evil; just business.

back to topic: evil learns; is intelligent & improves

but when ambition spills over to greed don't know what to call it
seriously neurotically evil or plain 'stpd'. <<shudder>>

from what i understand, Indians in US vote liberal
that's narrow.

sorry if your post got messed from science to politics
but end-of-day both are our life.

Was a light hearted joke.

Yes, it's a courageous post Msharmony has started.
overall yes, diversity brings a richness and a strength in
unexpected ways.

Of course with Bill on her side you people will have 2 for 1