So, back in october/november of last year, I met a guy on here. We exchanged some messages back and forth, and finally he called me randomly then we talked pretty much every day after that until we started going out on Nov. 18th. He's a marine in Japan, but originally lives about an hour from me. He came home for a month of leave in may, and it was amazing. We spent every day together, pretty much not ever leaving each other's side.

He proposed on our 6month anniversary (i said yes).

Everything was going great.

Then.. i found out he cheated on me with his ex-gf 2 days before he went back to Japan (it was the ONE night we werent together all 29 days..)

Somehow, I forgave him (and chewed him out for like 3 days straight, causing him to cry and have a few panic attacks..)
but I made it clear that he lost all my trust and it had to be re-earned. He said he'd be willing to do anything, that he didn't want to lose me and that "i could never know how sorry he was and how much of a monster he felt like he was."

and then last week I was talking to a few friends and they asked me if he still used online dating sites... I told them i didnt think so, but after he betrayed me once and lied a few times, how was I to know? well, we ran a search on here with his "zipcode" of where he lives in japan...and it found a profile that was started like a week prior to our searching for it.

I don't know what to think of it.. it was set to "looking for woman for activity partner"

and in his 'about me' it DID say he was engaged. but that was it. not happily taken, engaged, w/e. just "you might be wondering why an engaged man is on here, but don't dwell on that. I'm just tired of wanting help and never finding any. so if you think we can talk and you can offer a helping hand, message me."

:-/

i confronted him about it, and he openly admitted to having it and didnt think it was a problem. I don't want to be a controlling, b**chy fiancee, but i do see a problem with him wanting to talk to new girls so eagerly... am I wrong? I mean he's shown me i cant trust him right now. Idk.

argh

any advice?

get out while you can....if you look at a lot of these sites, this one included, there are married men looking for someone...you are better off knowing it now and not later....

Run... FAST!

i cant even find a man of my own let alone give you advice with yours...LOL...

I wish i could and i wish you the best of luck dealing witht his situation.....i dont have to say that i think it would be wrong for him to be looking for other women online for an activity partner though!!!!

Dump his sorry A$$ !

Sounds Like a Real Winner

Come on....do you really have to ask?

quickly and don't look back!

activity partner hmmmm what kind of activity Mr. Elvis The Pelvis?

Ever since I confronted him about it, he changed his 'about me' to simply "just looking for friends." and changed the searching for thing to looking for friendship.

I mean I understand him wanting friends, he lives on a base full of a lot of military assholes and is 6000 miles away from home...but he could have gone about it a whole other way and I just.. i dont know.

It shouldn't hurt to love someone

Honey you have to do what your heart tells you...

What I personally would do? END IT! He clearly KNEW what he was doing the night before he left with his ex gf. He didn't give you a second thought before he slept with her. And NOW putting up a profile on a site looking for "activity".. he'll be cheating on you AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN..

He obviously will always be a cheater. Don't marry him because it is easy to get married but very hard to get out of it. End it now before you get hurt worse.

And where are you ? on a dating site too. So I guess you already dumped him.

Sounds like he's always got an excuse ready. A relationship can't survive without trust. You have to decide - Does he deserve your trust?

there are also married women preying

There was one this afternoon complaining it is not fair not being able to wipe out the profile as it is causing her relationship an anguish

I used to be in the military... For some... not all... the whole point of leave... is to screw as much as humanly possible. That's one reason I wasn't proud to be a soldier.

Ain't that the truth!

I wouldn't Follow Your Heart Cause it will tell You You Love Him. Kick Him to the Side.

i had my page empty until i saw he started his, and got on it to message his account showing him i found it. and then my friends said if he can get online here to find 'friends' you should too, just to see how he'd react to it. *shrug*

I hope he reads your blog.