Topic: Lost cause?
ndragon's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:08 AM
Does anyone else get the feeling that finding a relationship is a lost cause?

I want to find that illusive "true love" , but with all of the things I want I know it's a 1 in a million chance.

I have a kid and dont wanna move, bu what are the chances of find a guy that is famiy oriented, willing to move to the middle of no where, and be that one true love. lol like I said 1 in a million (maybe billion). :)

flame1cutie's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:22 AM
Welcome ndragon, don't give up just yet. Stick around, you never know what will happen. Give it a chance.flowerforyou bigsmile

bastet126's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:25 AM
as long as there's 1...there's still a chance flowerforyou

ndragon's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:34 AM
it's just frustrating..you see good looking guys on here, good profiles, but they are 6 states away. No one really close that seems to be appealing.

RJR1's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:34 AM

as long as there's 1...there's still a chance flowerforyou


True!! I found my 1.

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Fri 07/04/08 11:42 AM
Bingo drinker

Puffins1958's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:42 AM
I think it is very hard to find true love here, and if by chance that you do...it is rare. I talked to someone for over 6 months...everyday for hours at a time. He was not the man that I thought he was when we met. Needless to say, we no longer talk to one another.

It's his loss...............

ndragon's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:49 AM

I think it is very hard to find true love here, and if by chance that you do...it is rare. I talked to someone for over 6 months...everyday for hours at a time. He was not the man that I thought he was when we met. Needless to say, we no longer talk to one another.

It's his loss...............

I did the same thing.

Here's another ? for you people actually reading this. :) We talked everynight for hours. He came to stay with me for a couple of weeks. Knew him in high school and his family is here. He is having a few life challenges, but things weren't working so I told him he needed to go stay with his family. The morning he was supposed to leave he e-mailed me pretty much telling me that he had a loaded gun in his hand and the only reason he wasn't going to pull the trigger was cause he would wake my son up. Now I took that very badly and haven't talked to him since then. Would you have done the same thing?

Drivinmenutz's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:57 AM
The internet is a good way to meet people. As is actually going out and meeting people. :wink: Try a little social networking. It's VERY effective. I'm sure the best looking guys in your area have never signed up for a dating site. Anyway, another helpful piece of advise to to not look so hard. Make your goal just meeting potential friends. When you are "looking" for a relationship you set off a lot of subconcious red flags. Another peice of advice.... SMILE!!! Studies show that by merely smiling people will be 50% more likely to be attracted to you.flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

ndragon's photo
Fri 07/04/08 11:59 AM
I actually just wanted to find local people to BBQ with. It's no fun BBQ'ing with myself. :)

feralcatlady's photo
Fri 07/04/08 12:00 PM
I say come to the Matchmaking Game...I have found many their true loves....

Honestly also....I firmly believe that every person has their soulmate....and when it's time...It just is....

Puffins1958's photo
Fri 07/04/08 12:00 PM

I did the same thing.

Here's another ? for you people actually reading this. :) We talked everynight for hours. He came to stay with me for a couple of weeks. Knew him in high school and his family is here. He is having a few life challenges, but things weren't working so I told him he needed to go stay with his family. The morning he was supposed to leave he e-mailed me pretty much telling me that he had a loaded gun in his hand and the only reason he wasn't going to pull the trigger was cause he would wake my son up. Now I took that very badly and haven't talked to him since then. Would you have done the same thing?

You cannot ever be responsible for what someone else does. Believe me when I tell you....you don't need the GUILT!!!!

feralcatlady's photo
Fri 07/04/08 12:09 PM
I think very selfish and desperate on his part....and just so very wrong to do. And because the arrogant jerk said this with the person he knew there that meant the most to you.....is so truly beyond pathetic to me. I think I would of honestly said....ok I am coming wait for me....gone over and taken your son and while walking out the door.....say ok go ahead now if thats what you want.....

Because imo anyone who thinks taking their own life is the answer......It's not...it's the chicken **** way out.

And if it was for the drama.....again he looses.

RJR1's photo
Sat 07/05/08 10:46 AM


I think it is very hard to find true love here, and if by chance that you do...it is rare. I talked to someone for over 6 months...everyday for hours at a time. He was not the man that I thought he was when we met. Needless to say, we no longer talk to one another.

It's his loss...............

I did the same thing.

Here's another ? for you people actually reading this. :) We talked everynight for hours. He came to stay with me for a couple of weeks. Knew him in high school and his family is here. He is having a few life challenges, but things weren't working so I told him he needed to go stay with his family. The morning he was supposed to leave he e-mailed me pretty much telling me that he had a loaded gun in his hand and the only reason he wasn't going to pull the trigger was cause he would wake my son up. Now I took that very badly and haven't talked to him since then. Would you have done the same thing?


I definitely would've done the same thing. Childish.