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yea--ldr is hard but--it's improving a lot better if the contact were made daily--i'm still with blonderockermom daily--i bought her the flight ticket and she came--great times--then later on i flew to meet her--another great times-- but yea it can happens--so i'm moving up there soon-to be with her--  AWWWWWWWWWWW that's GREAT! HAppy for you two!  
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yea--ldr is hard but--it's improving a lot better if the contact were made daily--i'm still with blonderockermom daily--i bought her the flight ticket and she came--great times--then later on i flew to meet her--another great times-- but yea it can happens--so i'm moving up there soon-to be with her-- I am so glad to hear that! I miss her posts.... |
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I have one bit advise to give any LDR couples. Especially those that meet on line. Don't stay on the site unless you are individually strong as well as a couple...This is why. I have been doing the matchmaking Game for almost a year now. This is my observation. A man/woman will not get the time of day but as soon as there hooked up in come the vultures wanting to tear them apart. Now if you not strong individual and as a couple then they can rip you apart. And if you don't make a pact.....that if anyone says jack diddly you go to each other first and ask don't just assume what they say is truth. I have not only seen this happen but in one instance told him it was going to happen and who was going to do it. As you know i am in a LDR and i met her online. Previous to her i was in other online relationships. I have never had any of these 'vultures' trying to tear us apart. People that experience this are often just up to things they shouldnt and deserve it, or they are after some attention and twist things people say to make drama out of nothing. well on the vultures side I agree....they were drama all over the place. But I have seen it over and over again. I will give you another example. I had one guy that I adored he was just a gem of a man...He was in the game for 20 games. And I them made a post. How sweet, kind, and the best flirt ever. You guessed it....all of the sudden all the ladies wanted him. Explain that one? People want what they think they can't have....perhaps?  or does someone just become more attractive if someone else recognises them as attractive??? Yes and Yes......and the lurkers and the watchers....yes yes And when I did the post before it was more people going behind the scenes and bashing one of the couple...or saying utter crap.....and that's where communication is the key.....and the couple sticking together and coming to each other when that happens. I even saw the scenario with my 16 year old. Her best friend since 2nd grade.....never thought of him as anything but a friend...But he got a girlfriend and then she wanted him. I sat down with her and had a long long talk on how wrong this was. |
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btw--thanx for the reading--
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People want what they think they can't have....perhaps? or does someone just become more attractive if someone else recognises them as attractive??? Dear you need not worry about me leaving for someone else, you are my baby, end of story. |
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awwwwwww
I am glad that you two found your way back........... |
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yanno....nobody said a word to me....
but when we started flirting in the threads.....she was hit with all sorts of negative emails....... kinda funny how people think......~~~~"if Im not happy you shouldnt be either!!"~~~ I'm glad we knew it was going to happen before it did......No it wasnt that much easier, but it made us stronger!! |
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Moreover, why would I want to start from squar one with someone else? Pretty illogical.
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yanno....nobody said a word to me.... but when we started flirting in the threads.....she was hit with all sorts of negative emails....... kinda funny how people think......~~~~"if Im not happy you shouldnt be either!!"~~~ I'm glad we knew it was going to happen before it did......No it wasnt that much easier, but it made us stronger!! |
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Edited by
bad_girl
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Thu 09/04/08 05:45 PM
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The key to a successful LDR is trust, honesty and communication. Don't let other people poison you, have faith in each other and most important, never listen to what other people have to say.
Talk to each other before you let someone screw with you 
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Moreover, why would I want to start from squar one with someone else? Pretty illogical. 'specially when you have tried my HOT WINGS! I don't want no one else either baby...I don't think anyone would say I don't LOVE you bunches and bunches! 
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BTW you two
CONGRATULATIONS 
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yanno....nobody said a word to me.... but when we started flirting in the threads.....she was hit with all sorts of negative emails....... kinda funny how people think......~~~~"if Im not happy you shouldnt be either!!"~~~ I'm glad we knew it was going to happen before it did......No it wasnt that much easier, but it made us stronger!! prolly the same people too!!! Rose is actually in georgia for 2 weeks....maybe her an angel should compare notes!!! 
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The key to a successful LDR is trust, honesty and communication. Don't let other people poison you, have faith in each other and most important, never listen to what other people have to say. Talk to each other before you let someone screw with you ((((((((merle))))))))) Your the poster couple for it working....gigglesnort |
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LDR's still not for me
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I'm sure there are LDR's that work... however when I read this thread I am reminded of a few that were on here and really went awry.
There was one with person A who was a fake profile and person B. Person B came out and said that person A was a fake B was then demonized and treated REALLY badly. A finally came out and apologized to everyone and told the story of why they did it... Person B was still the demon in the situation. I myself had talked to a man on here, I thought it was friendly, he asked me to come out and visit, it was somewhere I had never been and I stated to him, "we would have seperate rooms right?" I was assured that yes we would and that it was a friendly visit and all of a sudden I was in a relationship with him... then when his true colors showed I refused to be treated that way he demonized me and I got more hate mail than usual and was stalked through the threads by his crownies. There is a couple on here now in a LDR and both of them have fake profiles they flirt with others so the other person doesn't know, and one day both of them were flirting with the other one's fake profile.... NOW THAT WAS SOME FUNNY SH*T RIGHT THERE. I know all about lillith's story... yes he was a good deceiver... he had me fooled for a minute. I have talked to men who are in LDR's and it starts out friendly and it turn sour quickly... I don't want another woman's man... I barely want one of my own for that matter. If you have one great, I hope it works out for you... but for me... NO WAY IN HELL |
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LDR's still not for me They aren't for everyone Pats..and it is real good for you to stick to that if you think not. |
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Edited by
feralcatlady
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Thu 09/04/08 06:48 PM
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I'm sure there are LDR's that work... however when I read this thread I am reminded of a few that were on here and really went awry. There was one with person A who was a fake profile and person B. Person B came out and said that person A was a fake B was then demonized and treated REALLY badly. A finally came out and apologized to everyone and told the story of why they did it... Person B was still the demon in the situation. I myself had talked to a man on here, I thought it was friendly, he asked me to come out and visit, it was somewhere I had never been and I stated to him, "we would have seperate rooms right?" I was assured that yes we would and that it was a friendly visit and all of a sudden I was in a relationship with him... then when his true colors showed I refused to be treated that way he demonized me and I got more hate mail than usual and was stalked through the threads by his crownies. There is a couple on here now in a LDR and both of them have fake profiles they flirt with others so the other person doesn't know, and one day both of them were flirting with the other one's fake profile.... NOW THAT WAS SOME FUNNY SH*T RIGHT THERE. I know all about lillith's story... yes he was a good deceiver... he had me fooled for a minute. I have talked to men who are in LDR's and it starts out friendly and it turn sour quickly... I don't want another woman's man... I barely want one of my own for that matter. If you have one great, I hope it works out for you... but for me... NO WAY IN HELL I remember some of those lily....and I wish I would of known you before lilith's messed with my puter......I might have to use you lily to hone my instinct skills cuz that one totally had me buffaloed grrrrrr |
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I think its important to distinguish a LDR from an online relationship.
My relationship is a REAL one, not an online one, although we did meet on the internet. We dont need the internet any longer to keep in touch or carry on as we are. When the relationship is still just at the online stage(i.e before the people have met) people should be a lot more cautious as they cant really know whether the person they are talking to is really as they appear. It can be hard enough to know this when you HAVE met them! I have been in online relationships, and i'd never get in one again. I dont think people should really aim higher than friendships until there has been a meeting. From my experience of being in these relationships and seeing many many people go through them too, the odds of them actually working and becoming a proper real relationship are pretty damn low. |
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I agree dan totally....If it doesn't go to that meet level...I really don't comprehend just an on line relationship.....
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