Feral- I really understand people and human nature, and when something is off I see it from a mile away...



that is unless I am personally involved in the situation.... then I'm dumber than a box of rocks.... USUALLY.

I dated a sociopath for a year and a half.... and didn't have a clue. (yes, a sociopath.... in prison diagnosed with it) that taught me the best lessons about people I ever learned.

and Dan I agree if you no longer need the internet to "be" with them, it changes the rules a bit...

The funny part is people tell me that all the time and when I say "hey it's like this" they don't listen and then come back to tell me how they got dooped....hhhhmmmm REALLY??? Shocking.

I thought I did to Lily it's what I do. I read people....So for me when I get dupped it's so fricking annoying. But I never thought of it the way you said it...When your involved in the situation and then a light bulb moment.


And so what ever happen that you said no more with the sociopath?

I too tell people if I give you advise and you do it your way...which is fine...I don't want you to come back all whaaa whaaa whaa......and I promise I will never say I told you so.

And another thing..

DO NOT even THINK about falling in love with someone you have met online if you have never seen them on webcam.

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!

Just dont do it.

If they dont own a webcam, make then get one. If they say they cant afford one, buy one and send it to them.

Pictures are only so much proof, phone calls only prove the sex of the person.

He broke into my house after an arguement....He's in prison til January of 09.

You're a better woman than me, because I do say "I told you so" and follow it up with "don't cry to me about it"

Gee...............I guess Jon and I being together in a relationship for over a year and being 2,558 miles apart don't count.

j/k

Real life sucks. I'm gonna put up a fake profile and live an alternate cyber life.

I think you just got to pay special attention to detail when having an online relationship. I see woman getting alll goo goo eyed over profiles that don't even have a pic of the person! Something is odd there....if it seems oddd...it probably is odd.

why is that odd???
alot of people have asked for pics and I have given it to them........I just dont care to have some weirdo ,that I dont even know masterbating to my pic !!!

also I am going through a custody battle and I will not do anything that will jeopordize that!!!
jmo!!!

1 in a million

missing my peccy

We are just people in love trying to beat the odds. I hope we do. But, I'm also working to help make that happen. Hope without effort is fruitless.



Very true - still VERY NICE of you to share the knowledge the two or you have learned with others on JSH/mingle2 in regards to long distance relationships............I am certain there are MANY who can use the advice, even if they aren't "'fessing" up to being involved in a long term relationship........

I think that the #1 is that one has to be ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that this person is the one for them..........and that entails all which you have said in your advice/helpful hints....OPEN COMMUNICATION & HONESTY........always plays one of the most important parts in any relationship...

Best of luck to you both...

...and I think Feralcat's warning should be heeded...some people really can't stand to see other's make it. I am happy for any and all couples who can beat the odds.

Patsfan

they don't work. If a man lives over 10 minutes away, he figures he can screw around when you're not there and it won't hurt you as long as you don't know about it. I had a ld bf for 5 months and when I realized he was screwing around and lying about it, I broke it off. He was doing it the whole time. It was kinda sickening when I realized he had been screwing his 16 yr old neighbor. I saw her going into the house across the street with short shorts and spiked black heels one Friday when I showed up for our weekend visit. I commented about the 14 yr old across the street that was dressed like a hooker and he said "she's not 14, she's 16." that's when I knew.

if a man (or a woman) is going to cheat on you, he's gonna cheat on you, i don't think the distance matters.

surely you can't expect to follow him around all day, even if he lived in town, so there will be times when 'you're not there'. i'd hate to live my life that paranoid and assumptive.

Trust trust trust. In your significant other, in yourself and in your gut instincts.

In the very beginning of an LDR right now. Only a 4 hour drive between us, but a deployment will happen in the future. Shudder! However, I think he might be worth it.

Side note=It was not an online meet per se, it is an old friend from HS. I connected with his sister (who was also a friend back then), he contacted me when he was stateside. And the rest is history in the making.

M

I am missing my Angel too